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@Mark That doesn't surprise me. Romance is treated as the ultimate attraction, the superior, must-have attraction--because apparently unless you desire someone romantically, you don't truly desire them at all. Because apparently, romance is the only acceptable emotion you can have if you want to be intimate with someone. Of course sexual attraction isn't considered as important. Because sexual attraction, that's just physical, right? There's no emotional component involved with sex. At all. /sarcasm

@Spud Yuuuuuuuup. Apparently, if you experience any same-gender attraction, you MUST experience it both romantically and sexually, otherwise you're just afraid of committing to a same-gender romantic relationship due to the stigma.

Me neither

Hmm, interesting, my theory was hecking correct

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4 hours ago, Zemaddog said:

What makes you think that?

Because I feel like none of the non-mods on Arocalypse would have any interest in testing out the anonymity feature, and I doubt that a guest who seriously needed an anonymous question answered would bother to test whether the anonymity feature worked, as they would likely be too emotionally worked up by the urge to get their question answered to think so technically.

 Yikes. I mean "yikes" not in the sense that such an orientation split is "problematic," but because I bet they must get a lot of hate and insensitivity from others because of their split. Society expects romance and sex to be connected, and the fact that they experience the romance but don't want the sex--experience the sex, but don't want the romance...that's like, the worst of both worlds. That's like the struggles of being an allosexual aro, combined with the struggles of being an alloromantic ace. 

Banned for not coming up with a snarkier comeback

Pretty sure you're one of the mods but idk which one so

Sex is kind of weird for me. I experience 3 types of sexual attraction:

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   1. Dominance-based: The desire to sexually dominate someone, BDSM style. Seems to exclusively be directed towards cis, straight men, who have a repulsive personality (e.g. racist, misogynist, homophobic etc.). Basically I want to hate-fuck them--in a way that brings both of us sexual gratification. I like the idea of being able to sexually attract someone who is bigoted against me, and then being able to make them a slave to their own desire. I like the power in being able to force people to admit their own hypocrisy, to accept that they fail to align to their own hateful ideals. This isn't a sexual desire I'd ever attempt to act on IRL. I just enjoy fantasizing about it.
       
   2. Vanilla: Textbook definition of sexual attraction. Carnal, intense, fleeting, and impersonal (i.e. I have no emotional attachment to the stranger I'm attracted to). Happens towards individuals of all genders, though I have a bias towards androgynous individuals and those who present femme. I don't act on this desire due to the high probability that the strangers are probably alloromantic and will assume all sexual advances are romantic. Also, I'm trans, and too cynical to think that anyone would respect my identity in the bedroom (i.e. they'd touch me in ways that induce dysphoria). 
       
   3. Repulsive or Indifferent: Same feeling as #2, but attraction becomes repulsive because I have an emotional attachment to the individual (generally platonic). I'll still feel attracted to the friend, but I'll feel disgusted with myself. After I've been friends with the person for long enough, the sexual repulsion will fade and become sexual indifference. I will no longer feel disgusted by my attraction, but I'll feel confused or weirded out if the friend ever acts sexually towards me. 

    

    

Despite how my most euphoric sexual attractions are directed towards strangers, I still consider sexual acts as highly intimate--sexual acts being defined as kissing, making out, feeling up, and genital contact. It's one thing to FEEL attraction, and it's another to ACT on that attraction. Because of my vulnerability as a trans person, and also PTSD-related anxiety towards physical contact, I personally could not act sexually, unless I trust my potential sexual partners and communicate with them A LOT. Which is why I view sex, and by extension, physical intimacy in general, as something precious, that shouldn't be done casually. However, most people don't share my background and feelings about sex--nor do I want to force them to share my view. Regardless, I always get triggered by casual physical intimacy, because of the way my brain works.

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I am offended by papos because they sound like papa which is the spanish word for pope which means that papos are against All American Christina Values

@James YO, I TOTALLY FEEL YOU ON THAT? I'm pan, and I feel like my aromanticism makes me act as if I'm fraysexual at first. I become anxious when I notice myself feeling sexual attraction towards friends, especially squishes, because I fear that any sexual advances will be interpreted as romantic. However, once I've established a clearly platonic bond with someone, then I don't feel any anxiety over sexual attraction to them, although I wouldn't act on the attraction because it's socially frowned upon to have consistent sexual relations with someone you aren't dating. As a result, I gradually become sex-indifferent after getting acquainted with someone. 

The idea of a one-night stand also doesn't appeal to me, for two major reasons:

• I'm worried that my potential partner would act transphobically towards me/assault me for "tricking" them into believing I'm a man
• The main way of getting one-night stands I know of is through apps like Tinder, and based on the conversations I've seen there, it seems like there's still an expectation for romantic gestures (e.g. kissing, pick-up lines, sweet talk) even if there's no serious romantic intention

I think the most optimal situation for me would be a sexual queerplatonic friend. However, I'm perfectly content with my sensual queerplatonic friend now, and I would never ask them to transition to a sexual friendship with me since they're actually ace.

I'm oFFenDED bcz U eXIsT

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sinsexual, cosexual, tansexual, arcsinsexual, arccosexual, arctansexual, cscsexual, secsexual, cotsexual................................

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Sadistic Meowths eat with Sevipers.

CHARM

My friend just got rejected and I'm SO HAPPY FOR HIM BECAUSE IT MEANS HE'LL STOP WHINING TO ME ABOUT ROMANCE BULLSHIT FOR AWHILE AAAAAAAAAAAA

On 12/7/2016 at 10:44 AM, cute kitty Meow! Mewo! said:

I just don't like being needed I guess. 

^^^^^ THIS. SO MUCH THIS. I hate the idea of people "needing" each other, ESPECIALLY IF IT'S ME. It's not flattering, it's repulsive. I want to be in parallel with you, not intertwined with you.  

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JLWOP

Prolonged PDA, especially of a sexual nature. Sweet talk. Excessive compliments. Excessive advances towards intimacy. Unoriginal pet names (e.g. babe).

"Excessive advances towards intimacy" is probably my most major source of romance-repulsion. I don't understand it when people almost become one unit with their partner(s)--people who can't seem to go anywhere without their partner(s). It's so creepy.

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