Jot-Aro Kujo

Yeah, I’m not typically into shipping at all. Not in a romantic sense and extremely rarely in a QPR sense. I mean I don’t hate it I guess, I like a good Axlino fanart as much as the next girl, but there’s definitely fandom spaces where all people seem to care about is shipping and it’s like… Idk man, I just think there’s more to fiction than whatever characters people have apparently decided don’t have any value on their own, yknow?

2 hours ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

Apologies for how big the picture is, but I've been trying to dabble more into the androgynous side of things (mixing an overtly masculine shirt with women's jeans, or a femme top with pants made for men in small, or a button up with a skirt etc) and have been wanting to dabble/play with the aesthetics such as "Arcadecore," "Alternative," "Punk," and "Academia," if I'm able to get around to doing any of that.

I would advise against trying punk fashion if you’re not in the subculture. Punk is a counterculture with a long history that’s generally associated with specific philosophical and political beliefs, in addition to a specific music genre. You’re certainly welcome to experiment with punk-inspired elements, like denim or spiked hair, but I would not recommend calling yourself punk or dressing in an all-out punk style if you’re not prepared to commit to the punk lifestyle. 

Um… I mean, a few of these, but man, I’m still using my PS2 and DS Lite. They still work just fine and the games are fun, so why not, lol

Greetings. What do you code? Do you have a Neocities?

Why would that make you a bad aro? “Aromantic” means “doesn’t/rarely experiences romantic attraction”, not “is homophobic” or “has some burning hatred of the concept of romance”. If people are telling you it’s wrong to like gay romance you can tell them the Reagan administration called, they want their philosophy back

Yeah. It's difficult, especially when you factor in other things like gender, ability to drive, race, etc., but it's possible. I find it works out best with other allo aro folks; I've got a close friend who's also aro and we've been fwb for a few years now.

I see. Well, I don't think I can help you there. Probably best to talk to either a therapist, or like, a kink group.

Hmm. Well, I'm not quite sure how to help you there. Is that the only thing bothering you? It sounds like you're ashamed of the concept of sexuality and arousal in general. Why?

Like… Specific ones, or just any kinks whatsoever? Also, you don’t have to censor the word “kink”. There’s nothing wrong with it. 

Why are you ashamed?

Slayer? Testament?

It’s not a red flag. Kind of immature/trying too hard, but not malicious or concerning. Give it enough time and he’ll either get into them for real, or get bored and give up. You can also just tell him you’re not interested. 

Why is this in the aromantic discussion topic tho

Personally I hate Plato, so I think it’s really funny to use “platonic” in a technically inaccurate way. lol 

????? Who is out there saying “platonic friendship”?

Yeah, this is not normal behavior and definitely qualifies as sexual harassment. 

Welcome! Always good to hear from other allo aros :)

That’s bizarre. I’ve never heard of this “base attraction” thing, sounds like a load of bullshit to me. That person needs to mind their business. 

Does the difference matter?

10 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

Well I don't play or even know what the rules of Yugioh but it is also a cool mentality although not nearly as efficient as brushing everything off and moving on.

Nah, it's pretty efficient, at least for me personally. If I just brush things off, in the end they're gonna come back to bite me in the ass, and it would also require detaching from my emotions and experiences to an unhealthy degree. It's better for me to tackle them head on and know that I have the support necessary to do so (from my friends and from Stardust Dragon, who is also my friend)

7 hours ago, Harvest-Unity said:

Does anyone have a favourite robot character? I love Data from Star Trek

I also like Data, but my favorite is probably Jenny Wakeman :)

Nah, I get the Yugioh mentality. When things get tough I just remember that my friends and my trading cards believe in me, so I can do it if I just believe in the heart of the cards.

32 minutes ago, Ted guy said:

I don't know if you're indicating you don't believe in homeopathy.

But there is a toddler with autism in my family and she changes drastically when we give her causticum. She doesn't know we are giving her anything.

It was by seeing this i decided to try it, but I understand if you don't believe it.

(Googles causticum) Ah! So you're feeding a child lye. YEAH I THINK SHE MIGHT ACT A LITTLE DIFFERENT IF YOU'RE POISONING HER YOU DIPSHIT. STOP IMMEDIATELY AND TAKE THAT KID TO A DOCTOR.

Does he, um, have an actual doctorate in anything or is he just handing shit out willy nilly? Lmao. If you think you're having some hormonal problems with sexual arousal and would like medical assistance (because that's what staphisagria does), that's something you can talk to your primary physician about, but probably not best to leave it to weird scam artists.

And before anyone comes at me about something something colonialism or whatever, I'm pagan and latina. I very much believe in folk medicine, I just think you should always be aware and careful with what you put into your body, and "homeopathy" is usually code for "pyramid scheme where some unlicensed fuck tells you that rubbing essential oils on your skin (NEVER DO THIS) will cure your cancer". Take care.

5 minutes ago, HelloThere said:

I just personally am still at the point where I'm very sure that I'm aegosexual and aro for now, but I just want it to stay that way. I don't want to experience sexual attraction simply because I would love to go through life without it, without being focused on romance, sex, or even dating. I want to live and focus on my family, my close friends, and my career. Those three things are all I really want. I just want to live life without obsessing over someone romantically. I never want to be that way. I mean I'm not disgusted by that in society very much, I'm just really not interested, and I don't want my lack of interest to change because even with how society portrays that, I just don't want it. It's all on a very personal level what I want, I hate even being turned on because it just makes me worry and doubt. I'm well aware that I don't have to be the black stripe ace to be ace, but this stupid part of me is thinking that not being that kind will make me far more likely to not be ace at all and that I'll have to deal with sexual attraction, something I just really don't want any part in.

As someone who does experience sexual attraction, it’s… Really not that big a deal. I experience sexual attraction, and here I am, a recent college graduate about to start my career, with plenty of close friends and thriving hobbies. I’m not “obsessed” with sex and it doesn’t interfere with my life; I also have friends who are in romantic relationships, and they’re doing fine too. Interest in something doesn’t mean it’s all you care about. 
Conversely, it’s entirely possible to have other distractions that aren’t related to sex or romance. 

I think you should reflect on why you believe sex and romance to be “obsessions” that get in the way of the rest of life. It’s totally ok to not want to experience them, but I’m not sure you actually understand the reality of how attraction works, and the way you talk about it has roots in harmful stereotypes.