alto Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 My squish just told me that he has asked a girl out on a date, and she said yes. I feel a bit jealous. Does this mean I am no longer aro? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 Well, do you think you're experiencing jealousy because you might have romantic feelings for your squish/friend? Experiencing some romantic attraction doesn't automatically mean you're no longer aro (that's why aromanticism is a spectrum!). But you can also experience jealousy over friendships, so it doesn't necessarily signal that you have romantic feelings for your squish. Perhaps you worry that this girl might end up taking up more of his time and attention and that you'll potentially become less important, which can trigger feelings of jealousy. Or maybe the jealousy is indeed because you have some romantic feelings and this is now becoming clearer. But even if you are jealous because you do have some romantic feelings for your friend, you can still be aro if you feel that it still describes you and your experiences! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apex Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 I've been jealous of friends' relationships when I had 0 romantic feelings myself, it happens. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted December 6, 2021 Author Share Posted December 6, 2021 How do I tell if I have romantic feelings for my friend, vs the scenarios described above? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 54 minutes ago, alto said: How do I tell if I have romantic feelings for my friend, vs the scenarios described above? Do you want to be in a romantic relationship with them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted December 6, 2021 Author Share Posted December 6, 2021 Do I want to kiss them? Not really. Bleh. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arofox Posted December 9, 2021 Share Posted December 9, 2021 On 12/6/2021 at 7:46 PM, Apex said: I've been jealous of friends' relationships when I had 0 romantic feelings myself, it happens. I definetly agree with this. If you have a squish you want to be special to that person in a way and spend time with them. Thats why you sometimes get jelous when they spend time with other people. It doesn't have to mean anything romantic :) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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