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  1. Ha ha ha... When someone asked me out I googled trying to find out what to do and I found a post about something similar on here. I had an account for the AVEN forums at the time but I didn't find out about arocalypse because of it
  2. I am offended because your profile picture looks like an echidna rug and I hate when people make animal skin rugs.
  3. Okay before I start I would like to say I'm possibly cupioromantic but I tend to just say I'm Aromantic I prefer broader labels if I must have them. Oh and like no one knows what cupioromantic. I desire a close partnership that I don't have currently. I desire being able to hug and cuddle with a person as well as being able to have a deep conversation. I could have this with friendship but I don't tend to be an affectionate person towards my friends. This is more the sort of relationship I would concider a queerplatonic one for me at least. Its more than ordinary best friends for me but there isn't any romantic love. My squish is the girl who in particular I want this slightly more than friendship relationship, I don't want to kiss her or have sexual intercourse in fact the idea of that disgusts me. If we went out to dinner or the movies it would be just like friends. I don't even really want to hold hands although I wouldn't be against it either. I don't find her attractive, cute, hot sexy ect. But just like anyone else I can see how others would find her attractive. I know she has this huge crush on this guy she's friends with and I don't feel jealous and if we were to be in a QPR and she still liked him I still wouldn't mind. She could date him and it wouldn't bother me as long as she doesn't ignore me or anything. I would get more jealous of one of her friends than of a boyfriend or romantic interest of hers. If we were to get married it would be purley for financial and legal benefits and we probably wouldn't have a big wedding but I'd be unlikely to do that as it stops her from having a proper husband. If we had a child (adopted) we would- actually we wouldn't have a child unless they were homeless in which case I would want to be a friend/carer of the child not a parent exactly but that's just me.
  4. What I got from that was the girl thinks she's trash or a trashcan
  5. I don't tend to necessarily come out per say I more just causally talk about things like everyone knows. Here are examples of me coming out to people: "oh my type is no one" or "well I mean I am aromantic so...." Or "*insert galifrayen for I'm breaking up with you Levi. I'm Aromantic, asexual aromantic and asexual. Basically I don't like people sexually or romantically and I'm not male or female. Goodbye -Ren*" and then my friend had to explain to him in detail cause he had no clue what aromantic is lmao (also yes I broke up with someone in gallifrayen. Yes that circle writing from doctor who. Yes that's what I wrote and yes I'm a massive nerd. I told him how to read it though so at least im semi nice And lastly *shows friends some funny aro related thing* "I relate so much"
  6. It really depends one what you consider famous like take my mother for example she could be considered famous (she is bisexual not acearo but you get the idea) but have you ever heard of a woman that goes by the name Obsi/Obsidian/Obsidian Star? Probably not because you have to be in the right circles. But within those circles my mother could be considered famous even though you've quite possibly never even heard of what makes her "famous" Also I would totally sing a love song to a lamp. Or food. Or my cat... Or probably just one of my friends, they all know I'm aro and they sing love songs to me all the time even though they are straight as a joke.
  7. At the moment I'm hardly aromatic (my phone almost corrected that to aromantic that's a first its normally the other way around) I've just been to a con wearing 7 layers of fabric in some spots I stink like hell... Anyway.... I made the mistake of accidentally writing aromatic once on this forum. I had a whole bunch of people pointing it out to be
  8. I'm in junior highschool and we just finished doing sex-ed or as much sex as we do for my age. Whe normally are just set assignments and the teacher says nothing but at the start of sex-ed one of the things we had to do was name different sexualities. People easily named straight, gay and bi. We even had one boy say pan (tbh I was impressed that he knew it but he says he has a couple of pan friends) and after every one someone said I quietly said asexual until my friend got sick of it and put up her hand and said it, only the boy who said pan and my friends new what asexuality is thought. I was very tempemted to say Aromantic as well even though not technically a sexuality but I was kinda nervous to say anything even though its well known I'm not straight. mentions of sex ahead but it is sex ed we are talking about so... Also in all our assignments it mentioned oral, vaginal and anal sex which surprised me honestly I thought it would be basic purely straight sex but we got our info from the Australian government's site
  9. Ha ha Lol yeah ~ is actually a mathematical sign but is also often used to make a text or whatever have more... Hmm idk his to explain it. Its often used in anime though.
