Angrboda

Are any of my fellow aros minimalists? Do you like the idea of having as little to keep up with as possible? Does most of your stuff fall into the category of either necessities or things that make you truly happy? Do you live in or want to live in a tiny house/converted van/micro apartment? Just curious to know how many of my aro buddies can relate.

Wow! I feel old! XD

LOL Na, I just see it as a chore. Always confused me why the rest of the world seemed so exited over it. To me, it's simply something needed to live. It's just kinda boring.

Can't remember if I've ever asked this question here before, but I'm curious to know if anyone else can relate to this. I really hate eating as an 'activity'. There are times that I don't mind eating of course, when there's nothing else going on, or when a food I really like is present. But eating 'for fun' or as a 'social activity' just isn't something I care for at all. I'm in my mid 30s & have only ever met one other human who can relate to this, so I thought I'd ask my fellow aros. Anyone?

What are some things that you find to be most attractive in a partner? What appearances, personality traits, & beliefs/views are most important that they have? Likewise, what are your biggest deal breakers?

Might have been. I can't remember for sure.

I had a big one with the solar system on it. I also had lots of drawings I'd made of dinos & other animals. A few drawings of my toys too.

We counting Marvel? My favs are The Avengers (the first one.) And the first three Toy Story movies (cus the fourth one sucked, in my opinion.)

Pretty sure that hell would freeze over first.

Good point.

If you're 8 years old & you think things like kissing & romance are gross, I'm pretty sure that's just called 'being human'. If you're 16 years old & you think things like kissing & romance are gross, it might mean you're aro.

Two historical fiction books.

I am a nerd who studies the Bible, along with many other topics. Being aro doesn't, in any way, go against the teachings of the Bible. The Apostle Paul, (who wrote more than half of the New Testament, if I remember correctly) was a happily single man, who greatly encouraged others to stay single as well. No part of aro-ness is in conflict with the teachings in any way &, if someone tries to tell you otherwise, point to Paul. Also, keep in mind that, as aros, we can still be very loving & caring people, we're just not 'in love' with people. Look at Jesus! He gave his life out of love, but the Bible never mentions him dating or being 'in love'. You don't need to be afraid of God's reaction to you being aro. He already knows & lots of his people probably fall into that category.

Do keep in mind, there are many different kinds of aros, as well as aces. She might still be interested but, even if that were the case, things might not be the ways you'd want them to be. I know that must be frustrating but, if you do indeed want very different things from life, probably best not to try dating her to begin with. Who knows, though. Maybe try just asking her what she wants from life?

We all grow & change at every point of life, so it's possible that any of us could, potentially feel differently in the future than we do at the moment. If it's helpful for you to use this term, that's great, but there's no need to let that word define your life.

Why are romantic relationships are treated so differently from every other relationship? E. G. Let's say you got a job offer in a far away country & decided to accept. If a friend or family member were to complain that it wasn't fair because you'd be too far away & that THEY didn't want to move there, so it was, therefor, wrong of you to go, I think everyone would agree that they were being a butthole to you. However, if you were in a relationship/marriage & a partner were to make that same statement to you, you'd be seen as the butthole for going. -_- That just seems so messed up to me. Anyone else have examples or thoughts on this?

Why are romantic relationships are treated so differently from every other relationship? E. G. Let's say you got a job offer in a far away country & decided to accept. If a friend or family member were to complain that it wasn't fair because you'd be too far away & that THEY didn't want to move there, so it was, therefor, wrong of you to go, I think everyone would agree that they were being a butthole to you. However, if you were in a relationship/marriage & a partner were to make that same statement to you, you'd be seen as the butthole for going. -_- That just seems so messed up to me. Anyone else have examples or thoughts on this?

Just curious. For those of you who want a QPR, what would you want it to be like?

I think many people who are aroace still get squishes for people &, if you get them for both men & women, I think that makes sense. Though I'm not sure what the correct term would be for that.

Sadly, we live in a society that puts a lot of focus on romance. Everyone seems to assume that if loved is over a certain amount, it must be romantic by default. I think your relationship with him sounds more like a squish, which is awesome! But, since he has different needs, I think dating him again would lead to a sad situation for both of you. I think it's great if you can stay good friends with him though. :)

I've always been afraid to admit this to anyone, for fear of hurting them, but here goes... I've never felt any sense of pleasure or happiness from spending time with someone. Even if it's someone that I care about, including close friends & family who I get along with & love very much. I'm fully able to feel the full range of emotions with them, but their presence doesn't evoke an emotion. It's been this way my entire life & I've always been afraid to discuss it. I've tried going on meds for anxiety & depression &, while I feel less anxious & depressed about all of this, the problem is unchanged. Nothing makes any difference in this at all. I've been to counseling but they've been unable to figure it out. The first guesses are usually anxiety, depression, or an emotional block, but, once I describe it more, they agree that it doesn't seem to quite line up with those. I'm lonely a lot, but being around people, even people that I love, does almost nothing to help. Can anyone relate to this?

Angrboda is a character from Norse Mythology. I like this character because she's a Frost Giant & I think ice powers are the best superpower. Also, she was one of Loki's partners. The Marvel version of Loki is so epic! So few characters line up with what I'm attracted to, but he's perfect. He even has all the stuff that gets people bonus points in my book, having a British accent, wearing a cape, being brilliant, & being a villain. ^_^

I know this is an odd question, but does anyone else hate the typical stuff that most people like to do for fun? I really HATE sitting around & eating as a social activity. To me, sitting around & relaxing with people just isn't enjoyable. I've never met anyone over the age of 8 who felt the same way, but hey, if I'm not the only person who's aro, then I can't be the only person who feels this way, right? Just to clarify, I'm not hyperactive at all. I can study for hours. But I tend to stay busy, either physically or mentally most of the time, especially when around people. Can anyone else relate to this? Much like my aro-ness, people always tried to tell me I'd grow out of it. I'm 34 & haven't. I like the way I am, but I'd love to know if anyone else feels this way.

My first squish was on a cartoon character on a show that my little sister was watching. I was 15. XD

Yes, I've noticed that too. :p In the most recent Spiderman I kept going back & forth between "SQUEEE! That's so cool!" & "Wait... That doesn't make any sense for the character to do that..." It felt more like an exiting fanfic to me.