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4 hours ago, Cassiopeia said:

YMBAI  that as the actual plot makes no sense to you.

 

How does romantic love reverse neuro damage and re-animate dead tissue? And who wants to cuddle with a walking dead anyway? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

Asexual necrophiliacs?

@DannyFenton123 I can definitely see why "After the Storm" would be a good song to listen to when you're upset. It makes me feel calm, and towards the end of the song, I feel a little more resolved to try and put things back together.

@OptimisticPessimist 

6 hours ago, Namakemono said:

I get super paranoid around people who I think are flirting or hitting on me. Like, to the point I outright ignore and run away from the person whenever they show up. A few times I even had small anxiety attacks.

I can relate to this 100%. If I think someone might be hitting on me I immediately shut them down using any method possible. I'll pretend they don't exist when they try to talk to me, I'll even lie and say I'm taken (which is partially true because I have a mutual squish and we're not formally in a qpp).

I have a happy song playlist, and my guilty pleasure song (Geronimo) just came on.

3 minutes ago, Zemaddog said:

So ah, this happened yesterday

 

(If someone could tell me how to do spoilers that would be great thanks)

I've gone on the subreddit /r4r to make friends, except people leave as soon as they realize I'm not interested in dating them...even though I explicitly stated I wasn't looking for a partner at the start.

Wow people really like mentioning fish sticks, ew

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3 minutes ago, Rising Sun said:

But isn't exclusivity by definition limited to one person ? I thought that because of that, it could only be used in monogamy.

Personally, I'm very monogamous, so I have this need to have a bond where we both are each other's most important person for life, I need a bond that we're alone to share.

Well, exclusivity means something that's not shared with others, and you can have a group of people you're exclusive with, like polyfidelity. I'm pretty monogamous too, and it'd be ideal if my squish didn't date anyone and just kept up a great friendship with me, but at the same time, if pursuing romance and other intimate relationships makes her happy, I'm all for it, no matter what shape or form it takes.

16 minutes ago, Rising Sun said:

2. Doesn't work with polyamory.

Actually, it still works with polyamory, because you can have multiple people at the center of your universe.  

13 minutes ago, Rising Sun said:

Not jealousy like in romance. More a need to be each other's most important person. If the other person has a romantic partner, it doesn't matter, but you want your platonic relationship to be more important anyway, to be the first in terms of emotional intimacy and attachment. 

So, I wouldn't qualify this as jealousy, but still as a need for some exclusivity.

That's interesting. For me, I don't really want my platonic relationship to be more important than my squish's potential future romantic relationship. I want our friendship to be equal in importance.

I'm terrified that my squish and I will grow apart, or that my squish will turn out not to be aroace and end up choosing to abandon/reduce the intimacy of our friendship for her future partner. I'm afraid that I'll spend the rest of life forcing myself to date, because I want intimacy and sex. I'm scared that I'll have to be closeted about my aro identity forever, because people think that lithromanticism is a tumblr identity.  

Okay, so speaking as someone who's lithromantic, and had a crush turn into a squish, here's my opinion on defining romantic attraction.

The difference between platonic and romantic attraction, for me, is exclusivity. When I feel platonic attraction towards someone, I want to be a significant part of their world, but not the center of their universe. I want to get close to them and make them happy, but I don't feel the desire to always be close to them, or be a major source of their happiness. When I feel romantic attraction towards someone, I want to be their everything. I want to be the one who is there for them, 100% of the time, providing everything and anything they want or need--except when I actually end up doing it, or get asked to do it, I feel really gross. 

I'm a transguy, and before coming out, I identified as lesbian. Then I came out as a straight trans guy. And then after discovering non-binary people and the occasional attraction to men, I identified as queer. Except no matter what I identified as, I always had trouble staying in relationships, or actually wrapping my head around relationships. Whenever I asked people out, I actually felt more nervous about them accepting me than rejecting me, and whenever people started going after me, it felt really weird. I always assumed I was just insecure, but the aversion to getting into romantic relationships persisted after I worked on making myself less insecure.

I feel like Napstablook is depressed more than aro. Napstablook struggles with making connections with others in general, like there was that one scene where he tries adding you as a friend, but then rejects his own friend request.

Ew (Nothing personal, I dislike all olives.)

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