  10. Yeah I hate it when people like me romantically. My male friend liked me and because I spent time around him because I wanted to be a closer friend he thought I liked him back and asked me out and painkied and said yes. Worst decision ever. Being with him was terrible not because he was a bad guy I love him just not in that way. The fact I was aro and he thought I liked him tore me to pieces and that mixed with that fact that he was straight and transphobic and I was closeted non binary led so so much bad stuff happening to me mental and in the end pyshically. It was the worst time in my life. I was never mad at him though even though he made me feel terrible and kick start the depression I still have. I still wonder why he liked me of all people. I feel sorry for him. He's a great guy and I hope his current girlfriend is a loving one like I wished I could be to him.
  11. So I have this friend (well best friend) who I have a huge squish on and I've wanted to ask her to be my QPP for quite a while now. The problem is I think that she will think I like her romantically and she's straight (I'm afab). I've told her many times I'm Aromantic and Asexual but she still thinks I'm lesbian because I mentioned that I don't like boys. I'm also scared that being in a QPR with her would make people think she's bi/lesbian and/or get her bullied. I love her to death (platonically of course) and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable. I also know she really likes this guy and I don't want to ruin her chances with him. I don't know what to do?! Please help!
  12. Oops sorry about the aromatic... I've changed it now... Serves me right for not rereading what I had written
  13. Despite what everyone that knows me irl seems to think I can be a flirtatious person sometimes. I often tend to semi-flirt with guys even though I'm aro and I have no attraction to males and no desire to date them. Whenever i catch myself doing this I stop though as i Dont want to lead the guy on. I also semi-flirt with my best friend often. Can you be a flirtatious Aromatic? Is it wrong to flirt with your best friend (she knows I'm aro and has no interest in her romantically)? By the way my flirting is basically: ◼Change of tone to a more cutesy tone. ◼Adding smiley and winking faces to texts. ◼Adding a ~ on the end of things. ◼Smiling when speaking to them (I don't smile much) ◼Change in stance when I speak to again a more cutesy stance. ◼Change in the way I speak. (Like the words I use) And other small changes like that
  14. I personally never hug or engage any physical contact first unless I'm hugging a family member where its a neutral we both go to hug or a person who is sad. I like it when my squishes do it though : ) but most of the time I'm indifferent. For the short period that I had a boyfriend I hated any time he touched me even just putting his hand on my shoulder but I guess that was just because I felt terrible being in a relationship in the first place (long story)
  15. I'm 14 but my parents seem convinced that it's normal for people to not have crushes until around this age or older. I know some alloromntic people that haven't had real crushes but they have at least had crushes on fiction characters or celebs. I haven't even had that.
  16. You are right I don't need a label to be able to do those things but it would be a lot easier. Yeah I am I minor
  17. I've never really been romance repulsed, although I've never liked watching anything too romantic. When people say I'll get a boyfriend/husband I always thought no thanks I'll pass and never really got why everyone was so obsessed with wanting relationships. I've never had a crush while all of my friends have at least liked a fictional character or celebrity. When I came out to my parents I was 12 turning 13 and both my parents said that they never had a crush till they were 14 so I just wasn't old enough yet to see boys that way but I still don't. I'm not attracted to males at all and I find females hot or cute and if one asked me out I would probably say yes but I would never kiss them and I haven't ever actually felt any romantic or sexual attraction towards females or anyone. I have how ever felt sensual (minus kissing) attraction to females that I'm friends with (basically wanting to hug/cuddle and stuff) them but a lot of my friends do those sort of things in a friend sort of way (again minus kissing). I've never felt and sexual attraction to anyone and I'm sex repulsed in regards to myself (I would never have sex) but indifferent about others (like I'm a massive about fan fics and if their is smut in it I'll read it but I won't search for it in particular) I have never wanted to grow up and have a loving wife/husband/romatic or sexual partner but I would like to be married to someone in a platonic and sensual relationship (minus kissing. In case you couldn't tell I'm kissing repulsed) Am I Aromantic or am I just a fin/gynoromamtic Asexual person who hasn't found the right girl yet?
