Erederyn Posted May 1, 2021 Share Posted May 1, 2021 Hey all! So I've been working on a challenging amatonormativity guide and it is done, wooo. I'm posting this here because it is aimed at alloromantic folks (although could be useful for aros dealing with internalized amatonormativity). I'm hoping that allies that will use this guide in order to not only be better allies to aros, but to also actively challenge their own amatonormative standards. Feel free to share it, especially with people in your life who could benefit from learning about amatonormativity. And if there is anyone on the forums who consider themselves an ally to aros, please consider engaging with this material and spreading it in your circles. Challenging amatonormativity is not the responsibility of the aro community alone! https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/04/29/challenging-amatonormativity-a-beginners-guide/ 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vinniebandit Posted May 1, 2021 Share Posted May 1, 2021 This is nice. If it's OK with you, I'll attempt a French translation. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted May 1, 2021 Author Share Posted May 1, 2021 39 minutes ago, vinniebandit said: This is nice. If it's OK with you, I'll attempt a French translation. Thank you, that would be fantastic! I'm starting translator recruitments next week and will set up a folder sometime tomorrow. I'll send you the link once it's up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted May 20, 2021 Author Share Posted May 20, 2021 A French version is now available thanks to @vinniebandit and @Nessa! https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/05/20/challenging-amatonormativity-a-beginners-guide-translations/ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atrocious_ar0mantic Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 5/1/2021 at 4:05 AM, Erederyn said: Hey all! So I've been working on a challenging amatonormativity guide and it is done, wooo. I'm posting this here because it is aimed at alloromantic folks (although could be useful for aros dealing with internalized amatonormativity). I'm hoping that allies that will use this guide in order to not only be better allies to aros, but to also actively challenge their own amatonormative standards. Feel free to share it, especially with people in your life who could benefit from learning about amatonormativity. And if there is anyone on the forums who consider themselves an ally to aros, please consider engaging with this material and spreading it in your circles. Challenging amatonormativity is not the responsibility of the aro community alone! https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/04/29/challenging-amatonormativity-a-beginners-guide/ I can't emphasize enough how informative and well-executed this was 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted November 28, 2021 Author Share Posted November 28, 2021 12 hours ago, aroace_auncle said: I can't emphasize enough how informative and well-executed this was Thank you for your nice comment! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 This is cool. Would you consider posting it directly on the webpage as well? Cause I think it can be more accessible than only as a separate document. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted December 5, 2021 Author Share Posted December 5, 2021 1 hour ago, Holmbo said: This is cool. Would you consider posting it directly on the webpage as well? Cause I think it can be more accessible than only as a separate document. Thank you! I've now also added the text directly onto the post! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted December 13, 2021 Share Posted December 13, 2021 On 5/1/2021 at 9:05 AM, Erederyn said: Hey all! So I've been working on a challenging amatonormativity guide and it is done, wooo. I'm posting this here because it is aimed at alloromantic folks (although could be useful for aros dealing with internalized amatonormativity). I'm hoping that allies that will use this guide in order to not only be better allies to aros, but to also actively challenge their own amatonormative standards. Feel free to share it, especially with people in your life who could benefit from learning about amatonormativity. And if there is anyone on the forums who consider themselves an ally to aros, please consider engaging with this material and spreading it in your circles. Challenging amatonormativity is not the responsibility of the aro community alone! https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/04/29/challenging-amatonormativity-a-beginners-guide/ A couple of things which might be worth adding would be Mononormativity: the belief that exclusive dyadic relationships are the default, preferred, or normal mode of human relationships, especially intimate ones. Romantic Coding: the belief that certain activities and behaviours are an essential part of romantic relationships and should not happen in other forms of relationships. Other examples under "Structural/Institutional" Are social events, including those connected to employment, where attendance "with a partner" is the expectation or there is a substantial discount to tickers/membership for couples. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted December 14, 2021 Author Share Posted December 14, 2021 On 12/13/2021 at 2:04 PM, Mark said: A couple of things which might be worth adding would be Mononormativity: the belief that exclusive dyadic relationships are the default, preferred, or normal mode of human relationships, especially intimate ones. Romantic Coding: the belief that certain activities and behaviours are an essential part of romantic relationships and should not happen in other forms of relationships. Other examples under "Structural/Institutional" Are social events, including those connected to employment, where attendance "with a partner" is the expectation or there is a substantial discount to tickers/membership for couples. Nice suggestions, thank you! I'll try to incorporate them when I get the chance 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted December 15, 2021 Share Posted December 15, 2021 (edited) An issue with the Digging Deeper part is that many parts of it are rather US specific. Most obviously is health insurance reference. Imperialism and colonialism does not need to involve settlement or other forms of mass (even forced) migrations to change societies. Rather understated is the role religion, especially Christianity, in terms of colonialism. Marriage, including monogamous marriage, long predates romance. With romantic marriage and amantonormativity replacing arranged marriage. It's also notable as recently as the 19th century, maybe into the 20th, arranged marriage was still commonplace within Europe. A connection with "capitalism" fails to explain how amantonormativity exists within Eastern Europe, the former USSR and China. Edited December 18, 2021 by Mark 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted December 17, 2021 Author Share Posted December 17, 2021 On 12/15/2021 at 2:11 PM, Mark said: An issue with the Digging Deeper part is that many parts of it are rather US specific. Most obviously is health insurance reference. Imperialism and colonialism does not need to involve settlement or other forms of mass (even forced) migrations to change societies. Rather understated is the role religion, especially Christianity, in terms of colonialism. Marriage, including monogamous marriage, long predates romance. With romantic marriage and amantonormativity replacing arranged marriage. It's also notable as recently as the 19th century, maybe into the 20th. A connection with "capitalism" fails to explain how amantonormativity exists within Eastern Europe, the former USSR and China. Yeah, for sure. My intent was less so on a broad international perspectives because I wouldn't be able to capture all the different nuances. Some others have commented also about how amatonormativity is different in Eastern societies, for example, and that maybe the term isn't even truly appropriate outside of Western contexts anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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