Queen of Spades Posted May 4, 2017 Share Posted May 4, 2017 It all started with some myths: _________________________________________________________ Aromantic sexuals are just emotionally immature Aromantic sexuals are just scared of commitment Aromantic sexuals will eventually change their minds and settle down Aromantic sexuals will die alone and unfulfilled _________________________________________________________ Seriously? Settling down is not about hearts, flowers, butterflies, roses and fire, and being "over the moon". Commitment and maturity have absolutely NOTHING to do with romance. What about that category of alloromantic people who have a relationship which is healthy form every point of view (respect, communication, understanding, compromise on both sides, mutual support, goal compatibility, etc.) but they choose to toss it all in the trash because "they miss those sweet and rosy, crazy, fairy-tale feelings". "S/he doesn't tell me s/he loves me 15 times a day, s/he forgot about our anniversary, what a tragedy, I never want to see him/her again!". I know a woman who dumped her partner whom she'd been in a relationship with for 4 years just because he forgot to bring her flowers for the 1st of March. She would complain to my mum (her work colleague) that "he didn't bring her stuffed animals as gifts, and doesn't tell her "I love you", etc). Really, b*tch? This is what shallow means. But nooo, no one wants to see that. They don't want to feel free and respected, noo, they don't care they're treated like shit so long as they're in love, because they go like "but I loooove, him/her, don't you know how s/he makes me feel? I feel on cloud nine, we still have this". Who's the immature one now? Aromantic only means your kind of love is like a wall which is risen patiently in time, without the sparks and flames aka romantic attraction ever existing. Simple as that. So what is so invalid about a long-term/lifetime relationship with that "romantic fairytale-like passion" thing being off the bloody list? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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