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So something I have thought about a little bit over the past few days is how often I get asked how it feels to feel romantic attraction by other people on the aro community that don’t experience romantic attraction or are unsure about their identity. So I think I should say this: romance will not feel the same for any two people, romance like gender is a very individual experience, sadly it is unlikely asking people how it feels to be in love (romantically) will tell someone enough to determine if they are aromantic or not. Your identity is your own and it is ok if you don’t understand it yet. (Also I should say I am not frustrated at all about these questions I just figure this might be helpful for some people.)

I obviously can’t say for certain because I am not there but it’s super easy to project past experiences onto your current relationships (romantic, sexual or platonic) (I would know my boyfriend has to deal with it and tell me when he thinks that’s what I’m doing) just be cautious I encourage you to keep an open mind and if you believe it is safe, communicate and tell them how you feel. Also be sure to keep yourself safe if you feel this is an attempt to have control your life do keep your distance. Be safe <3

I encourage you to not view romance/a romantic relationship as a trap. for many people it is an expression of their type of love and is often a show of vulnerability and trust. This is not supposed to mean you have to accept or even lower your frustration about the situation, you are allowed to feel angry and upset about this situation because you are provided with information that the relationship your currently have may be changed and change can be hard. Additionally something about romantic relationships as a person who is in one and can experience romantic attraction. it is not necessarily “sacrificing” your freedom (at least not in healthy relationships) it is more like having a friend who you are closer to then anyone else who you communicate and make some decisions with. If it is something you can experience it is an amazing thing but not everyone views it like that and that is ok you have a different view on romance then anyone else because we are all different people who have different experiences.

So as I have mentioned before I have a boyfriend and we do not hide our relationship in our school. We don’t run into a ton of problems but one has been jabbing us in the side for about two years now. There are two teachers who will ask really weird questions about our relationship like asking us for a typed out copy of our love story whenever we pass him in the hallway (we laughed the first time thinking it was joke but he just keept asking), accusing us of making out in the bathroom (witch we have never done), asking who is “top”, asking my boyfriend if I have had “the surgery” (I’m transgender) and one told me I couldn’t have a demiromantic pin because I am in a relationship. It’s really weird and we have told them to stop. I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or if it’s actually weird. Additionally these teachers never do this to anyone else and I’m not sure if it’s because we are a mlm (man loving man) couple (I don’t know of any other not hidden queer relationships) or if it’s just because they are weird.

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Oh no how do I get rid of him? the next person wins a stupidly accurate period cramp simulator strapped to them that they can’t remove.

We still get called slurs sometimes but it’s a lot less we got some help from the one of the groups and they got the person who recorded the original video suspended. I feel a lot better and he seems happier thank you so much for the advice I feel like I can be myself in the school without as much shame.

My parents are definitely not safe and he only has his mom and we’re not entirely sure about her. We looked into queer and racial empowerment groups and we are going to some on Thursday thank you!

TRUE he is one of my all time favorite authors! TPBM has accidentally slept in jeans

I am a sophomore and I have a boyfriend who is the same age I am. I am white and he is black (this is important context for later). we are both on the aro spectrum and we are together a lot of the time in and outside of school. In my school district we have a free period at the end of the day for homework and we can pick what class want to go to. Him and I went to my math classroom to work on homework together. He had an audition for marching band after school and I could see he was nervous so I gave him a hug to help him calm down. Apparently someone recorded our hug without our permission and posted it to the internet with the caption “gay ass n*****” directed at my boyfriend. And apparently a lot of our school saw it because now we are both getting called the f slur in the hallways all the time and we brushed it off at first because it’s just something that comes with being openly gay (or bi in his case) but it hasn’t stopped at all and it’s kinda getting to me, I tried to report it to my school but they just accused me of making out with him in the school bathroom (which I have never done) and said if I didn’t want to be called that I should do that. Now i don’t know what to do I feel bad that he is getting called slur’s because of me even if I didn’t do anything on purpose he says he doesn’t blame me but is full feel bad plus I feel confused and angry that the school made up stories about us making out it feels kinda gross. I have kissed home before but that is at my house and not school even less the school bathroom. Is there any advice you can give me on what I should do if anything?

I don’t know where else to say but i don’t know any other Demi-ro people irl so I guess here is the best place. So I had a guy give me his number after a group project and I told him I wasn’t interested but that we could still be friends and instead of respecting that he got very defensive and pressured me to say what i didn’t like about him, and I know I don’t owe him an explanation as to why i don’t want to go out but after a lot of pressing from him I told him I was Demi-ro and I also explained what it was. I guess I kinda expected him to respect that answer but he didn’t and just asked why he couldn’t be the exception and that I was just playing hard or get and using it as an excuse. It was just kind of invalidating and disrespectful I tried to explain that’s not how it works but after he said he didn’t care and that it was made up I decided he wasn’t worth my time and just ran away. I’m just kind of annoyed that people can just respect others.

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I’m a really good artist I’m getting published in a book soon

I know it is and I told my nana and my mom but they won’t do anything I kinda knew it was coming bc it’s what they did for me that’s why I decided I would take things into my own hands bc I’m not going to let him get hurt like I did.

Tysm for making this I’ve had this in my mind for awhile and I just need to vent it, so my little brother (8 years old) got pantsed by a close “friend” of his at our grandparents house i believe she was over to stay the night and she took a picture of his private parts without his consent she is a few years older then him and he told me a full week after this happened he told he said no and she did it anyway, this isn’t the first time something like this has happened either she tries to go in the bathroom with him and the only way he can go in by himself is if I hold her arm and let him lock the door the only reason I held back from telling her she wasn’t welcome anymore was bc she was a kid and maybe she didn’t know better. but there have been enough chances and I’m mad like really mad my grandparents live 2 hrs away by car and I am a few days away from getting my motorcycle endorsement and I’m going to ride up and give her a piece of my mind I was abused as a kid an no way in hell am I going to let that happen to my brother.

There is this one you can try https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/1259021

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You mean like something where you Can personalize owl house characters?

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For context LGBallT’s a little characters made out of pride flags and in the shape of circles here is the link to make ur’s if you want to (also if you want other pride flags click on the paint brush and it will present you with a lot of colors if you click on the colors it will give you other pride flags) (https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/1304563) also here is mine :)

You can focus on your interest but only your interest for example if you don’t like a subject in school you will literally learn nothing and fail the class I wish I could get testosterone today

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