Cassiopeia

eww liquorice?

banned for being plain

Never had a crush, but A for me a squish is: The interest is mostly intellectual curiosity. I want to talk to them, hear their ideas, I enjoy the way their brain works. I enjoy their company. I feel comfortable and relaxed if they are around. I think about them a lot, reminded of them by stuff. Like I'm at work and someone shows me a picture of a lapel pin that is also a flower pot, and I instantly go, "not really my thing, but XY gonna love this so much, I'll send them a link". I want to show them my favourite places. I want to show them my favourite music. I want to show them the books I like. Things like that. I don't want to flirt with them or flood them with random compliments. Alloromantic people tend to switch into courtship mode when they have a crush. I do compliment my friends, especially if they have self confidence issues, but the "I like your hair...I like your jokes...I like your eyes...I like the way you hold that pencil...I like the colour of your belly button" thing just seems excessive? I never had the urge to say things like that in such frequency. I'm fully functional when they aren't near me. Alloromantic people tend to act like abandoned puppies when their crush is out of sight. I do miss my friends if I don't see them for a while, and I am really excited and happy to see them again, but never really had that intense longing. No jealousy if I see them with someone else they "like" like(d). They can bring along all their exes to whatever we are doing together, I don't mind. I'm actually happy to meet the people who already passed the "decent human being, good friend material" test by someone I consider a friend. I don't want exclusivity. Pretty much what it says on the tin.

Shower. Hot baths always make me feel like I'm soup. WYR live in a boat house or in a house that's built on top of a tree?

I DO THAT QUITE OFTEN, BUT WHEN YOU HAVE AN ACCENT TOO, PEOPLE TEND TO THINK ITS A GRAMMAR MISTAKE AND THEY TRY TO CORRECT YOU?

I-I NEEEEED TO KNOW NOOOW, KNOW NOOOOOOOOOOW CAN YOU LEAVE ME ALONE?! IN OTHER NEWS, I JUST CAME HOME FROM THE PUB AND THE POP MUSIC THEY PLAY IS SUPER IRRITATING.

MY FIRST LANGUAGE HAS NO HE/SHE, JUST ONLY ONE PRONOUN, AND ITS GENDER NEUTRAL? EVERY TIME I NEED TO TALK ABOUT SOMEONE IN THIS GENDER BINARY OBSESSED LANGUAGE, MY BRAIN GOES "UHHH....LETS....SEE...HE...SHE...THEM...WHAT?" I THINK THE WORST GENDER PRONOUN CRIME IS IN FINNISH. THEY ALSO LACK THE GENDERED CRAP, BUT INSTEAD OF USING THAT NEUTRAL PRONOUN, THEY CALL PEOPLE "SE" (="IT"), BECAUSE "HÄN" SOUNDS PRETENTIOUS?

Zola Jesus

I do not react to heat well, so private island, preferably with the climate of Iceland? WYR eat only sweet or only bitter tasting food for the rest of your life?

Most monogamous couples would consider that a reason to split up I have just watched my friend break up with a boyfriend because of this issue (the boy did not even really talk to the other girl).

I actually have this song I like to sing in my head when this whole thing comes up? Its a survival mechanism, like I have to tune out this whole crap. (I have got a few survival mantras, this is one of them). Especially if men try to do this "you are mine" thing? I guess the heteronormativity + amatonormativity + objectification combo is a bit too much, and my brain instantly switches to panic?

When people talk about their partners like they own them, its so...creepy? distasteful? weird? "Be mine" and similar stuff. It just makes me cringe.

Lol, they also come to me with bf or gf issues. I don't know why though. I'm literally the worst person to ask for relationship advice. Yeah, I can look at it with a cool head, but somehow 90% of my advice is "dump him". I guess because all romantic relationships seem uncomfortable and suffocating to me, that seems to be the rational thing to do.

WE HAVE THE SHIELD. ASDFGHJKL YES.

Not sure if that's a good idea. They have no problem assigning romantic feelings to a robot. Like Wall-E? It doesn't even talk but... people assigning gender, sexuality and romance to it.

CONGRATS FOR THE STAR WARS SHIRT. WHAT IS ON IT?

Like 19-20? At least. But I'm not really around your age group anymore, so it wasn't an accurate estimate.

YMBAI that as the actual plot makes no sense to you. How does romantic love reverse neuro damage and re-animate dead tissue? And who wants to cuddle with a walking dead anyway? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Banned for thinking its a tortoise, its clearly a non-temporal life form.

banned because I still can't decide if your green is slightly different from the website's green or not.

I'm soo glad to see the older generations slowly arriving to this forum. I love seeing aros over 25, with most of their friends married, but still having a great time, enjoying their life. Those life stories mean a lot more to me than any pep talk. Really? You both look older.

I'm on several online dating sites for the same reason. Cos you know, as someone sarcastically noted on tumblr, you can't just barge into the nearest starbucks and shout "mmmmmkay, hands up, who is homoqueer in here?!". The only way to meet people is a, gay bars or b, online. I miss having queer friends. Right now I do not have any mostly because of my attempts to try relationships... lets just say, it was a disaster. The whole friend group disintegrated later on. But I need friends who share a similar experience.

Also banned for elitism (just because)

yum vegan sushi?