Jot-Aro Kujo

8 minutes ago, HelloThere said:

Random people would call me gay for having pet names with friends.

They're just homophobic, then. You should just ignore them.

9 minutes ago, HelloThere said:

No that's mostly just random other people, I'll keep my friends firmly in the friend area and if it expands platonically, then awesome! :D

Huh? I'm confused what you're talking about

I have an aro pin on my bag:

It will definitely prompt questions from friends and family if you’re not out, but when it comes to the general public, I’ve found people don’t comment on it unless they already know what it is. Which is pretty rare. Then again, I’m 25, so… I have no idea what the situation in high school is. 

I like ‘em. Everyone can be babe to me and that don’t have to mean anything. If someone gets all no homo about it then they’re not someone I’d want as a friend anyway lol. 
Of course, if someone’s genuinely uncomfortable with pet names, I’ll respect that. But just because I call someone something doesn’t mean I’m interested in them, especially since I’m Latina and queer so I’m just inclined towards pet names anyway 

3 hours ago, LIVI0 said:

weird name for a club tbh

Gay-Straight Alliance is a name that's been used by LGBTQ+ activism and social clubs in schools since the 80s. Some schools call it something else (Genders & Sexualities Alliance is pretty common these days), but there's historical precedent for Gay-Straight Alliance because it emphasizes the goal of supporting one another, especially in the days of things like no legalized gay marriage and the AIDS crisis.

If they ask in good faith, just tell them no. If they harass you, they're probably homophobic and you should ignore them.

49 minutes ago, Cal said:

I have bpd and depression, but I never really dealt with this until recently.

(And by "this" I mean the loss of appetite)

Loss of appetite is a symptom of depression, so I’d guess that’s what it is, but I’m no doctor. Definitely talk to a doctor and probably your therapist about it. 

Idk, are you depressed? Otherwise you should probably see a doctor

It makes me good at Yugioh

21 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

Wait what is it called when someone lacks libido. Is there a microlabel for that. All I know is I'm sex repulsed. Is that the microlabel I'm kind of confused.

That’s just a low sex drive. I mean maybe there’s a label for it, but like… It varies from person to person even for allosexuals, and plenty of people don’t really have much of a sex drive until like, their 20s. It’s really not something anyone needs to worry about, especially when you’re young. 
Of course, if you find it helpful to use such a label, all the power to you. But I feel like society these days pushes people (especially kids!) to constantly overthink and compartmentalize everything about their relationship to sex, which I don’t think is really healthy. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. You don’t need to think about sex if you don’t want to, and how you feel about it doesn’t need to be anyone’s business but your own. 

Not at all. Plenty of people don't, myself included. I know younger aros tend to hype up QPRs because they get defensive and try to go for identity politics, but they're not a requirement. Which of course isn't to say that QPRs are bad, or that they're amatonormative or anything- Just that they're a personal choice that's not right for everyone, and not something that needs to be constantly brought up as some weird gotcha.

SIMPLE AND CLEAN BABYYYYYYY

Also lately I've been into Just Like Heaven by the Cure. It's my favorite Cure song, I think. My mom plays it in the car a lot.

Does it really matter?

To me, you're new people, lol. But I hope all the newer people are doing well.

59 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

I kind of understand what your saying but no offense to be honest your grammar is really bad.

That's not a very nice thing to say. English is a difficult language that not everyone is inclined towards, and telling them they're doing poorly doesn't serve to do anything other than make people feel bad about themselves, regardless of if you put "no offense" in front of it. 

I'm confused, is this like an RP thread or..?

17 minutes ago, nonmerci said:

So, a random person on YouTube told me first that everybody needs romance as our goal is to pass our genes so we survive as a species, and then that America should stop normalizing imbavalence in the brain. But my favorite was when he said that not being attracted to anyone is like not liking food : I have to admit that he has the prize for originality cause this one is a first.

Oh he’s gonna have a hell of a time when he learns about my eating disorder lol 

Aside from acting as a beard, has he said anything about what you would get out of this relationship? Or does he just want you to perform something you don’t experience, for the sake of his own desires? Frankly, I think if you really love someone you should love them for who they are, not how they could pretend to be what you’d like them to be. I don’t think this is a good idea. Maybe with someone else it would work out fine, but this guy sounds pretty selfish. 

12 minutes ago, queer_kaleidoscope said:

I had a nightcore phase in middle school.... luckily it only lasted a few months lmao-

Excuse me? Nightcore goes hard as fuck. I'm 25 and I love nightcore. Kill your inner music snob and listen to things that go fast.

I was a Hetalia fan in high school 💀

Probably not a very safe idea to put your full name and face out in public online. 

Here’s the thing: Whether you like Tiktok or not, if they’re genuinely banning it because of association with China, that sets an extremely dangerous precedent. Because now it’s seen as ok to ban apps/media platforms based on association with whatever foreign countries get deemed our political enemies. 
Sure, maybe for now that means banning Tiktok. But what could it become? Maybe banning harmless games because they happen to be made by innocent game developers in China. Maybe it could mean preventing Americans from chatting with their foreign exchange student friend from China. Maybe it could mean banning media in Spanish because something something evil Mexicans stealing our jobs. Maybe it could mean keeping Middle Eastern refugees from communicating with their family back home who are relying on their help to escape a war zone. Maybe it could mean banning any media that tries to educate people on anything other than The Great American Way of Life. You see what I mean?

I don’t like Tiktok. I don’t use Tiktok, and I’ve seen the harm that it can do. But I can’t, especially as a Hispanic American, feel good about it getting banned when I know that its ban has nothing to do with its actual content, and everything to do with xenophobia and the prevention of global information exchange.

Just now, SwiftySpeedy said:

The United States fears its American citizen's data being collected and sent to China—thats what.

Right. So it’s ok for American citizen’s data to be collected and sold by American companies, but we can’t have it go to China, because then people who aren’t white- I mean, our political enemies might see it! Nevermind all the underpaid tech workers in Asia, Africa, and South America who do moderation for American social media, we’re just going to pretend they don’t exist. All our good American data is totally bought and sold behind your back exclusively in America. Can’t have any of them chai-knees looking at our good American data! We only allow AMERICAN panopticons!

God I hate this country. 

5 hours ago, DeltaAro said:

So if I may ask, do you believe in Aphrodite literally, like that she exists as a supernatural entity who interacts with humans? Or is she more of a metaphor for you? Or something in-between?

Something in between, I suppose. People always ask me like “So you REALLY believe in the gods? You REALLY think there’s real people up there? You REALLY think blah blah blah” but at the end of the day, does it really matter? Even in ancient times they weren’t always thought of in the strictly literal sense. And either way, whether they exist or not, my religious practices help bring comfort, order, and guidance to my life. Same as any other religion. 

5 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

Probably the data collection.

 

You mean that thing pretty much every app and online service does? If they’re concerned about data collection, they should write legislation pertaining to data collection, not ban one random app while letting others off the hook. I mean, just look at the scandals Facebook has bad selling people’s private info.