Cassiopeia

On 2016. 04. 16. at 7:07 PM, Mark said:

Anyone care to guess my age, BTW?

early/mid twenties?

cake

IS IT CONSIDERED AWFUL ADULTING IF I HAVE BEER AND ICE CREAM FOR DINNER?

I just recently realized that flirting is also a two folded thing, but I guess people can't really tell if they feel both romantic and sexual attraction at the same time.

Like the sexual flirting (seduction) is more body language, but its definitely separate. Biting your lip, looking through your eyelashes etc is seduction.

eww

liquorice?

banned for being plain

Never had a crush, but

A for me a squish is:

• The interest is mostly intellectual curiosity. I want to talk to them, hear their ideas, I enjoy the way their brain works.
• I enjoy their company. I feel comfortable and relaxed if they are around.
• I think about them a lot, reminded of them by stuff. Like I'm at work and someone shows me a picture of a lapel pin that is also a flower pot, and I instantly go, "not really my thing, but XY gonna love this so much, I'll send them a link". I want to show them my favourite places. I want to show them my favourite music. I want to show them the books I like. Things like that.
• I don't want to flirt with them or flood them with random compliments. Alloromantic people tend to switch into courtship mode when they have a crush. I do compliment my friends, especially if they have self confidence issues,  but the "I like your hair...I like your jokes...I like your eyes...I like the way you hold that pencil...I like the colour of your belly button" thing just seems excessive? I never had the urge to say things like that in such frequency.
• I'm fully functional when they aren't near me. Alloromantic people tend to act like abandoned puppies when their crush is out of sight. I do miss my friends if I don't see them for a while, and I am really excited and happy to see them again, but never really had that intense longing.
• No jealousy if I see them with someone else they "like" like(d). They can bring along all their exes to whatever we are doing together, I don't mind. I'm actually happy to meet the people who already passed the "decent human being, good friend material" test by someone I consider a friend.
• I don't want exclusivity. Pretty much what it says on the tin.

Shower. Hot baths always make me feel like I'm soup.

WYR live in a boat house or in a house that's built on top of a tree?

5 hours ago, Starry Sky said:

 

JUST LEARN TO USE 'THEM' BY DEFAULT. IT'S COMPLETELY NATURAL AND GENERALLY UNDERSTOOD BY EVERYONE EVEN IF SOMEONE CLAIMS THAT IT MAKES NO SENSE. I KNOW PEOPLE WHO USE THE EXCUSE THAT THEY WERE TAUGHT THAT SINGULAR 'THEY' IS WRONG AND THAT IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR THEM TO USE IT BUT I'VE CAUGHT THEM USING IT ALL THE TIME ANYWAYS. YOU CAN'T REALLY MAKE A MISTAKE USING SINGULAR 'THEY'

I DO THAT QUITE OFTEN, BUT WHEN YOU HAVE AN ACCENT TOO, PEOPLE TEND TO THINK ITS A GRAMMAR MISTAKE AND THEY TRY TO CORRECT YOU?

I-I NEEEEED TO KNOW NOOOW,

KNOW NOOOOOOOOOOW

CAN YOU LEAVE ME ALONE?!

IN OTHER NEWS, I JUST CAME HOME FROM THE PUB AND THE POP MUSIC THEY PLAY IS SUPER IRRITATING.

MY FIRST LANGUAGE HAS NO HE/SHE, JUST ONLY ONE PRONOUN, AND ITS GENDER NEUTRAL? EVERY TIME I NEED TO TALK ABOUT SOMEONE IN THIS GENDER BINARY OBSESSED LANGUAGE, MY BRAIN GOES "UHHH....LETS....SEE...HE...SHE...THEM...WHAT?"

2 hours ago, aihpen said:

I THINK IT'S BETTER THAN IN GERMAN, WE DON'T REALLY HAVE ANY PRONOUNS LIKE THAT OF MY KNOWLEDGE.

 I THINK THE WORST GENDER PRONOUN CRIME IS IN FINNISH. THEY ALSO LACK THE GENDERED CRAP, BUT INSTEAD OF USING THAT NEUTRAL PRONOUN, THEY CALL PEOPLE "SE" (="IT"), BECAUSE "HÄN" SOUNDS PRETENTIOUS?

Zola Jesus

41 minutes ago, Louis Hypo said:

Mind Reading

 

WYR holiday in a rainforest or on a small private island?

I do not react to heat well, so private island, preferably with the climate of Iceland?

WYR eat only sweet or only bitter tasting food for the rest of your life?

22 minutes ago, pengu said:

 I agree. I've seen many people become super sad and confused when they start having feelings for another person while still loving their partner. As long as you don't act on those feelings without your partners ok, it's not cheating right?

Most monogamous couples would consider that a reason to split up

I have just watched my friend break up with a boyfriend because of this issue (the boy did not even really talk to the other girl).

5 minutes ago, aihpen said:

If there is one person that owns me then that person is me and no one else 

I actually have this song I like to sing in my head when this whole thing comes up? Its a survival mechanism, like I have to tune out this whole crap. (I have got a few survival mantras, this is one of them).

Especially if men try to do this "you are mine" thing? I guess the heteronormativity + amatonormativity + objectification combo is a bit too much, and my brain instantly switches to panic?

When people talk about their partners like they own them, its so...creepy? distasteful? weird?

"Be mine" and similar stuff. It just makes me cringe.

5 hours ago, Vega said:

Sometimes, I think we have the advantage because we can be so logical about the whole situation. 

Or maybe you're just good at advice.

Lol, they also come to me with bf or gf issues. I don't know why though.

I'm literally the worst person to ask for relationship advice. Yeah, I can look at it with a cool head, but somehow 90% of my advice is "dump him".

I guess because all romantic relationships seem uncomfortable and suffocating to me, that seems to be the rational thing to do.

WE HAVE THE SHIELD. ASDFGHJKL YES.

21 hours ago, 46odnetnin said:

Same, whenever we manage to transfer concousness into a robot body I'm down for volunteering.

Not sure if that's a good idea. They have no problem assigning romantic feelings to a robot. Like Wall-E? It doesn't even talk but... people assigning gender, sexuality and romance to it.

CONGRATS FOR THE STAR WARS SHIRT. WHAT IS ON IT?

26 minutes ago, breaddd said:

Wow, I was expecting people to thing I look younger 

How old did you think I was?

Like 19-20? At least. But I'm not really around your age group anymore, so it wasn't an accurate estimate.

27 minutes ago, Mark said:

Without kissing having a zombie disabling or confusing effect. Thus making sense in terms of plot.

YMBAI  that as the actual plot makes no sense to you.

How does romantic love reverse neuro damage and re-animate dead tissue? And who wants to cuddle with a walking dead anyway? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Banned for thinking its a tortoise, its clearly a non-temporal life form.

banned because I still can't decide if your green is slightly different from the website's green or not.

I'm soo glad to see the older generations slowly arriving to this forum. I love seeing aros over 25, with most of their friends married, but still having a great time, enjoying their life.

Those life stories mean a lot more to me than any pep talk.

On 2016. 04. 12. at 4:09 AM, Louis Hypo said:

I'm 15 and began identifying as aro at 14

On 2016. 04. 08. at 3:15 PM, breaddd said:

I'm 15

Really? You both look older.