Lie-RennyValkyrie_ Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 So about two weeks i got asked out by this boy who i had (And still do to but its died down a bit) a massive Squish on. It was because of this Squish that i spent loads of time with him in group situations which lead to people thinking i liked him romantically which of course i don't because I'm Aromantic, well Cupioromantic think but still. Clearly it wasn't just my friends and the girls in my class that thought this because after the school social i had two weeks ago, i had also spent all of my time with him, he asked me out and i freaked because only recently had i discovered that i was Aro and i wasn't ready to come out, previously i had thought i was lesbian and if that was the case i would have just told him that but sadly I'm not lesbian. At the time i just said um not knowing what i should do and he told me to think about it and give him an answer later. i texted him back a few hours later saying yes because I'm stupid and i didn't want to lose the friendship i had with him, I also wanted a romantic relationship and i knew that i wasn't going to get the chance to have one for a long time. I know i was selfish. With two weeks full of nights spending my time thinking about how I've f*cked up i have come to the conclusion that I have no romantic attraction but i do feel aesthetic, platonic and sensual attraction to girls and platonic attraction to guys and i'm not sure about anyone non-binary cause i don't know any. I also desire a romanticish relationship (like cuddling, love in a platonic way, dates ect. just no sex or kissing) but only really with girl. I don't know what this would be called but that's for another time. Im partly scared that he will want to kiss me or even have sex with me, which i wouldn't want to even if i wasnt asexual because we arent of age yet. I'm to socially awkward to tell him about this because what if he didn't to kiss me and yeah... awkwardness... I really don't like the fact this relationship is continuing not because i don't want to date him anymore (At this point in time i don't really care whether we are or aren't dating) its just i dont like the fact i feel like im lying to him about liking him even though ive never told anyone that i like him anymore than a friend and if anyone questions it i say its complicated. I want to tell him but i dont want to make it seem like im breaking up with him, i wanted to give him the choice of if we break up or not but i dont want to make him feel pressured into staying with me/breaking up. I also really want to remain friends with him and his other friends and it would just be weird to hang out with the boys when I'm a 'girl' and all of my friends are girls. What do i say to him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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