Aromantic Celebrities/Youtubers

[SamwiseLovesLife]

Hi lovely people (and non-people)

 

I would love to hear which real people (not characters) in the media, celebrities, youtubers, etc you know or think to be Aromantic.

Do you think they give good reprisentation and why?

 

Two youtubers I've come across are simply kenna and Lauren Harkins, I haven't watched much from either of them but both are cis girls (Lauren prefers to be seen as a girl than woman) and have channels dedicated to vlogging/beauty.

[Louis On Air]

Me

[brsajo]

^bhim

[Louis On Air]

1 minute ago, brsajo said:

^bhim

that was sneeky breeki

[SamwiseLovesLife]

I actually really like this video by Lauren Harkins

https://youtu.be/xO3ZNw_Eqo4

 

**She's Asexual Aro** I feel like it makes things very clear in a humerous way

[Ettina]

Chandler is demiromantic.

[techno]

Jonah (youngblossom) is aromantic and asexual.

[Zema]

The author of the webcomic "Anti-social media" (who goes by the name "Yuu") on Tapas is Pansexual and Aromantic.

Her comic has only touched on her experiences of being aro a few times so I can't really judge how good of a representation of being aro she is.

[SamwiseLovesLife]

2 hours ago, Zemaddog said:

The author of the webcomic "Anti-social media" (who goes by the name "Yuu") on Tapas is Pansexual and Aromantic.

Her comic has only touched on her experiences of being aro a few times so I can't really judge how good of a representation of being aro she is.

This is such an awesome picture Do you have a link for her stuff?

[brsajo]

32 minutes ago, SamwiseLovesLife said:

This is such an awesome picture Do you have a link for her stuff?

https://tapas.io/series/Anit-Social-Media

http://yuushiki.tumblr.com/

https://www.instagram.com/yuushiki_art/

https://www.youtube.com/c/YuuArts

 

[SamwiseLovesLife]

23 hours ago, brsajo said:

https://tapas.io/series/Anit-Social-Media

http://yuushiki.tumblr.com/

https://www.instagram.com/yuushiki_art/

https://www.youtube.com/c/YuuArts

 

I just read the valentines one.. It's pretty amazing

 

I love how non gender conforming it is. Depicting a normal relationship = Lesbians. Woman (wearing skirt and bow) = is bald. No explination. Just awesome.

[Ettina]

Oh, and Blue Phoenix Ace. Don't forget him!

[hippiecat]

I love both simply_kenna and Lauren Harkins  they're the most relatable youtubers for me personally

[aro_elise]

youngblossom is aro/ace.  They have separate videos about each identity.  I came across another youtuber who I'm pretty sure was gray-aro and heterosexual but I can't find her. 

[Treehugger]

I love Lauren Harkins she's so great. She's so optimistic and is so unique. I think also Ricky Dillon may be aro ace I watched a video of him talking about it but I could be mistaken. 

[NullVector]

On 15/05/2017 at 3:19 PM, SamwiseLovesLife said:

Lauren prefers to be seen as a girl than woman

I just watched some and the first 30 seconds of her GIRL, NOT WOMAN video is perfection 

[Lex Barringer]

Searching for celebrities or other notable people that are of the aromantic orientation doesn't really seem like a worthy cause. To those who are celebrities and other notables, should they choose to talk about it, it's one thing but it's not at all about "representing", that's just garbage.

 

Representing is just a boastful way to get in peoples' faces about our orientation, that doesn't actually help us, rather it creates more trouble for us down the line. I look at it as immaturity, in the same light and to the tune of Aromantic Pride parades. I don't feel the need to toot my horn for being aromantic; it just is.

 

Instead of identifying others in the mass media who are of a certain orientation, just let it go, be you're own person. What celebrities say and do in public are often times not what they are behind closed doors. Just be aware of this. Besides, you should use celebrities as your role model anyhow, that's a bad idea, regardless of orientations. They are put under undue stressors and horrible scrutiny, you don't need to add to it by identifying with that person because of their orientation. Be a real person, a real friend, forget about the orientations, go forward.

 

How do I know this information about celebrities? I know several of them, not just in the United States but around the world. They deserve to be treated like human beings and not used for slogans or "representing" a specific cause, etc. will I name drop? No.

