sarcastic kitten Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Well, that's more a answer for a question by NullVector on my presentation page about my aromanticism and the fact that I'm French. So here are the questions : Quote I'm wondering how you've found being aromantic and French? Do you think that this could be more difficult compared with other nationalities? There is a stereotype that French people are very romantic - is there any truth to this stereotype, in your experience? (we had this thread for 'romantic cities' - do you think that there are such things as 'romantic countries' or 'romantic cultures'?) Well, to begin, there are many things that could explain that stereotype : During all France's History, our culture tended to revolve around romance : the courtly love in the Middle Age during the era of Chivalry, the sexual freedom during the Renaissance (although the carnal and love pleasures' repression by the Catholic church had never been so repressed at the time) ... But I think that was mostly the French litterature and music which ingrained the French's reputation as lovers : The authors : Pierre de Ronsard, known as the 'Prince of Poets' who dedicated many of his poems to severals womens whom he loved during his life, Charles Beaudelaire and his representation of the Woman in 'Les Fleurs du Mal', Alfred de Musset, Victor Hugo, Verlaine, Louis d'Aragon, Theodore d'Agrippa Aubigné.... wen The novels : Charles Perrault, known to have wrote 'Cinderella', 'Donkey Skin', 'Sleeping Beauty' Stendhal's 'Le rouge et le noir', Gustave de Flaubert's 'Madame de Bovary' and 'L'éducation sentimentale', Boris Vian 'L'écume des Jours' Edmond Rostand's 'Cyrano de Bergerac''.... French music: Berlioz, Debussy, Rameau, Edith Piaf, Charles Aznavour, Barbara.... All those people are known to have the Love's theme quite frequently in their composition, novels, poems... And some of them were in a relationships seen as 'scandalous' at the time : Rimbaud and Verlaine were in a homosexual relationship and there was the passionate idyle between Edith Piaf and Marcel Cerdan, a married man. Love is indeed, present in our literary, historic and artistic heritage: there is no taboo. In France we fall in love easily, often, and we do not hesitate to shout it in the whole world while in other country it's much more difficult and taboo to let know his feelings. There is also some French's habit, seen in the eyes of a foreigner, that elevate the romance, on a whole new level. Here is an exemple that show the huge part of the foreigners about this 'French Romanticism' ; Our Habit to Hold the door for someone. This small gesture, harmless, is a peculiarity of the French people. Most of the French people make an effort to hold the door for the person behind them while this isn't the case for most of the countries. Thus, the romanticism of the French would come from these small gestures attentive to the others, although they are more mechanicals than voluntarys actionq. They would translate in the eyes of the others a state of mind which we, French People, would have. While I can't denied that romantism is very much present in our society, it has been vastly shaped by foreigners (especially Asians). For Asians, the romanticism comes at first from the fashion, the art generally, and the buildings. So, as a French, I can say that the romantism that French are sterotyped for, is an old-fashioned romantism. In my experience, I don't think we are more romantics than any others countries (and I won't even talk about sexuality, that would be too long) but we are more...loose I would say. We can touch more freely, we can express more freely our sentiments, but the fact that we aren't as " caliente " as our Spanish and Italian neighbors, whilst also being less restrained than some countries such as Asian's or Germany, making us in the eyes of the world, one of the most romantic people. As an aromantic, I don't think that would be more difficult to 'come out' in a French society. The concept of love and romantism are cloesly linked together and with the globalisation, it is becoming even more important in most of societies. Heck I even think, it would be more difficult for a foreigner, that know my home country, to accept the fact I'm aromantic, BECAUSE OF this french sterotype For some of them, love is a freedom that we can enjoy and it would be silly to not enjoy this freedom. I hope that will help you understand and I apologised in advance, for any mistakes ^^ And I would love to hear your point of view about the romance in your country, how it is to live there as an aromantic, or even the sterotype you're known for ! Ps : There is a humor video made by an Englishman, Paul Taylor, which criticize the Romance in France. It's fun as hell to watch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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