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On 2016. 05. 22. at 3:19 PM, Dodgypotato said:

What about the misconception that aromantic people, "Just can't get a date."

Its hilarious, cos usually the case is:

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AS LONG AS I CAN WEAR JACKETS, I'M HAPPY. I OWN WAY TOO MANY OF THEM BTW. I HAVE LIKE FOUR OR FIVE PAIRS OF SHOES SLIPPERS INCLUDED, AND THATS MORE THAN ENOUGH. BUT I HAVE FIFTEEN DIFFERENT JACKETS, AND I HAVE MY EYE ON FIVE OTHER ONES. SEND HELP.

The mine. I love the air in caves.

WYR eat caribbean takeaway or mexican takeaway, assuming they both authentic, good quality ones?

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13 minutes ago, Vega said:

I LIKE HISTORICAL COSTUMES SO THOSE ARE FINE. AT LEAST AESTHETICALLY THOUGH OFTEN THE MOVIES ARE CRAP.

YEAH, THERE ARE SOME AWFUL ONES.

EVEN WHEN ITS NOT HETERONORMATIVE, IT COMPLETELY FREAKS ME OUT. I TRIED TO WATCH TIPPING THE VELVET LIKE FIVE TIMES?! I NEVER LASTED LONGER THAN THE FIRST TEN MINUTES OF IT.

BUT HOW STRANGE IS THAT BAROQUE, REGENCY ERA AND VICTORIAN WOMEN'S FASHION MAKES ME ROMANCE REPULSED? ITS WEIRD. ITS JUST CLOTHING AFTER ALL.

2 hours ago, Vega said:

MY MOTHER DEFENDS GHOST RIDER. D:

MINE LIKES ROMANTIC PERIOD DRAMAS. I HATE THEM SO MUCH, SOMETIMES EVEN SOMEONE DRESSED IN A CERTAIN PERIOD'S ATTIRE MAKES ME CRINGE

1 hour ago, omitef said:

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Actually, in my relationships, I'd overcompensate for my romance-repulsion by trying really hard to be romantic.

 

This was so me...

YMBAI allowing yourself to experience discomfort in romantic situations, and/or getting out of these situations actually feels liberating.

I have consented to so many things I did not really want or enjoy but because I was taught that I was supposed to want and enjoy them, so I kind of sucked it up and went along with it. Sometimes because I did not know any better, sometimes because I did not want to hurt someone.

• I'm still active on dating sites, and I go on dates (because for me that's just another way to find people I can relate to...and I have an aro coming out section in my profile, and I tell these people what to expect)
• I'm very physically and verbally affectionate

kiddie one...at least it won't make me as sick

wyr wear all white or all chicken yellow for the rest of your life?

Did you have any aromantic moments as a kid? Maybe as a teenager, before you were familiar with the label?

I used to hate Disney, and kinda still do.

Well, most Disney. _{(I loved Lion King, cos it wasn't as focused on romantic love as the rest of them...and also, I used to think Simba was female, it had nice long hair, my first language has no gendered pronouns, and six years old me wasn't too well informed when it came to lions, so...anyway, that's another story)}

So, I used to get repulsed by most of their cartoons, and just leave the room when they started singing. My parents were so amazed by my wonderful taste in music, but looking back, it wasn't really the music itself that made me cringe, but the plot.

Anybody else had similar?

12 hours ago, RedNeko said:

big thing about how if you're a man and heterosexual, aromantic then you are automatically a misogynist.

No, this is a very real problem, lets talk about it. Heck, even I feel awful and predatory and all sorts of horrible sometimes because of this, and I'm also a girl.

No wonder hetero guys started the voluntary celibacy topic.

Wanting only sex from someone isn't predatory or misogynist or a bad thing. If you communicate honestly. respect your partner, respect boundaries and ask for consent, then there is nothing wrong with that. Just because you cannot give them your everlasting romantic love, you not going to treat them like a piece of meat...

(Not like romantic love ever stopped them anyway? Respect and common decency aren't results of romantic affection?!)

tbh I think people do this on purpose. If somebody is shy, they may send one mutual friend to find out if the person is into them. That is an understandable thing, asking big questions is scary, rejection is tough, etc.

But front of a random crowd? That is so immature.

I kind of have the feeling that when they do this front of a group, they do so because they want to pressure you into saying a quick yes. Its like proper intimidation. They are not going to have an intimate conversation about how they feel about you or how you feel about them. Seriously. What do these people even think? What kind of relationship do they even expect if that's how they start...?

Hopefully they will leave you alone.

I really like kids, under other circumstances I'd probably already have some. But being a single parent isn't exactly easy, and there is too  much stuff in my life I would rather not put a child through.

@Zemaddog you got some serious disney prince thing going on there

iced coffee and sunshine made me happy today

ITS AMAZING HOW THE VERY MOMENT SOMEONE MENTIONS THE SEXUALITY OF DISABLED, NEURODIVERGENT OR AROMANTIC PEOPLE, EVERYONE SUDDENLY FEELS LIKE AN EXPERT ON ASEXUALITY. FASCINATING.

Banned because your pic looks like a clipart stockphoto (where is it from btw?)

My makeup turned out well, it was sunny, and warm. I finished my book in the park, the birds were singing and everything smelled of flowers. Later on I had some kimchi, a dish my flatmate used to make.

LLAP CAPSLOCKIA

So my first squish was this boy at nursery, called Z. He had extremely rosy and round cheeks, and such a vivid imagination. We would come up with fake stories and spread them among the other kids. We were quite efficient, sometimes we managed to start like two hoaxes per week. Some turned out be so realistic, the adults would investigate...

Later on, I had another squish, a girl named P. She had the same birthday as me. It developed into a strong friendship, we were inseparable. Ironically, we had a massive fight because of a shared birthday party (her guests were some spoiled brats and made a massive mess everywhere). After that we became more and more distant.

I'm still friends with my most recent squish, who prefers to be called L. I met them at uni, they were just moving into the same dorm. It was a friendship at first sight. I don't think they actually spent a day in that assigned room, we traded rooms and roommates with others as quick as we could. My roommate moved in with her boyfriend, and we convinced theirs that they don't really wanna live on the fourth floor of a building without an elevator

We lived together for three years, it was so domestic, so ideal. They had a special way of making coffee, and we cooked for each other all the time. We would not shut up til early morning, chatting, watching movies. They are so intelligent, one those ancient souls. They also helped me through uni and a relationship that was quite distressing, and I'm forever thankful for all of their support.

Its been years, but I'm still super excited to see them, although we live far away from each other. We write snail mail to each other by hand, and we always put a little present like a bag of nice tea or a little drawing in the envelope. (Welcome to the "how to confuse the hell out of your alloromantic acquaintances" course. Hand written letters? There is no way that isn't romantic, right?! It has to be. Don't even bother trying to explain.)

So yeah, I still consider them a squish. And also a friend.