BasicallyEmoPotato Posted April 11, 2023 Share Posted April 11, 2023 (edited) One thing that I have experienced: Today I told my friend that I am going to prom, and the first thing he asked me I had a date. And I am pretty sure he knows I am aro. Edited April 11, 2023 by BasicallyEmoPotato mispelling 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted April 11, 2023 Share Posted April 11, 2023 A coworker told me all the aphobic things you could think about when I told her I was aro. My favorite was the last one : "there are name for so many deviances these days" (I don't even think she realized it was an insult). For the rest it is not necessary something people say but they expect you to fall in love and get married. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rob Posted April 11, 2023 Share Posted April 11, 2023 When I first got together with my ex she knew I was aro, alongside all of my friends, and we agreed to be in a QPR, but then everyone started to treat us as if we were in a romantic relationship and imposing certain behaviours on me, like being jealous, celebrating valentine's day and other things like this even if I made it perfectly clear that I don't do any of them. Then got angry when I refused. Looking back I'm pretty sure they thought my aromanticism was just a phase and that my ex "fixed" me 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Posted April 11, 2023 Share Posted April 11, 2023 Constant questions from my family about my love life, like "do you fancy any boys at school??" or "when will you introduce your boyfriend to us??". The worst part is that I told them not to ask me these questions, but they keep doing it anyways! It's so annoying. One of the reasons why I hate family gatherings. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glypharia.exe Posted April 11, 2023 Share Posted April 11, 2023 i'm my grandparents only grandchild. since intermediate school, they've been asking me about "do you have a boyfriend yet?" and "when are you getting a boyfriend?" and it's honestly infuriating. it's just awkward. every time i go to see them and say "i'm just focusing on my studies right now" or "i'm not interested in anyone at the moment", they look so disappointed. hate amatonormativity 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BasicallyEmoPotato Posted April 11, 2023 Author Share Posted April 11, 2023 2 hours ago, glypharia.exe said: i'm my grandparents only grandchild. since intermediate school, they've been asking me about "do you have a boyfriend yet?" and "when are you getting a boyfriend?" and it's honestly infuriating. it's just awkward. every time i go to see them and say "i'm just focusing on my studies right now" or "i'm not interested in anyone at the moment", they look so disappointed. hate amatonormativity that's what I say too 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fox Posted April 12, 2023 Share Posted April 12, 2023 I was told that romantic attraction is a beautiful part of being human. Interesting thing is that I'm human and happy enough without it! Who would've thunk it. /s 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted April 12, 2023 Share Posted April 12, 2023 Myself. I asked a girl out (sort of) forgetting that you don't ask someone to be in a QPR with you until you are besties with them. I mean, QPRs are something that should form naturally. You don't just ask someone to be in a QPR with you. Me with my internalized amatonormativity forgot that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 6, 2023 Share Posted May 6, 2023 I think that the only time was unintentional by my dad, I don’t even fully remember what he said but whenever I had tried to drop a hint on possibly being aro by asking “why most villains have little to no romantic attraction in movies.” He sorta responded by basically saying (this was only what I remembered take it with a grain of salt) that not having some form of love makes you more likely to be a villain. This was just very paraphrased so please this may be completely different. My point is though that most of my life I haven’t been grilled much about relationships but I can imagine that becoming an issue later on in life as I’m only 15. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted May 19, 2023 Share Posted May 19, 2023 So, a random person on YouTube told me first that everybody needs romance as our goal is to pass our genes so we survive as a species, and then that America should stop normalizing imbavalence in the brain. But my favorite was when he said that not being attracted to anyone is like not liking food : I have to admit that he has the prize for originality cause this one is a first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jot-Aro Kujo Posted May 19, 2023 Share Posted May 19, 2023 17 minutes ago, nonmerci said: So, a random person on YouTube told me first that everybody needs romance as our goal is to pass our genes so we survive as a species, and then that America should stop normalizing imbavalence in the brain. But my favorite was when he said that not being attracted to anyone is like not liking food : I have to admit that he has the prize for originality cause this one is a first. Oh he’s gonna have a hell of a time when he learns about my eating disorder lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwiftySpeedy Posted May 19, 2023 Share Posted May 19, 2023 I would probably say random people asking me who I'm going to the school dance with even though I'm not going and that I'm not going with anyone. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 19, 2023 Share Posted May 19, 2023 44 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said: I would probably say random people asking me who I'm going to the school dance with even though I'm not going and that I'm not going with anyone. Oh yeah, I just hate parties in general. I mean it’s everything I hate. Loud sounds, balloons that pop, very little light, blinding light, dancing, singing, the social pressure to go do said dancing, drama, just in general I fricking HATE those things. The only things that make it worth it to me are food. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted May 19, 2023 Share Posted May 19, 2023 Hey, I went to my first prom with my (ex) best friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 19, 2023 Share Posted May 19, 2023 51 minutes ago, alto said: Hey, I went to my first prom with my (ex) best friend. Oh, how was it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted May 21, 2023 Share Posted May 21, 2023 It was awesome! We had a wonderful time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 21, 2023 Share Posted May 21, 2023 2 minutes ago, alto said: It was awesome! We had a wonderful time. Cool! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted May 21, 2023 Share Posted May 21, 2023 thank you! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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