hun thats a massive no. casual sex is seen as filler till you settle down at best, and being a whore/heartless player who leads people on at worst. i see so many people shame others for having sex with no romantic connection, not just with christians but with the lgbtqa+ community, saying they’re “the worst of the __” who gives ___ a bad name, that you can only truly be ___ if you have romantic attraction and it sucks. because people will only accept you having casual sex conditionally. only if you’ll “get a relationship soon” or if you're in an open one, hell sometimes i feel like people treat cheater better than “pathetic” people who always stick to one night stands/fuck buddies. and oh, don’t get me started on amatonormativity in fwb. then even in the aro/ace community, aro is treated like mutable with ace, the same, like you’re “weird” if you’re aro but not ace, it’s always assumed that you’re both. don’t you dare call that privilege.
it’s not even glorified in queer media. i feel like as a community we use romantic love as some kind of softer, purer part of identity that makes us better, equal to “straights”. feels like its only glorified in the context of between relationships or in relationships, older queer medias the only place you really see that much.