LunarSeas Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Hey, so, I'm finding out about this aro stuff later in life...which is weird, let me tell ya. I'm 32, and for most of my life just thought I hadn't "settled down" which is a toxic idea, but that's another topic. Call me Luna, because that's been part of every online handle since forever for me. I have a toddler, bio dad not a part of our lives because he doesn't like work. At first I just thought, hey, I'm bitter, why wouldn't I be after three supremely shitty relationships in a row, but the more I sat with my feelings and thought back to when I was happy, I think I'm some kind of arospec. I can have brief strong attractions to people, but they're mostly sensual/sexual. I've had successful fwb set ups, where there was both real friendship and great sex. I kind of want that again, but not sure how to even approach that at my age, with a kid, and other stressful factors, just....ahh xP. So I'm mostly just figuring stuff out. I'm not even solid on my romantic orientation, so I put aroflux, but I don't know. We'll see.
omitef Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Hey! Welcome to Arocalypse, Luna--it's never too late to figure out anything. I can relate to the feeling of doubting your romantic orientation due to shitty past experiences; before identifying as lithro, I always thought I was insecure and had commitment issues, but the more research I did, the more I realised I definitely was arospec. I hope you'll be able to learn more about yourself and about being aro in this community.
Spud Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 Welcome to Arocalypse, Luna! I'm glad you found out that you were arospec. It seems that many people who had never heard of it before felt similar ways. I hope you can settle on your romantic orientation. Ice cream:
PerformativeSurprise Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 Welcome, Luna! Hope you enjoy it here!
aihpen Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 Hi Luna, welcome to Arocalypse! Figuring out that you have an aro spec orientation at your age is not that weird to me. It's not widely known, in fact I have never heard a single person in real life mention it, so it's not really surprising to me that you have found out at your age. Anyway, I hope you enjoy it here
Starry Sky Posted April 29, 2016 Posted April 29, 2016 Welcome to Arocalypse, Luna!! I hope you're enjoying being a member so far! Good luck on figuring things out!! : )
LunarSeas Posted April 29, 2016 Author Posted April 29, 2016 Thanks, everyone! I'm actually looking forward to figuring this stuff out. If anything, I'll make more sense to me.
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