iini Posted June 13, 2020 Share Posted June 13, 2020 Hi, I'm Iini! i'm 22, and enjoy reading, cooking/baking, and dogs. For me, the main identity I identify with is aro, mainly because the label was so relieving when I finally accepted it. Sexuality wise I'm still quite lost, there's a lot of gorgeous people of all genders, but it isn't such a huge deal for me, and I don't really feel the need to pick a label for that. When I was a kid, and still when I was a teen, I used to pick either a family friend or some other guy I knew, so that when my friends would ask me who I had a crush on, i could at least say a name. I've never actually had a crush on someone, but I have had what you might describe as squishes, and tried to convince myself that it was a crush. I found out what being aro meant when I was in high school, because I had a friend who was very into LGBTQ+ stuff, but also very anti aro and ace people. Wasn't fun. Anyway, when I moved out to go to uni, I one night gathered all my courage, googled aromantic, and had a panic attack because I felt something click, and decided that maybe I was a grey-aro, and that even if I had never felt romantic attraction, and didn't want a relationship, maybe at some point I would fall in love, and that at 18 I was too young to make any decisions anyway. Fast forward almost 5 years, i now identify as aro, without the grey prefix, and have come a long way in acceptance. I think that covers it, I'm excited to talk to you guys!? 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queasy_Attention Posted June 14, 2020 Share Posted June 14, 2020 Aaaah hi! I relate to so much of this stuff! I'm 23 and just figured some things out two months ago, I think I'm still in the "calling myself grey aro for safety" phase lol! Nice to meet you, glad to hear you're in a better place now 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neir Posted June 26, 2020 Share Posted June 26, 2020 Welcome! Join us for some aro ice cream: I also very much relate to this story and I'm glad to hear you've found your way over to us and come to some acceptance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted June 27, 2020 Share Posted June 27, 2020 Welcome! I'm a bit like you I think. I too feel aromanticism is so much bigger deal for me than sexuality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aro_elise Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 hey! i'm pretty similar. same age; i started identifying as aro at 17, after a long transition from denial, to maybe i'll call myself aro in my head but like i'm not committed, to acceptance. and i've had squishes since i was young, and thought the ones on guys were crushes. and i like your interests ? the only difference is i've always been 100% sure i'm 100% heterosexual, but i also don't consider it a big deal. i look forward to hearing more of your thoughts too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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