I don't hate kids, in fact I honestly wouldn't mind working with them or babysitting for someone. Even when they're being annoying I'm quite chill and non-abrasive with them, and I like hearing them talk about their silly thoughts. its full time that is the issue with me.
-Firstly, I'm aro, and I'm not really sure about getting a long-term partner in the future. Maybe I will, but its hard to predict. Being a single parent isn't always bad [if the child is born in a stable community where raising children is more of a collective task, for example, that can work. I've heard of cultures and groups that work like that] but on a practical level where I live its usually better: more income to provide for the child, emotional/physical toll of taking care of a child is shared, and the kid has multiple role models to rely on, learn from, and feel supported by. Basically what I'm saying is if I don't have a partner to parent with me, I wouldn't want kids because I don't think it would be good for the kid.
-Secondly kids are expensive lmao. I'm already highly anxious about money, having kids would only accelerate that anxiety and I don't think that would be good for the kid either.
-Thirdly, I kind of want to pursue my own goals and ambitions. Obviously you can have those things alongside kids, but I'm not sure if I have the time management and skills for that, I'm the kind of person that can only really do one thing at a time.
-Lastly, I don't want to go through childbirth! And while adopting is an option, I don't think its right for me either. It is a difficult process, and there is a lot of added trauma and difficult experiences for adoptees that I don't think I would be suited to handle. The whole system is a mess, honestly, and I would advise anyone interesting in adopting to be cautious and understand what it entails.