  18. Well my coming out wasn't very funny it involved a lot of tears but about a month later I said I had aced a test (acing something is a phrase I use quite often) and my father said 'of course you did because your ace' ... Dad jokes an evolving....
  19. I call myself Agender because its the best label that fits so far. I don't feel female or male or any gender that I know of most of the time. I use they/them pronouns and tend to go for and androgynous look. Most of the time I wish I could bind (I'm AFAB) but my chest doesn't bother me most days. Some days it really bothers me others I like them. I'd rather be called male pronouns/a boy than a girl/female pronouns but it doesn't bother me to much. The fact I have female reproductive parts doesn't bother me apart from the fact periods are annoying an I would prefer a female boy of a male body. Once (only once and it lasted for two days) I felt really masculine, almost like a male (probably Demiboy is the best description) I hated my chest and hair and stuff but that has only ever happened once. I've felt sort of like maybe a Demigirl as well before (a couple of times but not that often) but I've never felt fully male nor female. Any ideas on what I am? Normally I wouldn't care but I want to come out so I can get my hair cut and get a binder.
  20. I don't wear glasses i actually have pretty good vision, even in the dark. Someone once asked me if i was why i wasn't wearing glasses though because they seemed to think that all 'nerds' wear glasses.
  21. Me in one sentence but anyway YMBAI you don't experience romantic attraction cause you know that's the definition of aromantic.
  22. So about two weeks i got asked out by this boy who i had (And still do to but its died down a bit) a massive Squish on. It was because of this Squish that i spent loads of time with him in group situations which lead to people thinking i liked him romantically which of course i don't because I'm Aromantic, well Cupioromantic think but still. Clearly it wasn't just my friends and the girls in my class that thought this because after the school social i had two weeks ago, i had also spent all of my time with him, he asked me out and i freaked because only recently had i discovered that i was Aro and i wasn't ready to come out, previously i had thought i was lesbian and if that was the case i would have just told him that but sadly I'm not lesbian. At the time i just said um not knowing what i should do and he told me to think about it and give him an answer later. i texted him back a few hours later saying yes because I'm stupid and i didn't want to lose the friendship i had with him, I also wanted a romantic relationship and i knew that i wasn't going to get the chance to have one for a long time. I know i was selfish. With two weeks full of nights spending my time thinking about how I've f*cked up i have come to the conclusion that I have no romantic attraction but i do feel aesthetic, platonic and sensual attraction to girls and platonic attraction to guys and i'm not sure about anyone non-binary cause i don't know any. I also desire a romanticish relationship (like cuddling, love in a platonic way, dates ect. just no sex or kissing) but only really with girl. I don't know what this would be called but that's for another time. Im partly scared that he will want to kiss me or even have sex with me, which i wouldn't want to even if i wasnt asexual because we arent of age yet. I'm to socially awkward to tell him about this because what if he didn't to kiss me and yeah... awkwardness... I really don't like the fact this relationship is continuing not because i don't want to date him anymore (At this point in time i don't really care whether we are or aren't dating) its just i dont like the fact i feel like im lying to him about liking him even though ive never told anyone that i like him anymore than a friend and if anyone questions it i say its complicated. I want to tell him but i dont want to make it seem like im breaking up with him, i wanted to give him the choice of if we break up or not but i dont want to make him feel pressured into staying with me/breaking up. I also really want to remain friends with him and his other friends and it would just be weird to hang out with the boys when I'm a 'girl' and all of my friends are girls. What do i say to him?
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