Ekaterina Posted February 2 Share Posted February 2 Couldn't find a topic on that, but wanted to ask both allos and aros who experience crushes on fictional characters: how do you experience it? I'd need help to be able to determine better if the thing I experience and call crushes is that indeed. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelyleaf Posted March 2 Share Posted March 2 sometimes i wish that they were real because i think they're really sweet and that them and i would go well together. lately i just imagine scenarios with them until i get bored of my very limited and not creative imagination. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smac n cheese Posted March 2 Share Posted March 2 idk, I just see a fictional character and I'm like "YOU'RE JUST LIKE ME BE MY FRIEND" and I can find them cute but not in a romantic way 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekaterina Posted March 2 Author Share Posted March 2 (edited) Thank you for the replies! 3 hours ago, smac n cheese said: idk, I just see a fictional character and I'm like "YOU'RE JUST LIKE ME BE MY FRIEND" and I can find them cute but not in a romantic way Well this I do know, but in addition to having characters I relate to and characters I find cute, there also are characters about whom I feel... this thing. 6 hours ago, lovelyleaf said: sometimes i wish that they were real because i think they're really sweet and that them and i would go well together. lately i just imagine scenarios with them until i get bored of my very limited and not creative imagination. I don't necessarily think they would go well together with me, I don't necessarily even think about it, but I do imagine all kinds of scenarios about them, not romantic per se, but just all kinds of stuff often including some brand of hurt/comfort if it's a tragic character, and just unrestrained fun if it's a fun character, and both if they're somehow both, but either way thinking about them causes a physically pleasant sensation, a stupid smile, and agitation, sometimes to the point I would avoid mentioning their name aloud because I'd have a weird emotional reaction that would give my "crush" away; and it's a thing when I'm very sensitive for potential mockery. I also sometimes imagine in these cases portraying this character, in text game/roleplay or even on stage (I'm not a stage performer, not even an amateur one, but I often fantasize about playing as characters I like, not only the "crush" ones but other types of liked characters too, I think these are probably their own category). Also the characters I "crush" on I do find visually pleasing even if not handsome/beautiful, I'd draw them (I draw much more characters then just them, but these I sometimes get fixated on drawing), and if the story doesn't have a set visual (being a book or opera) I'd fixate on designing and redesigning this character and be picky about it, and very picky on actors portraying them in adaptations/stagings, but also hunt all possible visualizations of them (live-acted or illustrations) I can find. Edited March 2 by Ekaterina 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelyleaf Posted March 3 Share Posted March 3 7 hours ago, Ekaterina said: including some brand of hurt/comfort i don't think about it but that's nearly all of what i imagine lol. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mult Posted April 19 Share Posted April 19 I'm neither romantic or sexual and I don't crush on characters, so I can't answer this question, but growing up I found this confusing as well. I really could not understand why kids would get possessive over and be so interested in fictional characters. I could never understand the existence of character/person content like people drawing their personas with the characters in a romantic way or people writing fanfiction about characters where the person reading it is involved in the story and involved with a character romantically. It was just very bizarre to me. I could understand people "shipping" characters with each other as there's a competitive aspect to that where people would get very defensive over fictional relationships, but inserting oneself into fiction wasn't something that I understood. Now I think it's about fantasizing about a relationship for oneself. They like that character and they want a relationship, so they fantasize about themselves being in a relationship with that character. I'm probably the one people would consider weird because I actually really enjoy characters rejecting me in videogames and I want more of that. I just really enjoy a character telling me that they just want to be my friend because personally platonic relationships are much more meaningful and important to me, so someone telling me that they don't want romance and just want to be friends is literally the best thing ever. This is most likely tied to how I hated being confessed to and still hate dealing with someone's unrequited romantic/sexual feelings for me. The whole reason I played Undertale was because my twin was playing it and she chose the flirt option with Papyrus as a joke which resulted in an adorable set of events where he clearly didn't understand romance either but determined that he just wanted friendship. I've only seen a similar scenario in the video game Hades where you can romance Dusa as Zagreus but she also determines that she only wants to be friends and she realized that she was idolizing Zagreus rather than actually being in love with him romantically. I haven't actually been able to get to that point in the game but eventually I want to play through that scenario. So I will pursue romantic options with fictional characters in videogames to get rejected. So I suppose romantic interest in fictional character is like a role-play of sorts. An avenue for fantasizing about something one wants. