Can you be fully aro and polyamorous?

[MondoBilby]

I was wondering because all the descriptions I see of polyamory describe it as being for romantic relationships with no mention of sexual relationships. I’m a non-partnering aro, but I’m quite intrigued by the idea of polyamory (not in romantic terms), and I was wondering if purely sexual polyamory was a thing? Unless that’s just “friends with benefits” or something.

Sorry if this is a silly or obvious question, I’m just confused 

Edited April 2 by MondoBilby

[Jot-Aro Kujo]

Yep

[Ghostflower]

It's not a silly question!  I agree with Jot-Aro Kujo :) You can do whatever you want forever, and while I don't have experience with the type of polyamory that you're describing, I'm sure that many people out there do! 🌟

[P4R4D0X]

8 hours ago, MondoBilby said:

sexual polyamory

why does polysexual not mean polyamory but in a sexual way

[MondoBilby]

Thanks for your answers guys, they helped a lot!

Also

10 minutes ago, P4R4D0X said:

why does polysexual not mean polyamory but in a sexual way

Ikr it really confused me when I saw it 😅 maybe the name could be changed to “trisexual” or something, and the old name could be used for this purpose. But I don’t mind either way, I’ll just say I’m poly but not the smooching kind lol

[P4R4D0X]

ohh so polysexual is the counterpart of polyromantic (like asexual to aromantic) 

polyamory is a synonym to polygamy (?)

Polygamy means multiple mating

Edited April 2 by P4R4D0X

[Holmbo]

I don't think the split attraction model has caught on among most polyamourus people. I think aros can fit well into a polyamourus relationship and it's valid to describe oneself as polyamourus. However you will need to clarify what kind of relationship you're more specifically open for. Which is good to do anyway.

I've also been exploring polya but I label myself as a relationship anarchist.

[aro_elise]

i feel the same way, like polyamory has connotations of involving at least one romantic relationship.  like i'm certainly not mono, so if my options are that or poly, i'm the latter, but when you add the option of non-partnering, i'm like, well, yeah.  i think "non-partnering and poly" would confuse most people lol

On 4/7/2024 at 5:37 AM, Holmbo said:

I've also been exploring polya but I label myself as a relationship anarchist.

same, i feel that makes more sense for me.

[.CORALINE.]

That's a good one, I see myself in it a lot! I think you can be polyamorous even though not in romantic terms, for example I have a special bond with a person but our relationship is open, we're free to meet other people and do whatever we want... I don't know if it's clear rhe way I told it but basically yeah I think the two things can co-exist.

[MondoBilby]

I've been reflecting on this topic a bit more, and reading the replies has solidified my opinion. I still have the same feelings as my original post, but I maybe won't use the label polyamorous for myself personally, because I think that my feelings don't require a label in order to be valid. I was confused about finding a label or term to describe these feelings I have, when the fact that I'm feeling them is already real enough.

Thanks for everyone's replies though, they're all very nice, and if someone else shares the same feelings as me and wants to use the term poly for themselves then that's 100% valid. Just not for me, at least right now.

On 4/7/2024 at 5:37 PM, Holmbo said:

I've also been exploring polya but I label myself as a relationship anarchist.

Yeah, if I had to use a label, it'd probs be this one lol

Edited May 27 by MondoBilby