MulticulturalFarmer

What's the name of the game? Want to compare scores or do something in subway surfers together sometime?

uh, maybe Carnival of Aros? But that's more related to specific situations/experiences involving aro people. https://carnivalofaros.wordpress.com

What is your native language? Yeah I'm not too sure what the perception of aromanticism (or what the definition of that is) is in China or East Asian societies... admittedly I am very curious. Not sure if we have any users here on Arocalypse from that part of the world.

Oh, I had just assumed it was translated from Chinese to English, that's all. Could have been a wrong assumption.

For Chat-GPT aren't the responses programmed by the people who made the software as well? Or is it a bit more variable?

Oh cool. And btw if we are interested or know someone who is, do we just write to "Carnival of Aros" wordpress or do we contact you? It's good to know for future reference :)

Wait are you talking about Link or a different character?

I usually end up doing that because I'm not "cool" in a conventional way for my country; I've noticed that when I'm abroad though (I've only had the luxury to travel abroad only a few times though), I'm perceived more as cool, depending on the country of course. So I guess my having to go alone is mostly situational, I guess or just a result of only a few datapoints really.

Wait, are you reading this in English or Chinese? I figure in English it could be a mistranslation or lack of conveying certain cultural concepts perhaps? Just some food for thought.

Bewilderment?

Sounds good, could we participate just for one or two times and then relinquish our responsibilities? Btw, thanks for all the information. What does it mean to have promotion part of your job?

I have a similar problem, but I'm aro-demisexual or perhaps aro-pansexual, not sure how to categorize the thing exactly. I've tried to explain it to them but isn't worked out, my mom wonders if I feel love for people or not... so yeah. It's not working so well for me lol.

So being a host just means that you ask a lot of questions to people, kinda like a talk show host and then wait for the answers? Are there any other responsibilities involved, or is what you wrote all-inclusive? Well, I guess it can't be too bad then.

I really appreciated your post @themorethemerrier. I'm not sure where to start. I will say though, that before we do voice-penpalling, do you mind if we can write via text on this website (it's that I am not a fan of verbally talking to people I don't know well right away, despite having dyslexia)? If so feel free to send me a personal message. I'm still thinking of a response, it will take me awhile to respond to all of that; honestly I didn't expect such an extensive reply. I'm also on the dyslexia spectrum too, so that's possibly a factor. Regardless, take care and look forward to interacting more :)

I'm not sure if any of these books are available in the library but I guess I'll have to get an ebook or a physical copy shipped to me.. yay lol.

I could probably search this up, but I'll ask anyway, is there a new hunger games book out? I remember reading just the three novels when I was younger.

Personal question, but are you estonian? I looked up the names in your username.. and let's just say that I got curious.

Thanks @Storm_leopardcat. Yeah it was my religious fundamentalist 'friend', who is a cisgender woman and her dad (to be fair her dad is the one who has inculcated the whole family with these dumb beliefs) who said that being around me after coming out as an intersex person means that they need to keep a barricade/distance from me and her. They believe in the segregation of genders (and think that gender = to sex) and since it's hard to categorize me there's no choice but for me to keep a distance both physically and in terms of friendship. I could mention which religion but I prefer not to do it on the forum, maybe I'll do it in DMs. They have loosened up a bit, so I can at least give my friend a hug, but no more sleepovers and stuff. I was very forward about not really believing in religion, as I'm more agnostic and deist so I'm probably seen as a bad influence and my 'friend' can't really hang out with me much, though she kinda believes (at least a little) that I'm "bad" and "impure" for being born intersex, though I couldn't help it of course. We're never going to have the same level of closeness again though, sadly. And it sucks. It's really hard in my country to make friends when you're in your 20s and I face a lot of ethnic prejudices every day so outside of some old people I don't have a ton of friends. Yeah I've been on Arocalypse since Dec. 31, 2020 lol and I just never used it much because I was obsessed with the idea of DMing people on reddit and penpal sites and using that to make friends, but it's a very inorganic way to make friends, not to mention many redditors are VERY VERY toxic and will ghost you if you have the slightest disagreement with them, and let's just say reddit is very homophobic, misogynistic, and all around prejudiced site (against Jews, Muslims, Asians). So it's probably for the best that the site didn't work out for me, though I went back a few times to chat again, due to extereme loneliness, and arocalypse used to be a lot less active. I should have investigated other sites but I was worried it would take a long time for people to start interacting with me closely. In 2023 I hope to use it much more and get closer to some people on here than I was in 2021 and 2022. Though I'm not the target audience necessarily, reading feminist websites has helped a lot in unlearning some bad traits of mine and navigating a world that isn't created for intersex people like myself, especially with the variation that I have which is rare and often times fetishized and mocked.

