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  • Birthday February 20

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  1. i'd love to see an aromantic character who is the "popular kid" at school. not the stereotypical asshole type, one who is kind and everyone likes. maybe like jackson marchetti from sex education, but aromantic? i think that would be fun. also, reading your responses, i think that maybe you would like Musa, an aroace character from the comic Buuza!! he's very sweet, confident and a good friend, he's trying his best. sadly, it's not directly stated in the story that he's aromantic, just in the characters' profiles. you can read it for free on Tapas or Webtoon if you'd like! :)
  2. i'm out to some of my friends. i'm not really the one to formally come out, i just bring it up sometimes if it makes sense in the conversation and i feel comfortable doing so. therefore, other than my friends, some acquaintances are aware too. my mom knows i'm not into romance and stuff, but she probably thinks i'm homo. regarding my dad, he asked me if i'm a lesbian when he saw i cut my hair short and i just told him i'm not, so yeah. also, i do use a bracelet with the aromantic flag a friend gave me, so... if people know, they know
  3. I don't think people at pride act like being queer is their whole personality, we're simply celebrating a part of ourselves that used to be and still is marginalized. I see every orientation as being a trait of someone's character. Just as yours and mine entire personality isn't based on being aro, the same goes for every LGBTQ+ person, but that doesn't mean it's not important to talk about. There are people out there who are struggling with amatonormativity and increasing the range of the term aromatic could help them in some way. I hope I managed to convey my perspective well!
  4. hello! I would like to join the discord server, but the link expired again. Could you please post another new one?
  5. yesterday i told my friend i'm aromantic. her reaction was: "isn't it because of some trauma? have you talked to your therapist about that?" thanks for doubting my existence, i guess
  6. I know some confirmed arospec characters from comics I like: There's Musa, from the comic BUUZA!!, who is an aroace and nonbinary poc: https://tapas.io/episode/1278135 Walker, the main character from the oneshot comic Wandering, is also aroace: https://tapas.io/episode/610674 Landon Addison, one of the main characters from This is Not Fiction, is demiromantic and pansexual: https://www.thisisnotfiction.com/comic/ch-01-sydney-morgan I think it's worth mentioning Landon is involved in some sort of romance with the main character (who is panromantic and demisexual), just in case you're romance repulsed and maybe don't want to read about that. (here's the synopsis and info about characters: https://www.thisisnotfiction.com/about)
  7. cw // internalized arophobia, internalized amatonormativity I've accepted the fact that I'm aromantic a long time ago, and most of the time I'm okay with it, even proud. But sometimes, when I'm watching a movie or reading a book, I see characters being deeply in love and the thought that "I may never experience something like that" crosses my mind. It's frustrating to catch myself having such thoughts when I should be comfortable with my aroness by now. Obviously, that has to do with the fact that the romanticization of romance was very strong in my education. (and of course, the lack of aro representation in media doesn't help) There are times I feel like the only way I can have a deep relationship is by having a romantic partner, because friendships are supposed to be more "casual", and my mind goes on a melancholic loop. I can't help but think that "is that how my entire life is going to be? Having casual friends to casually meet and have casual fun?", even though I'm usually comfortable being alone. So yeah... Amatonormativity sucks, what's new. (sorry for the rambling) Do you feel like that sometimes too? And if so, how do you deal with those intruding thoughts? Would love to read what you guys have to say!
  8. i actually had a similar experience a few years ago.. a really close friend of mine had romantic feelings for me and i thought i had too, but after a while i realized i saw them as a friend. i knew i also never had a crush on anyone before, so i did some reasearch and found out about aromanticism. a few weeks later, i told my friend that i was pretty sure i'm aromantic, explained what it was and they were very understanding! they told me about their feelings, i told them about my feelings and we decided to continue as friends. i was really scared of hurting them, but it turned out alright and we're still very close friends to this day i don't know how your friend is like, so i cannot guarantee how they will react, but if you want to tell them and feel comfortable doing so, then i think you should go for it! you can tell them about you romantic orientation, but you don't have to. you can just talk about your feelings and decide together what to do next! it's really what Skylord already said. hope it goes well!!
  9. this thread is so wholesome, i love it! I feel like I value my relationships more than my allo friends. They focus so much on their romantic relationships or on seeking for a romantic relationship, they seem to put their other relationships aside. During my self-discovery journey, I found out about so many new interesting terms and was able to reframe my idea of love. It made me think outside the box and reflect on what I truly want and what I don't. I think if I wasn't aromantic, I wouldn't try to understand my feelings in such depth. And I love understanding more about myself! (also I love the aromantic flag very much, green is my favorite color)
  10. maybe what you feel for him is sensual attraction?? Sensual Attraction - desire to have physical, non-sexual contact with someone (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc) when you feel sensual attraction for someone, you call them a lush. so maybe he's a lush? (more info: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Sensual_Attraction)
  11. oi, eu também sou do Brasil!! se quiser conversar sobre arromanticidade com alguém que fala português, pode me chamar na mensagem privada qualquer hora!
  12. if you don't feel romantic attraction then you're certainly on the aro spectrum, even though you desire "romantic acts". there are some aromantic and aro-spec people who are/want to be in a romantic relationship, even without feeling romantic attraction. there are some subsets on the aromantic spectrum that may be suitable for you, such as cupioromantic or bellusromantic. there are also other types of attraction and relationships besides romantic. if you're interessed in researching in depth, here you can find some terms that could be useful for you
  13. yes, i meant 'practical' as less stressful for me, since i wouldn't like to explain what aegoromantic means everytime someone asks my orientation, i'm not so patient but of course, that's just my way. each person do what they feel more comfortable doing
  14. yeah, i feel the same! i want to look for more about it so i can understand my feelings better, but if someone asked me my orientation i would just call myself aroace, it's more practical
  15. i see... thank you for clarifying! i think it describes me pretty well, i'll research more about it
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