Blue Phoenix Ace

These sound like good reasons to come out over social media, like I did. I was very nervous about trying to explain it through conversation, and about any weird reactions I might get. With social media, you have a chance to make your points eloquently. I find it easier to write everything I want to say out, then go back and edit it and make sure all points are clear so there's no confusion. In my case, I wanted everybody to know at once, so again social media was a perfect outlet. Some of you might want to let just a few people know at a time and that's fine too. You could use email in that case. When I made my coming out post on Facebook, I didn't revisit it until two days later. I needed time to simmer down because the days before were stressful.

Does anyone notice the times are off or do they seem to be working? If you post but the post time is several hours off of your current time, then this would be the symptom. Or go to chatbox, and say something and see if the time is right.

Nope. Since he's explicitly asked not to copy his survey without permission, then we can't.

Hi! Sorry for the delayed response. I've been busy moving and forgot to check this subforum. Anyhow: https://invisionpower.com/forums/topic/381927-setting-timezone/ Apparently you can't change your time zone. It's done automagically. Now, if it gets it wrong, I don't know how to fix that... I'm afraid changing the codes underneath all the emoticons would destroy the emoticons in all posts done so far. I think we have a much wider selection of emoticons too, so there's no parallel for many of them. I'm all for adding new ones where they make sense, just not changing the codes underneath.

You should be able to pick this in your profile.

Hi! Sorry I forgot about this for a while. It was overwhelming yes so I will add the subforum. Thanks for your input!

He bears (bore) a striking resemblance to Adam Sandler.

This is a great question, and a hard one to answer. If we want to make a list of never married famous people, that would be much simpler. But, we can't assume that an unmarried person is aromantic, nor that a married person isn't aromantic. So, unfortunately, we can only speculate. It's highly possible that Nikolai Tesla was aromantic. He supposedly claimed that he was too interested in his research and didn't have time for sex or romance. That's still just a guess though. He may have felt those attractions but just never acted on them because he really did enjoy his work more.

You seem to be chasing your own tail there Kitty. I think I understand what you're getting at. You want someone special in your life, just not necessarily a romantic partner. Someone you can depend on, and lend support for in return. Something like close roommates without all the romantic hooks. Back to the original question, the definition of date is "a social or romantic appointment or engagement". Notice the or. You can remove romantic from the definition entirely. So, sure, you can go out on a date with a friend.

Fixed! You should see this with every theme now. Unfortunately, the CSS I edit doesn't make it into the editor. I don't have any control over how the editor shows stuff. (And the quote this thingy is working for me for the time being yay) without the periods. Like this?

I understand what you mean here exactly. I think using the term "dating" might not be quite right here. It's more like "hanging out" or "having dinner with a friend" or something. (Maybe?)

I play every instrument equally bad. My forte is composition. I am pretty good with music theory and music production software. It's surprising how much you can do without knowing a lick of playing anything. I have been interested in the piano for quite some time, but I haven't made the effort to learn it well. I would need to find a teacher, but more importantly the time. Here are my three published albums. You might call them chillout, or deep trance. It's just emotional music, good to relax to: http://www.ektoplazm.com/index.php?s=blue+phoenix

Hi Louis! I actually have no control over that. I think you've got it figured out. Sorry I forgot to check this thread for a couple of weeks!

I haven't read any literature that explicitly stated that a character was aro or ace. There are many that don't involve romance but they don't explore the possibility of a person not desiring it.

This is one of the videos from my YouTube channel that explains some of the things an aromantic person might feel. I think it helps to bring up how you feel in relationships (if you've had one) or why you avoid relationships (if you haven't). For most people, it's natural to desire a long term romantic relationship, so they have a hard time understanding otherwise. I think in order to help them understand you, it can help to understand how they feel and then point out the differences. (Maybe my next video except I wouldn't be an expert on that!)

It can definitely add to the confusion. Because of what everyone else is telling us, we believe that we can't possibly feel the way we do. Surely we just haven't met the right person yet, or there is something wrong with us We aren't allowed to be happy single...

I got a response to my email saying he wanted to take a look around the site before agreeing to anything. I guess he's taking a really close look because that was several weeks ago and I haven't heard back yet. Maybe he is devising an experiment for us in his lab.

Sorry but I don't have control over that. Just be careful where you click!

I've had several reports of people who try to make an account here but get an error that they aren't able to use their email address. Or it may be another generic error that doesn't help much. This may be part of IPS Community's anti-spam filters. While it keeps a lot of spam bots away, it also has false positives that keep honest people out on occasion. If you try to make an account here and seem to get locked out, please try the following: Check your spam and/or junk folders to see if the registration mail went there If you have an account on AVEN, send a private message to Blue Phoenix Ace with your desired username and email If not, try joining the chat and grab a member's attention there. Tell them to PM me your desired username and email If you can make comments on YouTube, find my channel in my signature below and comment on one of my videos to get my attention Once I have your desired username and your email address, I can create an account for you manually. Thanks for your patience!

Welcome @UncommonNonsense! I'm about to turn 38 myself. We didn't have Internet as teenagers. There was no great way to find people like us or any information about singlehood in general. We had to go by what people we knew told us. That was a unanimous GO GET MARRIED.

Sure, something like that. I will try to get in contact with James and see if he's OK with us using the questionnaire on our site. I found his email address and reached out to him. We'll see if we get a response.

I think this idea has a lot of merit. I would hate to use any verbiage that it is proof or scientific, but it's a very good starting point for someone. We could also turn the quiz into an interactive checkboxy thing that automatically tallies up your score. For every statement you agree with just click the box on. It takes a fair amount of time to take the whole test. Should we boil it down a bit? Could we have an even simpler version of the quiz with just ten questions and then say, well maybe you should take the full text now?