Magni Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 (I started talking about this some in this discussion, but wanted to make new thread to elaborate on it more) Tertiary attraction is a term to describe forms of attraction other than romantic and sexual. This includes: Aesthetic, Alterous, Platonic, Queerplatonic, and Sensual. (wiki with basic description) I can't seem to find info on the exact origin of this term, but I know I've heard it around for a while. I acknowledge some people may dislike the term tertiary, but for simplicity's sake I will continue to use it unless another term is established/agreed upon. Criticisms of "tertiary" and my perspective 1. Some people do not see why there’s a need to group these different types of attraction. I think it is useful to be able to group them because: There’s a lot of overlap or blurred lines for people experiencing these types of attraction, and often people personally define them a bit differently These types of attraction are linked together as a group because they're generally more “invisible” than romantic and sexual; they've only really been established in aspec communities as we try and discuss the nuances of how we do experience attraction. This doesn’t mean they must always be grouped for everyone, but that it is useful to have terminology to describe them as a group rather than listing them out individually 2. Some people dislike the term because they feel like it implies these attractions are less important than romantic/sexual We can acknowledge that these attractions are relatively invisible compared to romantic and sexual attractions which are most widely known. I think it's more a statement of how visible/well known they are rather than of their importance Tertiary is also used to describe precise colors that aren’t strictly just one of the 6 “main” and most well known colors; this doesn’t mean these colors are less important, just that they’re more specific; generally they get rolled in with one of the more prominent colors. Similarly, these types of attraction generally aren’t acknowledged since most people fold them in as part of romantic/sexual attraction. How I personally experience tertiary attraction: I experience a mix of tertiary attractions in a way I would describe as demi; I often use demiplatonic to describe this for simplicity, but really it's more a mix of sensual, alterous, and queerplatonic attractions. I consider queerplatonic attraction to be kinda a mix of platonic, alterous, and sensual. These types of attraction are grouped for me because I only really feel a single strong attraction which is a group of all these things. I think people generally have different personal definitions of these types of attraction because people experience things differently and also when there is a mix of them people generally want to call it a singular thing rather than listing out multiple things. Developing Terminology: Oriented aroace: this has been becoming more popular recently; the oriented part would be based on how people experience tertiary attraction, and generally there seems to be more discussion recently about what other attractions people feel. (I know this term has had issues with excluding aroaces who experience some attraction, and I do not agree with it because I think it should be more inclusive. However, I would rather this thread not get derailed by discussing that controversy) I think we need a new term which has approximately this definition: A vague type of attraction which can be used to indicate an attraction/orientation which is not primarily romantic or sexual but which involves multiple types of tertiary attraction. (It is primarily for tertiary types of attraction, though aspec people who experience some romantic/sexual attraction can also use this including those types of attractions if they feel it describes their experiences since a lot of times types of attraction blur together). I personally would find this useful to describe the mix of attractions I experience. "tertiary attraction" doesn't fulfill this; I think we need a word parallel to romantic, platonic, alterous etc. which makes sense both as a type of attraction experienced and also as a base for identity labels I don't currently have any ideas for the word itself, just the definition People are encouraged to add more relevant terminology, these two are just the things which occurred to me. Questions/discussion topics/etc: the term "tertiary attraction" in and of itself, things people like or dislike about it, or questions about it Word suggestions for a vague umbrella type of attraction as I defined; also, suggestions for improvement of definition Other terminology/identities related to how people experience tertiary attraction Other things relating to tertiary attraction that I haven't included Question to get people thinking if needed: How would you describe the way you do or do not experience tertiary types of attraction? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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