Prejudice against aro/aces

[Ettina]

Just found this video. Don't be scared off by the title - it's ironic.

 

 

[SoulWolf]

Watching this made me glad I'm not in the US... hardly anyone talks about sex over here (South Africa). So I could mostly ignore it growing up.

[Philbo Wiseroot]

Just now, SoulWolf said:

Watching this made me glad I'm not in the US... hardly anyone talks about sex over here (South Africa). So I could mostly ignore it growing up.

Similar situation here once you've left school at 16. But the sex is strong until then.

9 hours ago, Ettina said:

Just found this video. Don't be scared off by the title - it's ironic.

 

 

This was a good video. "Claustrophobic" is a good way to describe being ace I think. And especially being aro.

[aussiekirkland]

He really copped the bad end of the obsession with relationships at school. I feel lucky that none of this ever happened to me.

[Holmbo]

It's good that kids nowdays can watch such clips and understand the whole spectrum of sexuality and romantic attraction. 

I'm curious how the sexual education in the schools in my country has changed since I had it, 10 years ago. Back then there was definitely LGB included but I remember it as very gender binary and of course no mention of the absence of romantic or sexual attraction. 

[Philbo Wiseroot]

11 minutes ago, Holmbo said:

I'm curious how the sexual education in the schools in my country has changed since I had it, 10 years ago.

I'm curious too. For me, it was very much male-focused (even with girls in the room) and very heteronormative. We were taught what various STD symptoms look like (on men) and how to put a condom on. No mention of us QUILTBAGs at all.

[Louis On Air]

My PSE sex ed was how to apply condom for man to woman or man to man with all female contraceptives being ingested (apart from one mention of femedons). Also there are the gays and they exist in Kemp Town where there are many gays and 90% of you watch porn at least once a month.

[aussiekirkland]

7 hours ago, Holmbo said:

I'm curious how the sexual education in the schools in my country has changed since I had it, 10 years ago. Back then there was definitely LGB included but I remember it as very gender binary and of course no mention of the absence of romantic or sexual attraction. 

The sex education I had maybe 3 years ago (in Australia) was a lot more heteronormative than that. No mention of anything queer, did the condom on banana thing and an assignment where everyone studied a different form of contraception and presented it to the class. And almost all of them were female contraceptives, what a surprise.

 

We also had this super serious talk about age of consent laws since a lot of us were turning 16 that year (legal age in Australia). That was probably the worst part because everyone asked me about my boyfriend on my 16th birthday and it was really gross and invasive.

[Philbo Wiseroot]

10 hours ago, aussiekirkland said:

That was probably the worst part because everyone asked me about my boyfriend on my 16th birthday and it was really gross and invasive.

Why is asking about the sex life of a 16 year old a thing? I'm sorry

 

10 hours ago, aussiekirkland said:

And almost all of them were female contraceptives, what a surprise.

This is ! I've never heard of sex ed being female-focused. Ever! All "men are in charge and liable so you need to make sure you contracept so your girlfriend doesn't have to".

 

10 hours ago, aussiekirkland said:

We also had this super serious talk about age of consent laws since a lot of us were turning 16 that year

16 is also the legal age here. We had no such talk. At least, the boy-people didn't. Which is messed up even if the others did.

[Hey you in the corner]

19 hours ago, Holmbo said:

 I'm curious how the sexual education in the schools in my country has changed since I had it, 10 years ago. Back then there was definitely LGB included but I remember it as very gender binary and of course no mention of the absence of romantic or sexual attraction. 

My sex ed class was literally a half hour in which my teacher tried to studder the words "use a condom, but abstinence is better." we had no mention of sexual or romantic orientations. But she showed us a recipe to make meth because for some reason that made more sense to her.

 

My psychology teacher literally stopped his class and let us have an open question session with him when he found out because he wanted to make sure we had an understanding of how that shit works. 

[techno]

In my school's health classes we discuss a lot of sex ed topics. Last year we did projects and one of the topics was sexual orientation, and thankfully it was done by my friend who was the president of my school's GSA at the time so she actually did it really well and explained a whole bunch of stuff (gender, romantic orientations, aro and ace spectrums included!).

 

Except on our topic sheet for the semester it was listed as "alternative lifestyles."

 

I'm still cringing a year later.

[aussiekirkland]

1 hour ago, techno-trashcan said:

Except on our topic sheet for the semester it was listed as "alternative lifestyles."

 

I'm still cringing a year later.

 

That's so cringe. My "alternative lifestyle" is too good for the straights lmao

[Holmbo]

On 2016-12-19 at 10:32 AM, Kai Pufflehugs IV said:

Why is asking about the sex life of a 16 year old a thing? I'm sorry

In Sweden the median age of sex debut for women is 16. I remember being very conscious about this sort of thing at that age and "knowing" that 16 was a "deadline". Though the sex ed was trying to tell us that everyone is different and there is no time that is normal to go into puberty or to have sex, we all still "knew".

 

When I was on a high school year in the US I was surprised by how innocent most of the relationships seemed to be. Just going on dates and making out. They also seemed much less serious romantically. Like two people would date for a long time, then split up and a week later they'd be with other partners.

 

[SoulWolf]

I can't remember if we ever really had a sex ed class at school... I do remember there were some PSA-style announcements that teachers made at times, like, "don't have sex before marriage" (conservative town/country), and I was rolling my eyes thinking "yeah, right, as if anyone here would actually have sex with each other"... 

 

... they probably were though. Thinking back with that in mind, it's kind of disturbing.