To me, that seems more like a moderation issue than a general community issue, but also that is a valid reason to be alienated from here. If you want to surround yourself with more inclusive aros, I suggest tumblr because
1. You can block certain tags and people
2. Even though in the past the site was rife with exclusionism, it has died down significantly over the years so its much easier to just block everyone
3. You can follow specific tags for your specific labels
4. There are a lot of very inclusive blogs (I can't access tumblr rn but I will add some to this post later if you like)