Jot-Aro Kujo

Just Like Heaven by the Cure, Kiss Me Goodbye and Moonlight Escape by Buck-Tick, Wow That's Loud by Green Day, and... Oops I Did it Again by Britney Spears. ✨ One of these things is not like the others ✨

1 hour ago, nonmerci said:

 

This is aphobia so having a new label sadly won't fix this. No matter how you call yourself, some people will still not get it cause for some reason, they are unable to understand the concept of not feeling romantic and sexual attraction.

This. People who don't respect boundaries don't respect boundaries- Doesn't matter if you call yourself aroace, a lesbian, married, a nun, if they don't understand/care that you're not interested then having a special label for "not interested" isn't going to change that. I mean, you can still make one if you want to, but I feel like you're putting the blame in the wrong place. Just like people who use neopronouns or xenogenders aren't the reason why people are transphobic, people who use microlabels aren't the reason people won't respect your boundaries as an aspec.

Oh great, Guy Who Hates Arospecs is back

I think you should move on. It's great that you're supportive of him, and I understand that you still like him romantically, but from what you've described it seems like he's just not capable of reciprocating your feelings. Why stay in a relationship that's not fulfilling your needs? Sometimes people just aren't compatible, and that's fine. I think both you and him would be better off if you two stayed as friends but not romantic partners, and instead you find someone who's more suited to your needs.

What is that?

Does it really matter? I don't mean that in a sarcastic way, I mean it genuinely. How important to you is it to have such specific labels? Is it something that brings you joy, or something that brings you stress? At the end of the day, labels are meant to help you. If it's helpful to you to be very specific, then I wish you all the best of luck, but I find a lot of people get way too caught up in hypercategorizing everything they experience to the point of causing themselves a lot of distress. I suggest evaluating how worth it to you it is to use a very specific label over an umbrella term, and then once you've figured that out, go from there.

So it's like a dress-up gacha? Like Love Nikki? Huh. 

What game is this? 

Scary how many people here I'm seeing say, like, "porn", or "queer something-or-other". That's not a guilty pleasure! That's a perfectly normal, healthy thing to be interested in- Which isn't me saying that everyone is into that, obviously, but like, there's nothing wrong with having an interest in sex or romance or what have you. Yes, even if you're ace and only looking at it out of curiousity (although in that case, I would strongly advise you to take a moment to think about why you're describing other people's emotions and interests as something weird and bad. That's not very nice). Why does that have to be a "guilty pleasure"? Why is sexuality and queerness something negative and shameful to you, instead of something you can unabashedly take part in?

I'm not saying this to accuse people of anything, for what it's worth. I'm saying it to try to open people up to internalized homophobia and sex negativity. Why do you feel that being into these things is something negative? Who is telling you such, and why? Is it actually something bad? What message are you sending to others when you describe these things in this way? Ask yourselves these questions.

Anyway, my guilty pleasure is the live action Monster High movie lol

I mean from what I understand the definition of asexual is "doesn't experience sexual attraction". You just said you don't find anyone sexually attractive, so... You pretty much answered your own question. I mean, obviously it's up to you to decide how to label your experiences, no one can truly tell you if you're xyz, but like... I mean that does what it do yug

Eh, not really (fwiw I don't have OCD). Why should I have to bother? Allos don't really have pressure to compartmentalize everything they've ever done or felt, so why should I? I'm just living my life. 

Mine's Hairspray for sure, though lately I've been into Bat Boy lol. Problematic fav or whatever. I'm not really a fan of Burton Sweeney Todd but I did work on a production of the stage musical that was a lot of fun, if miserable when I had to stay up until 2 AM every night cleaning out the blood 😭

1 minute ago, whatistheromance said:

I'd say to human artists: Don't get discouraged because AI is better than you at drawing, be encouraged to power the future with your drawings being used to make ai better and better.

The problem isn't that people are discouraged because the AIs draw better than them. The problem is that the AIs are being trained on art taken from real artists without their consent or permission, and then sold to people who are using this technology to avoid employing human artists. Those artists whose art the AIs are being told to replicate, or being taught how to draw from, deserve to be paid for their work and they deserve to have the work attributed to them. AI art, in the end, is just futuristic plagiarism.

The question of what is or isn't "real art" is always going to be a subjective and ultimately futile one. What we need to be worrying about is not how to define AI art, but rather the impact it has on human artists, which is, at the moment: Some fucked up bullshit. Do I want AI art to shit itself and die embarrasingly? Yeah. Will I say it's not "real art"? No, cause I wouldn't say that about anything. Art is subjective and unquantifiable, but the impact is has on people is very real, and that's the important thing.

Mmmmmmmmmmmm pretzels

Yeah

Oh, Solaria. Good to see her getting around. I still can't believe such a homophobic song got so popular when it first came out 😭 I mean I can but. lmfao

They are weird but I think they're kinda awesome. I love babies. Wouldn't want to be a parent but I'll entertain a baby when needed

Wym by highly sensitive?

Bestie this is a site largely made up of people who don't date, so I don't think you're likely to find much help here. Have you tried getting into fighting games? There's lots of gay people and everybody loves Shingo Yabuki, so I'm sure you'd have a decent chance.

I have severe ADHD, and I've been on and off medication for it since I was a kid. I'm very much aro and very much not ace. lol

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Not into any of the others, but I like Queen! Glam rock is so fun :) If you like Queen you might enjoy the Struts.