Cassiopeia

7 hours ago, omitef said:

 

I've gone on the subreddit /r4r to make friends, except people leave as soon as they realize I'm not interested in dating them...even though I explicitly stated I wasn't looking for a partner at the start.

I'm on several online dating sites for the same reason. Cos you know, as someone sarcastically noted on tumblr, you can't just barge into the nearest starbucks and shout "mmmmmkay, hands up, who is homoqueer in here?!". The only way to meet people is a, gay bars or b, online.

I miss having queer friends.

Right now I do not have any mostly because of my attempts to try relationships... lets just say, it was a disaster. The whole  friend group disintegrated later on. But I need friends who share a similar experience.

Also banned for elitism (just because)

yum

vegan sushi?

LOL, I HAVE THE BUMP AS WELL. EVEN BETTER, THE BONE IS BENDED SOMEHOW

AND I CAN ACTUALLY WRITE WITH THEM. HAVE YOU EVER TRIED TO PUSH THAT BALL POINTED DISGRACE ON PAPER? THE INK DOES NOT COME OUT. YET THIS IS THE "OFFICIAL" THING.

Just now, aihpen said:

I SUPPORT THIS FABULOUS IDEA!

 

AND ITS FELT TIP.

I'M LEFT HANDED, THEREFORE I HAVE A PERSONAL VENDETTA AGAINST BALL POINT PENS

@Vega

And its called  "Strong Relationships Need Lust as Well as Love"

Gotta love that casual micro aggression in the title. Like there is no way someone could have a strong relationship without those things. And I'm guessing the author is convinced that there are no types of relationships, just the almighty Cishetsexromance ™ and that's it.

So more along the lines of wanting a bff, not the "I'm gonna rip your face off if you even dare to look at my spouse" type of thing.

17 minutes ago, Spud said:

Yeah, it's kind of a problem that Sex Ed classes are decades behind modern talk They just recently started acknowledging gay people, but I seriously doubt most places even talk about bisexuality, let alone gender, romantic attraction, etc.

Well, the sad thing is, at that point I was out as queer, and I was active on tumblr and several LGBTQ chats for years, but I still did not know the word "aromatic".

@Rising Sun

1, Jealousy with squishes? That is something new. I never had it.

Is it similar to the romatic variety?

2, It'd make sense, I guess it could be true. Sorry, I don't really know. The whole thing does not happen to me.

15 hours ago, omitef said:

The difference between platonic and romantic attraction, for me, is exclusivity.

That is a really good point, the lack of jealousy is a big thing. That was one of the red flags that prompted me to look into what aromaticism is. (Well, I actually looked up "asexuality but for feelings" Oh dear. Now, that is why school sex ed should have this aro and ace talk.)

5 minutes ago, Vega said:

Recently, Scientific American had an article about "researchers are realizing that love and lust do not necessarily originate from the same part of the brain" (or something similar). 
And I'm like, yeah, no shit. Half the people on this site are living proof of that.

Is that thing up online? Or do you have the issue? Could you scan it? I want to read it. Pleaaaase.

@NatkatI'm not even surprised. People need to learn what "romantic", "love", "sex" and "sexual" means and use those words appropriately. Even so called LGBT activists mix and match things randomly, so they don't have to say dirty words like homosexuality. Its so annoying.

I'm also worried about how my mental health affects my orientation. I do know that depression and anxiety does things to people's libidos, and I have felt it too.

Sometimes I question if that messes with the source of romantic feelings as well. What was first, the aromanticism or the depression? Am I depressed because of what society put me through because of my identity? What if is a symptom?

Of course, rationally I know that people who are depressed fall in love every day, and frankly, if every depressed person was aro, people would know about it. Also, I'm not depressed all the time.

So yeah, its silly, but I'm still worried about it.

Its a funny feeling when you know you can't trust your own brain functions.

6 minutes ago, Vega said:

ALL HAIL THE WISE PEN. 

 

THE PEN IS, AFTER ALL, MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD. 

YES WE HAVE THE ULTIMATE WEAPON

WHY DID I NOT HAVE THIS WHEN I WAS AT SCHOOL?

yumm

banana fritters in syrup?

Banned for knowing about the cake and not sharing this information

Yellow. I knew someone who had ochre coloured eyes, it was beautiful

WYR have toothache or a broken bone?

Martha Jones

LOL I RANT SO MUCH ABOUT MARRIAGE, GOOGLE THINKS I'M PLANNING MY WEDDING. TARGETED ADS EVERYWHERE

#EPIC AI FAIL

yummm

elderflower syrup?

Banned for elitism.

Scientific research

!This topic may discuss some sexual things that could make people uncomfortable. That is not my intention, so please stay safe!

Fellow people who have mismatching orientations (so mainly allosexual aromantic or alloromatic ace folks, but others can reply as well), where is the line that separates sexual and romantic things?

Are there certain gestures, actions, behaviours that clearly fall into this or that category for you, no matter what? (OK, sex obviously is sex.)

But what about gestures that can be seen as both sexual and romantic?

The prompt for this topic was this strange discovery I had about kissing.

I never was the one to just randomly make out front of the lockers at school. In fact, I never really understood what's the point of it.

For me, if a kiss happens in a neutral setting, it feels awkward and slimy, and unnecessary. Even boring.

Like kissing good bye? (As in french kiss). Nope. I'd rather give them a hug or something, that feels a lot more meaningful.

But if it happens in a sexual situation, it is exciting. Its a bit like when you switch another light source on, suddenly everything seems different, but still the same. Like somehow the whole kissing thing starts to make sense. The action itself is the same, at least on the physical level, but I can feel a clear contrast in how it feels. I cannot explain what is exactly different about it, it just is. It feels lot more natural as well.

Anybody else had similar experiences?

is it me, or is that like gyros? how does it stay like this?

WELL CONSIDERING THAT ITS A CHAT-FORUM, BUT EVERYONE CONSTANTLY SCREAMS...MAYBE ITS A PROMPT THAT WE ARE SLIGHTLY ANNOYING?

100 POSTS. NOW MY BABY ACCOUNT IS ALL GROWN UP AND CAN LEGALLY DRINK