Jump to content


  • Posts

  • Joined

  • Last visited

  • Days Won


Everything posted by Magni

  1. In high school, my friend group regularly had sleepovers whenever one of us had a birthday, so that kind of felt like a tradition/anniversary/friendship celebration thing, especially bc being invited to birthday sleepover by friend initially was kinda the start of being acknowledged as actively close friends rather than friendly acquaintances. Even if not exactly a public acknowledgement thing, having times to get together like that can be nice.
  2. am enjoying watching the ASAW fundraiser livestream AUREA is doing :)

  3. UCLAlgbtq (a college resource center) will be having a live stream for ASAW on Friday, here on their instagram. (link to tumblr post discussing it) (The graphic above mentions the event will be Friday February 26th from 12:00-1:00pm PST)
  4. I think there is an extent to which it can be impossible to separate out what is "innate" vs what is influenced by our experiences and other aspects of ourselves. Therefore, I conclude that the distinction doesn't or should not matter, people are what they are and what "caused" it isn't a distinction worth worrying about.
  5. Hmm, I've been exploring more different music recently, and specifically have listened to some more songs with aro vibes and stuff (aka finally actually listened to cavetown), so maybe I'll actually make aro-themed songs playlist, since ASAW seems like good opportunity/motivation to do something like that.
  6. I feel really hyped about aro week right now :)

    1. Spark_TheDemiboyRat


      Me too! It's the first time witnessing it, and I'm excited!!

  7. Aspec*German Team Discord & ASAW Chats (Disclaimer: I do not understand any german myself, the link with the source is entirely in german and my description is me paraphrasing the info that has been otherwise communicated to me. I am not able to describe it in german and do not want to blindly copy-paste stuff I do not understand, so I encourage people to help inform german speaking people they know who may be interested if possible) German speaking discord server They have plans for daily voicechats about aro topics This is the link to more info (which is in german) along with how to join the discord server
  8. February 21st Events (I figured it would make sense to highlight the things that are specifically happening earliest first) #AroCreatives (Feb. 21st) Event for aros to share their creative works, using the aforementioned hashtag Originated on and is primarily on Twitter (original link here); specifically to occur on February 21st (presumably to try and get it trending?) Can also be on other platforms, such as tumblr; here is tumblr post with more info about the event. (The graphic below is from the linked tumblr post) TAAAP Pride Chats(Feb. 21st-22nd) On February 21st-22nd is specifically a pride chat for ASAW February pride chat about amatonormativity will be February 27th-28th More info on TAAAP's pride chats this month & how to register can be found here
  9. (I made separate thread for ASAW Events/News as had mentioned earlier) To answer this actual thread, my plans for ASAW is mainly to help organize it. I really enjoy knowing about all the things that are happening and to try to spread that knowledge so other people know what's happening too! And there's many exciting things this year, the biggest aro week yet! And with fun events online to participate in :) I might end up doing some aro embroidery too....though, it's hard thinking of things to make bc I have embroidered so many aro patches already. I also had vague idea of like actively making posts on tumblr to show the embroidery things I have made, bc I generally show things off to people in discord and don't particularly think to share them on tumblr. I might do a little bit of shopping for aro pride things as well, I've generally been wanting aro pride dice since am d&d nerd and there's probably some enamel pins I would like to have. Pride gear stuff is very satisfying, much good aesthetic :)
  10. Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, y'all! This thread is to post about things happening in the aro community for/during ASAW. There's lots of exciting things this year, it's amazing seeing how much our community has grown in the last few years! I compiled a bunch of different things for this post on aromantic.lgbt. This includes general info, specific events, news articles, and information about the proclamations regarding ASAW (with many links to more details for all of the things). I will add onto this thread with some highlights, since that is more read-able on this platform than just a link to masterpost on different site. (and figured might make it easier for others to add on if I did not include a whole bunch of stuff in the intro of this thread). So yeah, feel free to post about any things that are happening for aro week, or to elaborate about specific things mentioned if you know more details!
  11. Hmmm, I was thinking of creating a thread for people to share events/articles/etc things going on for ASAW and then saw this. Do you think it would make more sense to include such things in this thread, or to make a separate thread?
  12. I am both aro and ace; I started identifying as such in when I was 15, which was around 2015 (I think both age and the year are interesting info pertaining to when started identifying as a-spec) I would also recommend that if you are trying to gather a reasonable sample size, a different format for collecting info might be better? A different post format on this forums is a poll, where you can start it with some questions and then people can also post additional comments if they wish. Here is a link to an existing poll to a) show the format of it on the forum and b) it is somewhat similar topic/the content might be of interest to you considering your own questions. Also, if you are interested in aro related research in general beyond conducting your own poll, at this link AUREA has a page for aro research so you might find something helpful there. Good luck with your project!
  13. Magni


