Queen of Spades Posted May 15, 2017 Share Posted May 15, 2017 Sometimes my thoughts wander and I become aware of the lies our world is drowning in and I can't help but wonder who started spreading them in the first place and why people are so easy to deceive. There's this one lie which hasn't given my mind much rest lately: I've realised that media often features book/film characters who are rather execrable people (douchebags, bitches, advantage-takers, excessively self-centered ones, those with some psychopathic tendencies and so on - I think you get the idea). But, guess what. They meet someone, fall and love with them, and BOOM - they've become humane. Well, my fellows, this "conclusion" is as much of a falsehood as "1+1=10", and now I'm going to explain why. It is undeniably true that "falling in love" is human, as it is a characteristic which applies to the vast majority of the individuals. However, this does not necessarily make one humane - in other words, whether one can or cannot fall in love doesn't have anything to to with their degree of humanity. Why? Because romantic attraction, as the noun would suggest, is something which happens involuntarily, which means the individual didn't do anything for that. Loving someone, whether that "someone" is a family member, a neighbour, a colleague, friend, a life partner, or whatever else, takes effort - it means one cares about their well-being and tries to help them when in need and so on. It gives importance to that person's needs and acts accordingly. This is one of the things which make us humane. Romantic attraction is just a chemical reaction in the brain, which any alloromantic can experience because it's in their DNA. But true love is not something just anyone is capable of. Don't tell me all the shitty people on this planet are aromantics, 'cause I don't believe you. For instance, it doesn't matter if someone has ever fallen in love or not as long as they've committed all kinds of terrible felonies. A criminal is a criminal and they shouldn't get any special treatment because oh God, "they fell in love and now they changed". They didn't. It just happened because it happened, it's not like they lifted a finger for it. Or to give an even more illustrating example, there's this woman who broke up with her boyfriend because he became possessive and so on. And guess what, the man has been threatening to kill her! He clearly doesn't love her, and besides, he's also a murderer. Don't tell me he's humane just because he's in love, 'cause he's not. Murderers aren't humane. Those having been said, we can now draw the conclusion: (romantic) attraction is human, but not humane. Humane alloromantics exist. Inhumane alloromantics exist. Inhumane aromantics exist. Humane aromantics exist. Any of the four combinations is possible. As far as one's humanity is concerned, attraction or lack thereof is totally irrelevant. Period. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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