 

[NullVector]

4 hours ago, Lex Barringer said:

Representing is just a boastful way to get in peoples' faces about our orientation, that doesn't actually help us, rather it creates more trouble for us down the line. I look at it as immaturity, in the same light and to the tune of Aromantic Pride parades. I don't feel the need to toot my horn for being aromantic; it just is.

 

Hmm. You got me thinking about "representation". What is it? Is it needed? Etc. Does it make sense to be "proud" of being aromantic? Perhaps not. I didn't put any effort into "achieving" it, after all. It's an orientation, something innate, as I understand it. I'm not "proud" of having brown eyes, for example.

 

I still think aromantic representation can be helpful, but it probably works best when it's as a "by the way..." rather than a "look at me!" statement. What do I mean by that? I admire people for certain talents or qualities that they've worked hard to cultivate. The admiration stems from wanting to cultivate similar things within myself. So it's more an admiration of something the person has done or become, rather than something the person is innately. But I think it helps here to have acknowledgment within popular culture (and just culture in general) that aromantics are equally capable of cultivating worthy human qualities. Equally valid as humans. This is where "by the way..." statements can help, I think. For example: "I make beautiful art, look! (by the way, I'm aromantic)"; "I'm involved in this really cool research project, look! (by the way, I'm aromantic)". Etc. Perhaps that's all this thread is about? Identifying people who are likable for various reasons (personality, achievements, whatever) but just happen to be aromantic? So that everyone can go "oh, right, aromantics are just people like me too".

[Lex Barringer]

4 hours ago, NullVector said:

 

Hmm. You got me thinking about "representation". What is it? Is it needed? Etc. Does it make sense to be "proud" of being aromantic? Perhaps not. I didn't put any effort into "achieving" it, after all. It's an orientation, something innate, as I understand it. I'm not "proud" of having brown eyes, for example.

 

I still think aromantic representation can be helpful, but it probably works best when it's as a "by the way..." rather than a "look at me!" statement. What do I mean by that? I admire people for certain talents or qualities that they've worked hard to cultivate. The admiration stems from wanting to cultivate similar things within myself. So it's more an admiration of something the person has done or become, rather than something the person is innately. But I think it helps here to have acknowledgment within popular culture (and just culture in general) that aromantics are equally capable of cultivating worthy human qualities. Equally valid as humans. This is where "by the way..." statements can help, I think. For example: "I make beautiful art, look! (by the way, I'm aromantic)"; "I'm involved in this really cool research project, look! (by the way, I'm aromantic)". Etc. Perhaps that's all this thread is about? Identifying people who are likable for various reasons (personality, achievements, whatever) but just happen to be aromantic? So that everyone can go "oh, right, aromantics are just people like me too".

 

Sure, I see what you're getting at but most people don't go out of their way to say, "Oh, by the way, I'm aromantic", unless someone is hitting on them or making them feel uncomfortable in that certain way that alloromantics are so good at. I guess the easiest way to put this is, don't interject romanticism or aromanticism where it doesn't actually belong or attributable to a given project.

 

Now, let's say there is an anthropological, psychological and sociological study of the various orientations and attractions, including but not limited to; aesthetic, romantic, and sexual; sure by all means put it out there that you're aromantic. There are times when you should say it and times when it's unappropriate or at the very least it'sdown right awkward. Letting people know that you're aromantic at the wrong time or when they're clearly not ready can be a bit off putting and too much of a shock for some. Believe me, I been in all these situations before, in my youth. I made some major social faux pas back then.

 

I got into psychology, psychiatry and sociology later on in life; it wasn't until then that I realized how much I torqued people because of how I was putting myself across. Recognizing people in our popular culture that identify like us is one thing or we think they are by their own public admission, as it's hard to see if it's real or a publicity stunt. Aromantics shouldn't feel they need to synch up to popular culture, just being ourselves can gain noteriety if done correctly.

 

What I'm really talking about it identifying sore spots within your own ego, examining them, figuring out why it hurts, what compels / draws you to associate with popular culture icons that are like us instead of just doing your own thing not caring if what aromanticism and aromantics become a buzzword or not.

