YXSHINN Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 I'm kind of surprised I haven't seen any topics nor forums about this on Arocalpyse either (posted this on AVEN too), so I decided to open one here as well and ask some questions aside from that, so it'd be great if some of you guys could help me out. I also think it might be of more use if I asked fellow aromantics, so here goes nothing. I've circled back into my questioning fase and I've been wondering about what relationship/friendship I'd want and if really I'm aromantic. One reason is that I fantasize a lot, like every day. The fantasies seem nice, but on the other hand, "I don't even know how to friendship, maybe it's a stretch." And I still haven't had a crush, but that isn't really all that surprising. I'm also questioning my "sapphism" since I'm like, "girls are great," but then I realize that I literally don't like anyone, not even platonically. So then I'm like, "maybe I have some kind of problematic attachment style and/or trust issues, maybe it's my anxiety?" Or I'm just tricking myself into amatonormativity, once again. Earlier this week I went online, trying to figure out what I really want out of a friendship/relationship and then I came across this term. Romantic friendship (n.) The term romantic friendship refers to a very close but non-sexual relationship between friends, often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the contemporary Western societies, and may include for example holding hands, hugging, kissing, and sharing a bed. The term was coined in the later 20th century in order to retrospectively describe a type of relationship which until the mid 19th century had been considered unremarkable but since the second half of the 19th century had become more rare as physical intimacy between non-sexual partners came to be regarded with anxiety. Sounds like what I want (maybe minus the kissing), however the only issue I have with this is literally the term itself. Is that just me? Like, "romantic friendship," huh? In that sense, I could see why people would prefer QPR over romantic friendships, because I'd do that too. I'd just call it a intimate/close friendship. It is something more, but nothing less. So my questions are: 1. What do you think of this term? Do you think it conforms to amatonormativity? 2. What do you consider as platonic gestures? Or do you think the intention behind it matters the most? (Please list a ton, if you like.) 3. And lastly, what do you think of my thoughts on myself? Do you think it's possible to identify as sapphic and aroace at the same time? (Not romantically, just when talking about alterous attraction...) Please be as honest as possible, I'm trying to gain some good knowledge and maybe get a discussion going? Thanks in advance~! 2 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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