Other posters have address this already, but I'll add something new (and this just based on my personal experience, it may or may not be applicable to you as I dealt with this for a very long time): Find out another way to deal with loneliness, whether it's through friends, family, volunteering, hobbies, etc. often times, people yearn for romantic relationships when they are lacking sufficient social support. The other thing is a lack of direction in one's life, find out what really makes you tick, why your reason is for existing, and how to deal with the need for social stimulation and support (okay, that was a bit of rephrasing). This really varies from person to person and I think the answers to that lie within you.

Well, I'm called multiculturalfarmer simply because I'm in the agriculture field (at least part time) but we are in fact in an area with many languages, cultures, religions despite being in a very rural area.

Hi there everyone. This is a rant, and I hope that some people can relate. I can't seem to make friends online, especially on penpal sites and reddit. I can't make many IRL because I'm stuck in one of those backwards rural areas at the moment (though I previously lived in a major urban area the first time I tried college), and a lot of people are just standoffish to me in general due to perceived androgynous-ness (due to being intersex) and my ethnic background. I have lived in better rural areas but this one sucks, but I gotta be here for financial reasons (aka job loss). I'd like to have a QPR that involves sexual relations, but I'm okay with close friendships or QPRs without sex too. Eh, I'm sure my personality could be better and I could be better off at talking to people about more 'common interests' for people in their 20s like going to bars, dancing, pop music, etc. (there's not much of that here, but starting a new job in 2023 could at least help me to get to the bars and restaurants that have things going on but there's only two of those). I tend to only like intellectual topics as my personal interests, some outdoor activities, and I'm trying to get back into sports. But even online I guess because of the lack of shared activities (even in the virtual world), especially on penpal websites, it's hard to make long term friends and keep conversations going, because I think the barrier to having shared experiences is a lot higher. So I'm grateful to forums like this where I guess you can make conversation and acquaintances a bit more organically as opposed to "I would like someone to talk to about xyz interest and let’s hope we get along” Oh, and I lost a lot of my religious friends after coming out as non-religious and intersex. Granted I was younger and a bit "in your face" about the non-religious thing, but the intersex thing was definitely a factor too. I also have had to cut out many so-called acquaintances/friends that I made IRL while traveling who didn't really hit me up to talk or never really responded to messages. Previously I would have just tried to talk to them anyway, but I’m at the point where if someone doesn’t make an effort to converse with me regularly (and i dont want things to be one-sided cause so many interactions with people are that way) or accommodate my health issues or disabilities I don’t want to engage with them either. There were a few people I did make acquaintances/friends with the first time I tried college and did a summer of studying abroad, but, admittedly it was a dealbreaker that I always had to write messages and didn't get to talk verbally (the other person was not interested in that), cause, ugh, dyslexia is an irritating condition for sure. So I guess the conclusion of this is that I could be better with friends and the like, I have made some mistakes (like what I mentioned earlier), but also that there were some times when people talked to me but I used to, when I was slightly younger, only want to have friends that also had STEM and/or history as their absolute biggest interest and if people with other interests talked to me I wouldn’t talk to them much unless we saw each other in person. So yeah, could be that my desire to have friendships in a particular way limited me, though I'm sure being different as a result of my identities is another factor. One such person was this nice lady I met in the university’s “diversity” center but I didn’t talk much with her because of the lack of interests, and that was probably my fault, because we got along on a personality and accommodating each other’s differences type of level. I'm also sure that possibly being autistic doesn't help my situation either.

Well, I learned today that some engineering physics degrees are accredited in North America, at least the ones that have a certain number of engineering classes in them. Oh, and only a limited number of American programs are accredited, though nearly all Canadian programs are. Hm, what else? I learned a lot about how well chromebooks can work considering the low price you pay for them (that is if you just need a computer just for surfing the web and sending emails). I've been watching the BBC show "Call the Midwife" and learnt a lot about midwifery and public health in 1950s and 1960s England.

Sounds a lot like the survivalist novels that I've read about before, that talk about the true nature of human beings. For example, there's books like One Second After. Not to mention there are also farmers and people who spend extensive time in the "wild" who talk about such things (people who are assigned to hunt deer).

Oh later on today I could possibly make a Google poll for it, no guarantees as I've got a few education and job related things to take care of today, but possibly later this week? Or if someone else wants to handle it that's fine too.

Sure, and some people have listed books already so it wouldn't be too hard to get started, I think.