 

I do agree that aromanticism should be talked about openly but by not being brash or in popular culture sense because people who actually control it are all about the money. How they can market schlock to you and people like us by rebranding products and services they used on other orientations and segments of population. One of the biggest offenders in this arena is Viacom, as they own M-TV, VH-1, etc.

[Holmbo]

On 2017-10-28 at 5:33 PM, Lex Barringer said:

 

Sure, I see what you're getting at but most people don't go out of their way to say, "Oh, by the way, I'm aromantic", [...]

Maybe more people should

[techno]

 

[Storm_leopardcat]

Jaiden Animations! Is both Aromantic and Asexual!

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

I don't know if anyone will see these suggestions, but here are some aromantic/a-spec creatives primarily on YouTube!

 

David J. Bradley (He/They) (UK) video essayist | Bradley is non-binary and aromantic asexual, and he has done several videos exploring aromanticism, asexuality, and more recently being transgender, not only in relation to themselves but within media as well. There are other video topics that he has done, ranging from conversations about fascism to gushing over Frankenstein, and is a channel worth looking into if you like video essays.

(https://youtube.com/@davidjbradley?si=fUPnjUAK-xvX4wL2)

 

Fluently Aspec (He/Him) (US) a-spec educationalist and queer activist | Fluently Aspec, a.k.a Patrick Bex, is aromantic (specifically cupioromantic) and asexual, and his videos consist of educational and advocacy content regarding being aromantic and asexual, both of the communities' spectrums, and the many stigmas and misconceptions placed onto the a-spec community. Bex's activism started within 2020 but peaked with a great milestone in 2022 when a successful petition for Ace Week made this week of pride become formally recognized within the State of Wisconsin. Bex owns a website and has recently released a poetry book called Limitless about his own aromantic and asexual discovery.

(https://youtube.com/@fluentlyaspec?si=lNZknYPvPTnuZgPu)

 

Nik Hampshire (He/Him) (US) model, photographer, and influencer | Hampshire is aromantic allosexual and whose videos are filmed in a sit-down-and-talk style, where he goes over his own experiences in being aroallo, what it's like navigating relationships (specifically platonic and/or sexual ones) as an aromantic, discussing what his personal feelings are in regards to him belonging to the queer community, all the while emphasizing the importance in differentiating between aromanticism and asexuality.

(https://youtube.com/@nikhampshire?si=ooEpXQ04FBxS1R_w)

 

Mathwiz (She/Her) (US) gamer and video essayist | Mathwiz is a trans woman who is aro-spec/gray-spec and lesbian, and she has created several videos going over her experiences in all three identities (she is a relatively recent discovery of mine at the time of writing this and I have completely "fallen in love" with her dry sense of humor). She has videos ranging from introspective pieces in anime to queer analysis, and she also manages several other channels dedicated to wrestling, gaming, and discussions.

(https://youtube.com/@mathwizhq?si=Qtjjy_3xsoZXatdQ)

 

 

And here are a few miscellaneous videos related to aromanticism that I found quite enjoyable:

The A is NOT For Ally | Aromantic Memes - Jammidodger

boyfriend? NO THANKS! | Aromantic Memes - OneTopic

Holmes and Watson being soulmates (and iconic) - B

ashy boy being an aromantic/aroace icon icon for 2 mins - PoofBiscuit

An Aromantic Cupid [Original Song | Yellow Rose] - Ros Mo

koisenu futari being aroace for 3.5 minutes [compilation] - garden

Isaac being an aroace icon - GeGe Ai Ni

Edited December 11, 2024 by The Newest Fabled Creature

[tiger_hoods12]

I’m surprised Yasmin Benoit hasn’t been mentioned. She’s a writer, model, and activist. She’s an asexual and aromantic activist that actively works to destigmatize both labels. She explains why we need to challenge amatonormativity and become more open as a society. Love her! 💕

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

13 hours ago, tiger_hoods12 said:

I’m surprised Yasmin Benoit hasn’t been mentioned. She’s a writer, model, and activist. She’s an asexual and aromantic activist that actively works to destigmatize both labels. She explains why we need to challenge amatonormativity and become more open as a society. Love her! 💕

Yes! Love her so much! I had assumed someone had already posted about her in this thread, but I guess not. She's amazing!