CanadianBird

I've said it before but while I was still trying to figure out whether I was aromantic or not I had a hard time separating it from general apathy (which I have a lot of XD). Sometimes apathy will affect one's attraction toward others, but other times it could be completely unrelated. I think it's great to remember that some aros are loveless, and don't feel much platonic attraction either. While being aromantic means that you can have QPR if you want, that doesn't mean that you absolutely have to have one. Not all aromantics feel strong connections to people. Additionally they may not feel much of a strong connection to anything, but specifically when talking about romance they've decided to use the label. Something could also cause you to be aromantic, which could be being emotionless like you're talking about. Maybe the two are related?? I'd say that maybe don't exile yourself to a (metaphorical) island where you'll be alone forever. There is no strict rule book on who can and who can't have a QPR. The question is, ignoring labels, do you want one? People who feel little emotion can still have a QPP if they want one and/or it works for them :) I don't think I explained this very well but hopefully it helps a little 😅

I agree with this! I've had issues before where I didn't want to identify as anything other than asexual in addition to aromantic, because I thought that experiencing physical attraction to others (without romantic ones) would mean I was part of a group who objectify others. Being able to say that I was asexual was my "safety net" if anyone would start to spew hate about other queer folk. I really did not want to be associated or grouped with that crowd, so to appear 'cleaner' I began to use the label since I was technically on the spectrum. But that's not true! Sex isn't bad. It's totally okay to feel sexually attracted to someone/something even without romantic feelings! A great place to start is becoming comfortable with the idea of sexual desire. It isn't dirty and it isn't something to be ashamed of. Some people don't experience it, but some people do. It is more than okay to be a part of the group that does experience it. It does not make you any less valid :)

Nah, don't shit on him. While I think it's pretty hilarious, try to remember that he's only twelve. Besides, he seems to be having fun. Still I can't wait for him to find these again in twenty years 💀

No. 5 - Patiently plotting a plan to run off with 10 & 11's lunch. But uh, otherwise No. 3. On a beautiful, sunny day I'm ignoring nature and instead choosing to read fanfiction :)

I'm gonna say May. Usually around this time the snow is no longer brown and wet, not to many bugs are out yet, and it's about the time where it's warm out but not scorching.

'Romance is Boring' By Los Campesinos

True. (I had a phase) TPBM is a reddit user

THANK YOU. Sorry, did you want to talk about jobs and pets while awkwardly stepping on eggshells? I was thinking that we could have a debate on whether we should part from the common wealth and analyze the significance of Wanda's character in the MCU. Also apple juice vs orange juice? Is that too much? Idk about everyone else but what better way to get to know a person than their view on a subject vs what they do/have? Again maybe this is just how I would try to recruit a friend over dinner XD I always thought that if I was going to date someone they had better been a nerd and interested in some of the things I was otherwise romance and attraction would die out fast. Restaurant over dinner trying to get someone to like you (and vice versa) by saying things that seem 'normal' is tiring. The only great thing that comes out of it is a free meal

At first when I had heard about it, I didn't even consider myself being aro (and continued not to for years). Then I learned about aesthetic attraction and my world view shifted. I picked apart the grounds behind every love interest I had ever encountered and did some super deep soul-searching over the course of one weekend. I spent many, many hours reading the experiences of others to see if I felt a similar way or could relate, and I could. Learning that aromanticism was a spectrum, and that some aromantics loved love. At the time though I was mildly depressed so even though I already had my answer I decided waited until I got out of it just to be sure. (I couldn't tell if I was aromantic or just lazy lol) When I was at my fullest and happiest, I paused and asked myself if I would enjoy going out with someone. And guess what? The answer was no. That's when I knew and decided to officially identify as aromantic.

This is so me. I remember locking myself in my room for every day in May listening to Lofi while obsessively writing that monster- I actually thought that I was gonna be famous 💀

Glad I could help out a little :) The descriptions definitely need work and the dialogue is kind of cringe but there were some cute moments 😭 LMAO I GET THAT It's like woah. But also man, was I FR? it's crazy to look back at.

Same here! The longest thing I ever wrote was when I was 11 and it was a 24k word HTTYD Fanfiction (It wasn't amazing. I actually still have a copy of it in my Docs 😂). It did have romantic elements to it but it was otherwise centered more around family, duty, and close friendships. Eleven y/o me had endless time on her hands, and thought that she could do anything. Now the only spare time I have is in between exams when I'm not drowning in course work or other responsibilities, never mind having the energy or motivation. For now I just write shorter fics (a few thousand words) whenever I find inspiration and am in the 'mood'. I really want to write something longer but at the same time most of the long stuff I plan ends up abandoned 🤷‍♀️. Anyways what I'm trying to say here is feel free to go with the flow, do what you can and if it makes you feel good, then why not?

I'm way less careful with it now, if that counts. Past the point of actively trying to hide it, but not exactly writing it on my forehead either.

I can relate to this a LOT. I don't want romance, at all. Still, I feel a bit jealous when I imagine my close friends or ex partners with other people. Since I was little I also had a really bad habit of leading people on even though I didn't actually want a relationship - maybe as a really messed up way of trying to romanticize my life or make friends? I love the closeness of friendships, while at the same time kind of hate it. (I have looked into QPRs but I'm the type of aro who just can't do close relationships) It always feels amazing to know that you're loved by someone, but for me personally it becomes suffocating after a bit. When I get out of it I feel free, but also want it again. 😂 If it makes any sense I want to love, but how much of that I want reciprocated is iffy.

Not exactly as a child but the first time I watched Zoo-topia I had nightmares about this one scene.

What's an unusual/hidden talent that people are unlikely to suspect about you? I'm a passionate ukulele player :)

About two years ago I was completely obsessed with one particular brodinsons fan artist on twitter. I found it floating around in my screenshots and didn't feel much like deleting it 🤷‍♂️

You don't need to lead someone on for them to like you!!!!

I'm proud of myself for reaching the conclusion but if I got to choose my orientation my first choice would probably not be aromantic :,)

Little me would object to any other answer than Frozen but I'd have to say Moana

Originates from another site but 'Cerimonials' is the name of a Florence + The Machine album I was crazy about at the time. Found it once where it was used nowhere and used it here too :)

Heyo! Nice to meet you :DD

Heyo, does anyone have any fun experiences of completely missing something because you were aromantic? I thought it might be fun to share :) Here's mine: Not to long ago a new branch of a particular fandom sprouted, and I discovered that not too many people were writing for it. I love writing and thought that a great way to farm some clout (joking, please don't take that too seriously) and reach a greater audience would be to write something for it. Up until this point most of the stuff I had written were more about familial bonds. Ignoring this, I sat myself down and said "Alright, we're going to write a romance." So many aromantics are talented at writing romance pieces... I am not one of them xD For several hours I attempted to awkwardly write about romance while feeling incredibly uncomfortable the whole time. It was torture. If you're wondering in the end I decided that it was to much trouble to write for something I didn't like all too much (to put it lightly) so I gave up. Anyways, the end.

You can be Lesbian and Demiromantic too! Feel free to tack on as many labels as long as you feel that they fit you.

This is the first one ever, actually. I heard about it from Tumblr