    If the problem with biromantic & biplatonic both is more that they imply strictly romantic or platonic relationships respectively when you're looking more for something pertaining to qpr, you could instead do biqueerplatonic or panqueerplatonic. You could also do bialterous/panalterous, adding the relative pre-fix to any attraction/relationship type. Most of our labels are defined in terms of experiencing attraction because it is often simpler and indicates it to be more an innate quality of self rather than an active choice, though some people do identify with these labels for reasons other than attraction, based on what relationships they do or do not want, so you can still use any of these terms even if you don't necessarily link them to attraction/a squish. Queerplatonic is a good label because it is intended to be broad for relationships which don't fit into other clearly defined categories, and also the term is more closely linked to the type of relationship rather than necessarily an independent form of attraction. You can also use the prefixes on their own without a suffix, alongside other separate identity terms, though that might not be as concise/clear as you would want. If you want to explore more terminology in general, I recommend AUREA's glossary, found here.
  14. Making judgements against the validity of people's identities is not permitted. People identifying as non-sam aro/just aro is perfectly valid, people are allowed to identify in the way that is comfortable for them. This thread is locked because it was never a productive conversation so it is best to prevent escalation.
  15. Oh yeah a mood, fortunately I've mainly DM'd for groups of aro people (I have an aro d&d server with varying levels of activity) and in other groups I've always been out, but yeah that can be challenging. I once had a play-by-post game where then it ended up basically revolving around one player and their npc romantic partner roleplaying a lot so I ended up really disliking that game, and had conflict when there were vague plans for another pbp where I expressed concerns bc that kind of excessive focus on romantic stuff caused me a lot of romance repulsion and made me feel alienated from the game....and they completely disrespected my romance repulsion and made me feel unwelcome. Apparently, some people feel they are entitled to roleplaying romance in their d&d. You could also express discomfort with players about roleplaying romantic stuff without actually coming out? and like, possibly establish level of comfort (such as maybe saying yeah this happens vs. having to actually roleplay it out).
  16. That's a really good question, I'm not sure. I think it's theoretically a thing? Bc some people get crushes and date but like....they don't seem to actually like eachother as friends at all? But without some sort of platonic basis it seems unlikely for those kinds of relationships to last particularly long (in contrast, often when people get married they say they're marrying their best friend, bc there's a friendship aspect to their relationship). But it's really hard to be sure bc attractions are so nebulous to define.
  17. I relate....and have specifically had issues of friends just....not making time for me at all because once they started dating someone suddenly all their free time was occupied by their partner....even though had previous discussions with said friend that indicated them understanding the value I put on friendship such that didn't think they would do that. I don't think they even realize they're doing it. For me it's less "I must be top ranked person to this person", and more "I want this person to actually prioritize me enough to care to spend time with me, rather than having other people consistently prioritized over me". So it's rough, yeah.....at this point most of my friends are online friends who are also aro tbh. I don't particularly have good advice for dealing with it (bc have generally become rather jaded about such things in recent years), but yeah, big relate.
  18. It tends to have periods of more activity then times when it's less active....but it's going to consistently be less active then other forms of social media just due to the forum format. Many of the most active discussions have been like....debates over terminology and what stuff means....which can have a fair bit of conflict sometimes. Can take inspiration for things to discuss here from other places, so from like posts on social media like tumblr relating to aro stuff, or perhaps looking at the monthly carnival of aros topic for inspiration of stuff to discuss, or maybe reading over some of AUREA's more recent articles for inspiration of things to discuss. Also in general can talk about experiences, intersection of aromanticism with other identities, and topics related to activism.
  19. INTJ....it's funny we talked about personality type stuff like this in one of my engineering classes and they're like "the stereotypical engineering is INTJ" and like yes, yes I am. Did the big 5 thing too: Openness: 56% Conscientiousness: 67% Extroversion: 58% Agreeableness: 41% Neuroticism: 60% I think aros are more likely to be introverted, at least according to personality tests like this. (not that all are of course, but compared to general population). There's also more complicated stuff like overlap with neurodivergency and stuff, and how these kinds of tests are based more off of neurotypical people and other demographically bias sets and stuff.
  20. In middle school some dude's friends came and was like "so and so likes you/wants to date you", and since I a) am bad with faces and b) thought the thing about sending a friend to ask someone out was just stupid, I was like "who even is that"? in hindsight I'm not sure if they were serious or if it was supposed to be a prank or whatever, I was generally bad with social cues.
  21. I know there's at least some people here in their 30's, though I don't know about many older. I'd say out of aro online spaces, the forums is more likely to included people who are 30, 40+ because they would generally be more familiar with forums as a medium in general (whereas college-aged people like myself tend to be more comfortable with places like tumblr; this is the first forum I've actually used). Due to a variety of factors it seems like there aren't many older (40+) aros who know they are aro and engage in the community, but I have seen some in those age ranges pop up in various survey results, but typically very few. I also think older aroaces tend to be in ace communities more than aro communities because they discovered identities earlier when there was only ace communities and thus are already at home in ace communities without as much need to seek out aro communities.
  22. It's kinda common in english for us to use latin roots for words? And I think using amato- works better than romance anyways because I think amatonormativity is thus able to more broadly include things in a way that isn't limited to romance.
  23. I don't know of a lithro-related discord server, but I do know one server run by an aro who experiences romantic attraction and has channel for romance/relationship stuff, so it might be a more lithro-friendly setting compared to some other aro discords? If that sounds like something that you would find helpful, you can DM me and I can send you a link for it.
  24. Oriented aroace is for aroaces who experience other attractions such that they are oriented, for example an aroace who experiences strong queerplatonic attraction to people of all genders might consider themselves pan-oriented aroace. I like the concept of aroace flag as a single concept but have always strongly disliked the blue-orange one because the color symbolism is not innately recognizable as being related to ace & aro stuff, and had made my own flag shortly after the blue-orange one was made (can see flag coining post here for meanings etc).
  • Create New...