aro_elise

not really, or maybe i don't understand the question.  i mean, there's the stereotype that women are into romantic stuff, especially compared to men, but that's not the only female stereotype i don't fit.  i still definitely identify as a cis woman, though, without really being able to say why.  i've just never had any problem with it.  i agree with 'choice feminism': don't feel like you have to conform to or defy gender roles, presentation, etc.; just do what you want and identify how you want, pretty much.

I was just curious because I've heard a lot of different answers to that question, and it comes up often on Tumblr.

Do you feel like being aromantic affects your friendships?

i feel like it does in that i take them more seriously, like we discussed: when i make a commitment to my friends, even to hang out, i follow through (unless there's a good reason i can't).  not many people i know are like that.  maybe it's my generation, but it seems to be an expectation to be with your partner all the time, but acceptable to blow off your friends for no reason.  i do fear that friends will leave me especially when they find romantic partners.  i won't stand to be their back-up plan when they break up.  my biggest concern down the road (probably way down) is about my best friend getting married, though i trust that she'll have time for me no matter what--she's such a good friend that it would be insulting to think otherwise--i just have to keep reminding myself of that, and of course that i want her to be happy.