Jade

Musician here but not an instrumentalist! I sing. Mostly choral stuff but also some solos and musical/show choir stuff.

Ok I'm officially sold on dark gray bi Roxy. Forgot about Equius's flush crush, too. Dang. It was a bit of a plot point, too, I think? I haven't read act 5 in forever. I'm still holding onto my Terezi headcanon though. Also, those are A++ headcanons and I fully approve of all the arospec trolls. I haven't! I'll make a point of getting it, though; it definitely sounds good.

Hmm. It's confusing for me. On the one hand, I don't really mind being seen naked. On the other hand, if I've been self-harming regularly, I don't exactly want to shove a lovely mosaic of large wounds in people's faces. Even my scars tend to be.....personal for me. It's not the skin--it's the reveal of wounds. A couple months ago I got a cut on my neck and I ended up surprised at how uncomfortable I suddenly was at my neck showing; now that it's healed, I have no issue with it. I don't see anything sexual with nudity, especially as an artist who's friends with artists. Even if it were sexual, I feel like I probably wouldn't mind. I used to have no problem with getting completely nonsexual massages a few times a year while 100% butt-naked. Pain relief! It's great! Then there was some stuff with a mandatory-disclosure masseuse, and, well, now I'm more than a little freaked out about it....but again, it's not the skin, but the knowledge of self-injury and the invasion of privacy, that frightens me off. However, I do mind, very much, seeing my /own/ naked body. It makes me want to rip off my skin (thanks, dysphoria). It should be noted I have the same issue with looking at most parts of my body, including things it'd be weird to cover, like my face and hands (I wore fingerless gloves for a while to help cover my hands, and I've worn hand flower jewelry at other times for similar reasons). If you take other people's reactions out of the equation, I care about showing my butt as much as I would showing my knee--I don't particularly care about other people seeing either unless there's a cut on them, and I personally would prefer to see neither.

Hi. I've been in an abusive friendship before, too. You're not alone, okay? You're not crazy. She's hurting, gaslighting, and abusing you. Please, get away from her while you can. Don't let her back, no matter how much you want to. It's going to be hard, especially going to school with her. PM me if you want to talk more, this is a personal topic for me so I don't want to spend too much time talking about myself here, but I want you to know that you're not alone because I've been there. I'm here for you.

I think you're misreading the diagram--it's saying "both aromantics and romantics: have a sexual orientation, etc.", not "you have to be both aromantic and romantic in order to: have a sexual orientation, etc.". In the overlap is the similarities between aros and romantics, in the parts of the circles that don't overlap is the differences.

Why not? A million dollars, but you get injured (never badly enough to require stitches/surgery/etc, but significantly) for every $75 you spend.

Oh hey, the quizzes! (Missing the aspie test and the personality disorder test, although I didn't link the aspie test. Then again, I didn't link the depression test either, that was you, Kaiger c; Then again, no big deal considering that this thread isn't about any of those... ) I got a 31 or 32%, if I'm remembering correctly. Industrial robot, reporting for duty.

Longer ring finger than index (not by much), aro cis lesbian.

(waves) cis person with non-gender dysphoria here! This is a bit unrelated to the main point at hand, but I'm going to throw myself and my experiences out there as a cis person with dysphoria, both body and mental illness related. Depression, dissociation, personality disorder problems, anxiety... And then of course there's the fact that I used to have an eating disorder and was kinda-sorta-not-really body dysmorphic. I don't feel that any of this is necessarily related to societal pressures so much as it is my own issues, but I know a lot of people with dysphoria who do have it due to society's expectations. But the most weird example of dysphoria I have is species dysphoria (don't laugh). My brain sees my "correct body" as being a cat, gets very (irrationally) upset about being human-shaped and not covered in fur (fun fact: I, a cis girl, have considered going on T for the sake of increased body hair!), not able to walk naturally on four legs, etc., to the point of self-harm and depression. V describes it well in xer post here (xe, unlike me, is trans, and has both gender dysphoria and species dysphoria). And knowing that there is nothing I can do that will change my body enough to make it mine... It's soul-crushing. I would do anything for that. But it's impossible, so I just have to kind of learn to live with my dysphoria the best I can. Which sucks, but hey, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and all that jazz. So, yeah. Dysphoric but cis: it's a thing. To refer to the original point (I'm cis so feel free to ignore my advice here, heh, but I did my best): What's helped me and some of my friends the most is this: when you're confused, focus on what you want (for example, someone might want to bind and go on T but be referred to with she/her pronouns; or maybe they'll want to use they/them and get bottom surgery without going on hormones or getting top surgery; or any other combination. transition isn't all-or-nothing) whether than What You/Your Experiences Truly Are Deep Down (the people mentioned above might identify as gender-non-conforming cis women, non-binary people, trans men, none of the above... whatever feels right to them). Live the life that will make you most happy; labels describe what you want to do, they don't decide it for you. If you're dysphoric and confused, figure out how you want to deal with that (therapy, body positivity, changing your location/friends, makeup, surgery, medication, hormones, exercise, etc etc, whatever you think will help you) first; if you're unsure what the right labels for you are, that's okay, you have your whole life to question them, but wouldn't it be nice to do that in a body that feels like it's yours?

The suit of pentacles (diamonds) is sometimes represented using deer; maybe the Ace (for aroaces), Jack or King (for "male deer") of pentacles, then?

....depends on humidity. I live in Florida. It's, like, 85% humidity today. I'm melting no matter what the "actual temperature" outside is. I'm going to say that the ideal for me is 85F, as long as the humidity is decent. I can handle more heat the less humid it is, though, and less heat the more humid it is.

hugs: yes kisses: sometimes (yes to quick kisses, especially if they're not on the mouth, no to french kissing, yes to sexual kisses alllll over and/or lip biting) cuddles: yes yes yes (cuddles are the best)

No, because of the medications I'm on and the fact that I'm 15. However, I would most likely drink if I was able to (old enough and not on medications that might have Bad Side Effects if combined with alcohol)