Madame Giraffe

OHMY this topic is so interesting, why it doesn't have enough visibility?? It happened that I aksed some friends what it's like to be in love or having a crush and I find the answers pretty interesting, even if lots don't know how to describe it instead, lol Personally, I get confirmations about me being aro reading this kinda thing, 'cause it just freaks me out :'D

Yeah it's the same for me! It depends by how the romantic stuff is delivered to me, I really like romantic moments and also I'm moved when characters say "I love you" to others I ship them with, but at the same time I'm repulsed by all those cheese sentences I find on pinterest or by those kind of moments that usually make people goes "aaawww I want that too!!" and I can't stand movies or books that are all-about-romance, ew.

Well if you're not aro you're going to be helpful to us in understanding romance stuff! ahahah :'D Welcome!!

This applies to me so much lol The few times this happens to me, I usually don't take it as "a crush", 'cause - well - I'm not actually interested in making something about it, I mean, I enjoy the person company, want to share time with them, think about them a lot, maye don't wanting them to be in a relationship with others, but don't ever wanted to do any romantic stuff at all, like i dunno holding hands, kiss, saying romantic stuff or else. I don't feel the need to "make a move", if this means something to you ahahah

I'm definitely not the right person to make assumptions, but - as an aro - I can tell you that I also lived this: and about your relationship, maybe you gotta ask yourself if what you feel towards him is just deep friendship, or if the problem is only about physical contact (I don't like physical contact either, as in holding hands, hugs, and stuff, but also don't ever imagine myself doing couple stuff with anyone, it just doesn't feel right to me) Hope this could be helpful! But in the end I guess it's up to you understand if you're aro, greyaro or else! Reading others' experiences on this site helps a lot, go take a look!

Unexpectedly Beauty and the Beast is one of my favourite Disney movies, 'cause I like to read it as a fairytale about being able to give love to whoever, no matter the form, the look, or even the race and the skin colour, it doesn't bother me that Belle's love is intended as romantic love, I like her 'cause I think she's able to see the beauty in the different ❤️ very lgbtaq+ for me Yes, thank goodness we also have more modern movies like Mulan or The Emperor's New Groove and we discarged the old annoying true love kiss stuff... (talking about disney movies, I always tought that Tiana is on the aro spectrum and her romance is a bit forced)

If it's Jotaro Kujo to tell me I'm not a bad person I feel blessed, ahahahaha No, seriously, it's hard but it's definitely better not to be a dick about it, even if it's apparently inevitable for them to put us just-friends second place..... gh. Yeah, I totally get the feeling, it always happens, tsk. Friends < partner

Always thought that The Little Mermaid is a very stupid movie and never get why all girls find super romantic what she did :'D just... no, c'mon it's stupid

Let's say I've got squishes veeery rarely, but when it happens - as me being a very possessive person, even of friends - I just feel this annoying jealousy towards them and don't want them to be in a romantic relationship with others, even if I know I can't (and don't want to) give them one with me, so I wonder if anybody here ever felt the same? And I mean only I don't want them to have girlfriends, not other friends. (ohmy this is so selfish, I know and I'm ashamed, but can't stop feel this way, lol)

I discovered what I am is aro reading stuff and others' experiences on this site, like a mindblowing moment where most of the things I read sounded OMG THAT'S SO TRUE, so give it a try :'D And like it was already said: even if later it will happen to you to feel romantic attraction, you'll be able to set yourself confortable in the greyaro label, if you want ('cause never had a romantic attraction in 17 years feels surely not alloromantic to me)

I'm not greyaro, but I think that you could get if you are one if thinking about being aromantic seems limiting to you.

I do think it can be a thing, if it happens to you it can be. (this is so relatable)

^^^ THIS Love the mindblowing moment, lol

Final Fantasy XV showed me that this song could be about friends and very important people, not necessarly lovers, and since then I LOVE IT, IT'S SO BEAUTIFUL Stand by me - Florence + the Machine

Yeah, I do think this is a problem, even now I find myself lacking of someone who could put me first place (not counting my parents), thing that everyone else has or could have in the future, having a partner and stuff. I hate that everyone wants a relationship 'cause this way everyone around me will eventually have one and I'll remain alone, 'cause people put partner before friends all the time, often even before family. This is why I'm learning to do everything by myself, ohohohoho