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i have! just today and i think i made it very clear too i hope no one bothers me about this again -
(i am OP btw, since anonymity ain't working out for me) update: I got interrogated by A's friends again. I told them i didn't like A, and they were clearly shocked. And then they asked me all like "do you think he's cute?" and i had to actually think on that one because they seem to be very VERY intent for me to like him back (that's the vibes i was getting) and in a joking manner i would've said yes bc visuals wise he was an ok lookin guy but i got the feeling that if i said yes it would be a win for the boys and i didn't want them to win i kinda went "hmm" out loud by accident and they commented "oooooh [they're] thinking" or smth to that effect (dont remeber too well, all i remember is how the tone came off in a "ooooh" way idk what else they straight up asked me "do you wanna be his girlfriend?" like no strings attached at ALL. and i tried to retort that i didn't know him but they were all like "you should get to know him" which i guess makes sense but FUCKIN HELL they'd also asked whether i'd date him and I kinda panicked because I didn't want to upset anyone (sounds rlly stupid right? but i tend to want to make people happy, i guess that's a flaw sometimes) so i caved and said maybe they took that as a win (i think, sure seemed like it) and i took it as a loss they also kept mentioning (post-interrogation) many times that he's blushing/is shy which tbh i can't say it's a lie (im very much not into everyone else's circles but from what i see A and the others are pretty good buds so my bet is they talk about this stuff or smth) - if i had the personality and the swagger for it i would, but im too much of a nice guy to do so that song is SUCH a mood on so many levels i suppose I can, but i guess im scared to? my science teacher is a solid guy and is quite nice to talk to, but somehow i just can't bring myself to for fear that they'll get into trouble or smth. i mean i guess that's the point, is it not? but i don't want people actively hating on me (because i don't like negative attention) and the boys going against me will probably be the death of me when i go to science class to be frickin honest i think my social skills are kinda weird in that sense and i can almost never muster up the courage irl to do it, despite every cell in my body wantin to. but then again, i never actually initiate the conversation about A liking me (because i can't stand being in that position) and so it's always brought up at the most randomest fucking time ever (today, for example, after a science quiz) and im kinda forced to improvise when it happens the unfortunate reality of being afab and presenting femm i guess im not even that person who wears anything ""seducing"" or ""sexualizing"" i just wear a sweater and jeans most days because that's the runt of it i just never understand what people see in me. is it my personality? do they really like how i dress? literally i've thought about this for some years now and can never figure it out
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green is my fav but purple is just as good
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forgot to mention aziraphale and crowley from good omens, who i 100% headcanon as ace/aro not confirmed tho
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oooh yeah 85 is good too, anythin about 90 is weird tho
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love this!
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awesome!
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sooooo a funny situation happened (tl;dr: someone has supposedly a crush on me and i list all my options)
a bunch of classmates (we sit in lil desk groups of like 6 ppl each but the groups are so close together that i can talk to like 7 different people if i wanted to) during science class told me that apparently some guy has a crush on me
a few things:
- i don't know this guy on a friends basis, or practically any basis. literally i don't think we've talked.
- i (obviously) don't like him that way, he rings as the type of guy i wouldn't relate with at all (kids cartoon enjoyer person x average teenager who likes sports doesn't go together well IMO)
and so. they (people who told me this) were all like "do you have snap? instagram? we can give you his" and i said yes to the instagram (bc i dont have snapchat) and im just sitting there sorta just registering the fact that someone has a crush on me despite almost never interacting with me??? at all??? like sometimes he'll comment on smth i said and i'll comment back but it's strictly classmate to classmate
those two who told me (yea there were two of them, a guy and a girl) were like. 100% trying to like get us talkin or something. i don't know. all i know is that they were super insistent on it. the dude was like trying to convince me like "he's hot" (which, aesthetically speaking, i could see. fair. he looked conventionally ok tbh)
i tried to tell em that i didn't share those feelings back and eventually i caved and said "he'd make a good friend, i guess" and they said that they were gonna share his insta after class (they must've forgot or smth bc it didn't happen, i didn't want to remind them anyways)im basically on the level of denying that the whole thing happened/assuming they were joking because how in holy fuck does one develop a crush by never actually talking to said person?
i mean he must've straight up went purely by looks then, which doesn't compute because im not ugly and i certainly never think i am but ive always considered myself not crush material (proven wrong 1 time before, making the number of times people have crushed on me 2)
maybe it's got to do with me bein aroace but i simply refuse to believe people could have a crush on me, because it's just not possible. but it also is? idkkkk
anyways. what should i do if they mention it again:
1) pray to the universe that they will conveniently forget (the option im sticking with)
if they don't, then:
2) get his insta, talk to him, turn him down politely
3) don't get his insta, avoid trouble of rejecting
4) hope that it was a joke and that it was purely out of satire. that they won't bring up the same satire twice (similar to 1st option, but with added denial)
5) get his insta, reject, but make new friend
anyways help.
being aroace sucks on moments like this because i have the experience of an awful "someone has a crush on me" to be able to reject easy and early, but im low on irl friends so maybe that could work out?
idk how this whole "crushes" thing works. i mean it's certainly confirming that i am in the age range of romantic crushes and that i am 100% aroace but it's hard to deal with other people's messes
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Yeah that sucks, my own first reaction would also be instant panic to be honest… But there is a good chance they were testing the waters for him, and your response of ‘He’d make a good friend I guess’ has probably told them you are not interested ‘like that’. I guess that is why they did not bring it up again after class. I am doing a whole lot of assuming here though 😅
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Depends on your definition of nice but if its my nice then cool! Next person recieves a signed album from their least favorite music artist
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Not bad. Next person gets tickets to florida... but i accidentally forgot the return ticket
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two tests/quizzes in one day :/ why does math and science have to do this to me im pretty sure i got like 80-90 on both of them, i wasnt sure bout a few things whoever tf down in admin gave me math AND science in one semester (3rd n 4th period...), i am going to have words with you
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alternating between the graveyard book (neil gaiman) and good omens TV guide (matt whyman) fiction and fantasy, always. never realistic fiction, i'd rather dive into a world that doesn't exist. im always a sucker for well-made romance (think Every Day) and occasionally dystopia basically same as above.
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you got the rank already? i haven't even gotten it n i have more posts
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haha lol we've kinda formed our community, but i mean hey, you started it that counts 4 smth
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Q: what does a sane person do when they see a ghost? A: Depends which variation of the bible you're talking about
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spongebob lord dominator from wander over yonder is heavy aro coding
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How are You a 'Bad' Aromantic Spectrum Person?
A User replied to RedNeko's topic in Aromantic Discussion
- i ship people WAY too hard for my own good on TV shows i like - i'm actually into romance only when it's not corny - im also neurodivergent (which idk is bad or good IDFK) - romance replusion never occurs to me. i'm either apathetic or i don't give a fuck as long as im not involved - i make sex jokes and romance jokes a lot (they're funny sometimes) -
mannn this gives off them vibes to hazbin hotel but then again dude did do composing for HH so it's so obvious here
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indeed it is, therefore i'd never ever ever use it in my life
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YES INDEED
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hello guys there's new font settings! YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS?!?!?!
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trevorspace, and ditch the label. as well as aven and this site i dont know any more but that dont mean there arent anymore, there's prolly thousands that have boring uses for big companies IDK
