Cassiopeia

Most embarrassing. I have some anxiety issues anyway, it would not make too much of a difference.

WYR live 3000 years but forget everything that happened in every 50 years or would you live a normal human lifespan but have eidetic memory and remember every single thing?

Also Shane from the L word. She might not be full-on aro, but I think we can say she is on the spectrum.

She was definitely aro-coded.

Anyway, not exactly a positive role model, I can thank this show for half of my aro identity related insecurities.

so has lavender, and it also reduces anxiety

3 hours ago, RedNeko said:

Ah, but if you were ace you still might have that problem, not all aces have no sex drive

That is sorted, my libido is usually quite low anyway.

Are there certain forms of romantic content that make you cringe you less?

Does it fluctuate?

Like on some days, I can put up with some stuff, but on others, I just can't. Its strange.

With music, I don't mind it at all, as 95% of the songs are about love, and I have just learned to tune it out and not to listen to the lyrics.

Books are mostly okay-ish.

Romantic movies are an absolute nope.

Yes, all of this.

Also sex messes it up on a whole new level. Quite often I wish I was ace, so then I did not have one more thing to worry about.

The no-strings-attached thing only works if the people involved so to speak lack the strings to attach. Otherwise it is a can of worms.

I decided not to do one night stands, or casual physical things because a, I won't notice if they'd develop feelings for me, and b, if they would, I don't think it could possibly work out well.

Also, being with someone who has a romantic relationship with someone else, even if all parties know what is going on and it is consensual...lets just say, a horrible idea.

20 minutes ago, PhysicsOwl said:

I'm 20, so your poll puts me in 2 different age ranges. Is there a way you can make it so that ages aren't repeated (eg. 15-20, 21-25, 26-30, etc)? Having repeated ages might mess up the data and can be confusing. (not trying to be mean or anything, I am also curious about this and look forward to seeing the results)

yeah, I guess so. How do I edit it?

On 2016. 04. 05. at 10:05 PM, Dusty said:

So first I dated a girl who asked me out since she had a crush on me. Back then I thought I had a crush on her too (we were friends first for couple of months) but was worried when I just didn't miss her when I went for a trip right after we started dating. Nor did I feel comfortable kissing her or holding hands or hugging all the time or texting good nights with kissing emojis... She was my friends, though, maybe even one of the bests I've ever had so I just held it in and thought I'd start loving her soon. I didn't, obvisously.

I feel like you just described me and my ex. I had something very very similar, with a slight difference. Welll, for one, I'm not ace. And also the scenario was different, as we had her ex in the picture, them being best friends and flatmates. Looking back, I guess he still loved her.

I don't know.

I can be so oblivious when it comes to romantic feelings.

I tend to interpret everything as a platonic gesture cos that is my only frame of reference.

So, she was so paranoid that I'd get jealous, but strangely, he did not bother me at all. I was glad she had somebody she trusted, and that she had a good friend. It was so natural, I wasn't even sure if I was the third wheel or him, as far as I was concerned it was a perfectly functional tricycle, though I wasn't dating him or having anything physical with him.

But absurdly, I felt guilty that I did not feel possessive or territorial at all. I mean according to my allo friend, I was supposed to hate him or something to prove that I loved my girlfriend. Wut?

Uhm, it was a surreal experience. Funny thing, after years, I miss them both.

Well, I mostly questioned if I was straight lol. Cos you know, every lesbian has a straight girl crush, and I did not have one, so I must be faking right? Everyone said strong feelings and sexual attraction supposed to come together as a buy one get two deal.

Also the situation was more complicated, as the only thing close to a crush was a platonic squish, but I had that with all sorts of genders. I was so confused. Most of the time there was nothing sexual about it, I just wanted to have deep conversations about the meaning of life, hear their opinions about space travel and extra terrestrial life, wanted to bake brownies with them, or go for a hike in the mountains... I did not really mind that one of these friends was a gay man, in a committed relationship. Or a straight girl. Or you know, my actual (now ex)girlfriend. Quite often, I had several people I had squishes on, but I did not dare to talk about it. Cos you know. It does not supposed to work that way.

So yeah, I thought I was proper messed up.

I'm 26...

Just I wanted to find some aro people who are around the same age as I, cos I have the feeling that I'm a bit older than most members.

Tiger lilies. My favourite flowers, I used t grow them everywhere.

WYR host a house party for your friends or go out with your friends to try a new pub/see a band you do not know?

all of them

No shoes at all.

WYR see random bits of the future or see  random bits of the past?

Gryffindor. 100%

Doctor Who chapters: I'm not sure if Patrex or Prydonian???

A bowl of peppers. Sauces tend to taste artificial.

WYR swim in a lake or sleep in a tent in the forest?

I think Spock and Jim in Star Trek TOS have some extremely strong aro vibes.

I mean they are in a canon QPP. Jim Kirk is pretty much pansexual, and Spock...well he is an alien, with quite different standard behaviours and ways of expressing himself. They are friends in an exceptionally intense way, as Gene defined it, they are each others t'hy'la. That means something along the lines of a "friend/brother/lover" type of relationship in an extraterrestrial alien culture. Anyway, I think it sounds a lot better than zucchini...though I have no idea how to actually pronounce it

Also, Katniss from the Hunger Games. Okay, she totally has PTSD-related things as well, but I think she isn't really romantically into any of those two guys.

The Doctor from Doctor Who, he/they are soo ace, and mostly aro too, depending on what regeneration. There is quite a bit of more or less canon material that supports the theory.