Raphael

I'm pretty sure I've got APD or ADHD or some kind of neurodivergence, but I don't know exactly what. I've also dealt with anxiety for a lot of my life, although I don't have any kind of a diagnosis. I don't really think it does influence my aromanticism too much (or vice versa), although I do occasionally feel like they play off each other in ways I can't quite articulate.

Trumpet

I remember mine. It was terrible, because it was both our first times, but also we were very physically into each other so it was extremely fun. She's also the only person I've ever kissed/dated/slept with, though, and our relationship has changed a lot since then (for instance: we're no longer dating because I'm greyro af and she is not).

Hey Hart! Good to meet you and congrats on figuring yourself out! Welcome!

I've never really officially come out as greyro, although I definitely don't hide it most of the time either. Everyone I've told has been cool about it (once I explained what it meant, lol), and some have even been in the same boat. My best friend accepts it but also has a hard time with it since we used to date. My parents don't know and I probably won't tell them anytime soon, but they don't seem too fussed about how single I am for the most part. (I'm also romance-positive and open to being in a relationship; I just don't tend to actively pursue it.)

Terry Pratchett

Isn't it just adorable? It popped up on my Twitter timeline during aro week and I almost died of cute. I love it so much.

I know this is late, but seconding everyone else who said you should just talk to her. It seems like you have a really clear idea of what you want, actually, and the best way to find out if you're on the same page is to ask. But if that seems scary, you could also start with something like this: --Raphael

I haven't read the whole thread yet, so sorry if anyone else mentioned this but The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue has an aroace character who is also the protagonist of the next book, The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy. I know the author has written other slightly more problematic books (particularly I seem to remember her overstepping a bit with the trans community, for lack of a better way to put it), but those two were pretty good. Also, this doesn't exactly count because it's not in the show (and arguably the show is one of the most romantic things I've ever seen), but Neil G

@VoidArcana (Off-topic, sorry) WE HAVE THE SAME PRONOUNS OMFG HELLO (Back on topic) Same. I'm really grateful that we have this option, but I also hope we don't need it. I've had mostly positive experiences with the ace community, but I'm also hyper-aware that it isn't my community and that people who are in my community have had less positive experiences. I appreciate the gesture and understand it's made in good faith -- I never thought there was any grand conspiracy -- I just want a space that I feel welcome in, and I don't think AVEN is at the top of the list to provide that.

Yeah, for the record, I'm also a bit handwavy on being associated with AVEN. To be honest, I don't know exactly what they've done to the aro community because Arocalypse was my first foray into this community, but I do feel very strongly that my identity is not at all tied to asexuality (because I'm allo). I get that's not for everyone, and that the overlap is a big part of the aro world, but if this site had been in any way affiliated with AVEN when I heard about it and I knew that, I would feel like I didn't have a place here, because I'm not ace. If it were truly a silent investor type deal

Hey Korbin! I love your name! And yay for bi aro enbies!!! What do you (mainly) like to write?

CW: romantic feelings, romantic and nonromantic uses of the word “love,” sexual relationships, mental illness, suicidal ideation, mentioned suicide attempt, swearing, guilt, anxiety, minor aphobia . . . Okay, I’ll try to simplify a really long story. A girl—we’ll call her A—and I met and became best friends just before we started college together. We started dating that spring semester. I had played with the idea of being aro-spec before, but didn’t really think much of it. I loved her. I have always loved her. I think I always will. But I don’t think that love has ev

I bind with a camisole that has a half-shelf bra built in that I convert by wearing it backwards and folding it with some safety pins. It's supposed to be safe (I did a lot of research, lol), but the elastic rubs and it just isn't very fun. I usually end up converting it back into a camisole before the end of the day.

Fair enough!! I call myself genderqueer because it seems like. I don't have to prove anything to myself to claim that label? I don't feel like I could be genderfluid because I'm never a guy, but hey MAYBE I'M WRONG WHO KNOWS. I bind at school sometimes too, but it also really hurts if I do it for more than ~4 hours, so I don't usually. I might tomorrow. IDK.