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  1. @aussiekirkland So true. I'll try to remember this every time I have a breakdown when I feel lonely. This is the kind of true positivity people need in life.
  2. Because they can't decide to like somebody or not. And they have no control over the things they like. Crushes are an involuntary visceral experience, and I'd say even much more than simple physical attraction as they trigger feelings of attachment. The person has a list of things they like in a person, including things that they never consciously chose, and even things that they wish weren't in the list. A crush is merely their instinct saying "you've got a match" in some kind of harsssing way and forcing them to get attached to the target. Mind spamming. I can imagine how it can be annoying to have it. I'd say it's like hunger or pain, it's almost impossible to suppress it once it's there.
  3. Pejorative or not, it would be inaccurate, as limerence can fade while romantic feelings stay. It would create only confusion as there are nonlimerent romantic relationships.
  4. I never needed to explain it. My father has always known how much I value friendship, and told me it's unhealthy
  5. Oh, I didn't know, sorry I'm just trying to express how old people really are inside. Somebody can be physically older but be actually much more immature than their partner in their mind. Lack of maturity makes people much more incompatible than they'd think at first.
  6. Yes and no. I agree with this if it's mental age you're referring to.
  7. Indeed. What I've seen around me is that such relationships aren't based on friendship. They're based on attraction and only that. Other than that, those couples are just strangers, so if attraction fades, nothing remains. As those people are often repulsed by the idea of combining friendship with romance, they're unable to build sustainable and truly loving relationships. It looks passionate but inside, it's all empty.
  8. I think I got 21 when I did the test. I ticked almost everything except sensitivity to horror movies because I don't find fiction scary contrary to real events on TV.
  9. It's originally an asexual joke, asexuals are supposed to reproduce asexually, supposedly like plants or amoebas. Like, you must reproduce by mitosis and budding. I like to imagine what it would mean. You'd wake up one day, and pop, you've got a surprise baby who grew from your arm or whatever other place on your body. I'd like the ability to photosynthesize instead, that would be quite useful !
  10. I don't think that the model works either. Because companionate love in the model is what happens after passion is gone in couples, but they still feel romantic attraction for each other. It's just... "domesticated" ? (I'm not finding a better word right now) Romance shouldn't be reduced to the usual limerence, there's much more than that.
  11. The only time i remember I had butterflies is during hugs but I think it's because I have sensory overload when it happens. It never happened when I like somebody. I wish people didn't systematically associate butterflies to attraction, because I heard that many times, "if you have butterflies, it's that you like them / you don't have butterflies, you're certainly not in love".
  12. I don't necessarily think that being quoiromantic is immature. It's just that i can imagine how weird it must be to being unable to make the difference between romantic feelings and friendly feelings. I suppose this is only possible if the person isn't very romantic, to the point where they can feel only a hint of attraction that easily gets integrated in more platonic feelings. A confused grey-romantic variant. About demiromanticism, I'd be completely unable to imagine that friendship couldn't be valued as the most important component, as romance can only derive from friendship and therefore is a transformed subset of it, sort of. But I can easily imagine somebody who expects a demiromantic person to automatically fall in love, especially if this person is somebody they have a crush on. They expect their feelings to be returned one day, simply because they desire it, and the contrary would sadden them so much that they don't want to take the possibility into consideration.
  13. I agree about lifelong bonds in general. I think it's natural to desire having life companions who never stop loving us. However, this desire being restricted to romance and viewed as abnormal in friendships must be the cultural element here.
  14. "Allosexuel" as a synonymous for "LGB" is used exclusively in Quebec, I never heard about it in France.
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