Jot-Aro Kujo

Just ask? Just say “hey are you aromantic?” There’s really no other way to know. 

Methinks you might be on the wrong forums lol. Try Reddit

3 hours ago, Dobby said:

Ah no, I didn't meant "something happening" like that, I meant it like an experience in general. Like for example romantic relationships that didn't felt right repeatedly, or an interaction that made you think "no, that's definitely not for me". Not something dramatic, just something, you know what I mean ? Like just any interaction or situation or whatever

And also I didn't mean it as a justification, but more as a way to be more sure about it 

I don't know if you see what I mean ? And I'm sorry if I phrased my opinion and questions poorly, and sorry also if that was hurtful in any way

Ahhh ok, that makes more sense. Still, I don't think you really need anything like that to use a label. I mean I've never gone scuba diving but I know I wouldn't like it yknow?

12 minutes ago, Dobby said:

No I do not think that, that's not what i meant, and I'm quite sure that's not what I wrote either haha

Where did you find that "tragic backstory" in the word "experience", I'm curious? XD

Well it seems you're under the impression that in order to identify as aroace, something has to Happen to you that justifies it. Just comes across to me as the old "10 years ago my brother killed my entire clan" type deal. What's the point?

??? You think you need a tragic backstory to have an orientation?

😭 Reddit being a goddamn joke as per usual, I see... Well, I personally think it's a lovely term. Does a good job of describing itself without painting anyone as "more" or "less" aro than anyone else. Thank you for inventing it!

1 hour ago, SailorsDelight said:

thank you! the Cure is on of those i listened to loads before i learnt they're considered goth haha. do you have any recs for video games by any chance?

Definitely the Castlevania series, they’re pretty much the pinnacle of goth video games. Also Devil May Cry (especially the first one), maybe Vampire Hunter D on the PS1 if you’re brave enough to deal with that damn sewer level lol

Nice to meet you. As far as current goth and darkwave goes, I recommend Psyche Corporation, Astrophysics, Exist Trace, Moi Dix Mois, Buck-Tick, and Unlucky Morpheus. The Cure is also still pretty active. If you're interested in joining the goth subculture, I recommend also exploring gothic literature, film, and video games.

Yep, only thing to do is talk about it. Which like, to be honest, is really the first step to determine if such a relationship can even work at all. Communication is key in any relationship, and if you can't talk about what you want to begin with, it's not going to work out. Good luck!

Political lesbianism… 2!!!!!!!!

The point at which you have too many labels is the point at which they stop being useful to you. That's the entire point of a label. You can have 20 labels and if you feel they serve their purpose in describing yourself to others, great. You can have 3 and feel like they make people confused and it's easier to consolidate them into one simpler label. Whatever works my liege

Hello. What kind of music are you into?

It’s called whatever you feel comfortable calling it. That simple

Yep

The entirety of Aromanticism by Moses Sumney, Oh No by Marina, I suppose Love the Subhuman Self by Daisuke Ishiwatari and AISHA if you ignore the context of Millia's weird history with Zato lol

Hello. What kind of metal do you like?

Are you looking for aro literature in general, or specifically aroace? Not all aros are ace, so I’m a little unsure which you’re asking about. 

Sure sounds aro to me, but it’s up to you. You know yourself best. 

I’m still trying to figure out what I’m gonna do this year. Ideally I’d like to stream something, but idk what…

You can do whatever you want forever

16 to 20? Um… Please practice Internet safety. 

As someone who's been in a similar position before: Break up with him. Ditch your friends. Whatever it takes, but do NOT put your own wellbeing at risk just because of peer pressure. Also, the wishing for a premature death thing? It might not sound that serious at first glance, but the reality is, that is 100% suicidal ideation and it's NOT a normal or healthy thing to experience in any relationship. In most cases if you said to someone "Yeah, I really like this person, but sometimes he says things that make me feel suicidal and he won't stop and all my friends agree with the things he's saying," they'd be pretty horrified, yeah?

Also, to be honest... Marriage? He's thinking about marriage at 17, after you've been dating for FOUR MONTHS?!?!? Romantic or not, that's an absolutely absurd commitment to even think about making at that stage. Even if you were just friends looking to be roommates I'd be cautious, but marriage as a teenager to someone you've only been with for not even so much as a year... Yeah, no. There's like a 99% chance of that ending badly in any circumstances. It's also REALLY REALLY REALLY fucked up for him to make jokes about killing you for "cheating" when you talk about your friends. That's a sign of controlling behavior and is NOT an ok joke for him to make.

Ditch his ass and don't look back. Get friends who respect you and your life choices.

It's pretty cool sometimes 👍

Nice to meet you. Vintage fashion you say? Got a favorite era?

…You do mean aspecs who aren’t also bi, right?