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nagito Posted April 20 Share Posted April 20 I'm strict aromantic and I do have fictional crushes, three at the moment with one being my main "fictional other" (and he's literally the worst villain in the whole franchise). I don't wish any of them being real, or anything like that, because I'm repulsed by the idea of being in a romantic relationship for real. I'm into them, because they are fictional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Myrt Posted April 22 Share Posted April 22 I have been in love with a man who cannot show romance, no mush, lovey dovey stuff He swears he lives me and has some actions that he tries to show mebwith. I apologize, I'm not sure this is where I should see info, but wanted to try. Anyone have input for me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Random-Aroace Posted June 1 Share Posted June 1 Who cannot rly okay so just ducking show platonic Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovebird Posted June 2 Share Posted June 2 I do experience crushes on fictional characters. I'm one of those OC, self-insert x Canon mfers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Beeeee Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 On 4/19/2024 at 6:59 AM, Mult said: I'm neither romantic or sexual and I don't crush on characters, so I can't answer this question, but growing up I found this confusing as well. I really could not understand why kids would get possessive over and be so interested in fictional characters. I could never understand the existence of character/person content like people drawing their personas with the characters in a romantic way or people writing fanfiction about characters where the person reading it is involved in the story and involved with a character romantically. It was just very bizarre to me. I could understand people "shipping" characters with each other as there's a competitive aspect to that where people would get very defensive over fictional relationships, but inserting oneself into fiction wasn't something that I understood. Now I think it's about fantasizing about a relationship for oneself. They like that character and they want a relationship, so they fantasize about themselves being in a relationship with that character. I'm probably the one people would consider weird because I actually really enjoy characters rejecting me in videogames and I want more of that. I just really enjoy a character telling me that they just want to be my friend because personally platonic relationships are much more meaningful and important to me, so someone telling me that they don't want romance and just want to be friends is literally the best thing ever. This is most likely tied to how I hated being confessed to and still hate dealing with someone's unrequited romantic/sexual feelings for me. The whole reason I played Undertale was because my twin was playing it and she chose the flirt option with Papyrus as a joke which resulted in an adorable set of events where he clearly didn't understand romance either but determined that he just wanted friendship. I've only seen a similar scenario in the video game Hades where you can romance Dusa as Zagreus but she also determines that she only wants to be friends and she realized that she was idolizing Zagreus rather than actually being in love with him romantically. I haven't actually been able to get to that point in the game but eventually I want to play through that scenario. So I will pursue romantic options with fictional characters in videogames to get rejected. So I suppose romantic interest in fictional character is like a role-play of sorts. An avenue for fantasizing about something one wants. Wow, I feel similarly... I am sort of repulsed by personally being in a relationship with the characters I ship and it's really hard because actually a lot of people do that I see online. Shipping myself with a character feels similar to how I would copy other people's crushes in the past and it made me feel paralyzed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serafu Posted June 19 Share Posted June 19 I love crushing on fictional characters, it's almost comforting to me heh ^^; for the most part, I crush on them based on physical/aesthetic attraction, and I'd create OCs to be in partnerships with them :] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
あおくん Posted June 28 Share Posted June 28 On 6/19/2024 at 10:20 PM, Serafu said: I love crushing on fictional characters, it's almost comforting to me heh ^^; for the most part, I crush on them based on physical/aesthetic attraction, and I'd create OCs to be in partnerships with them :] i'm curious, does the ocs you create resemble you in some way personality/looks wise, or do they completely differ from you as a person? i know for me, i feel uncomfortable when the oc feels really similar to me since it almost feels like i'm shipping myself with my fictional crush, which shouldn't be a problem but i don't really like fantasizing about that. maybe this also has something to do with the fact that i'm also aegoromantic in a way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lekhasverse Posted June 29 Share Posted June 29 On 6/27/2024 at 7:49 PM, あおくん said: i'm curious, does the ocs you create resemble you in some way personality/looks wise, or do they completely differ from you as a person? i know for me, i feel uncomfortable when the oc feels really similar to me since it almost feels like i'm shipping myself with my fictional crush, which shouldn't be a problem but i don't really like fantasizing about that. maybe this also has something to do with the fact that i'm also aegoromantic in a way I'm interested to hear different perspectives on this. My own main characters tend to resemble me in both looks and personality, and my side characters tend to reflect smaller parts of my personality. A lot of my characters happen to be aspec for this reason because I find it uncomfortable shipping myself (and also because I write what I want to see in media, which is representation of aspec people of color), but I usually try to separate my characters from myself so that if they do have love interests, it isn't a problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
あおくん Posted June 30 Share Posted June 30 (edited) 9 hours ago, lekhasverse said: I'm interested to hear different perspectives on this. My own main characters tend to resemble me in both looks and personality, and my side characters tend to reflect smaller parts of my personality. A lot of my characters happen to be aspec for this reason because I find it uncomfortable shipping myself (and also because I write what I want to see in media, which is representation of aspec people of color), but I usually try to separate my characters from myself so that if they do have love interests, it isn't a problem. ooh i see, that makes sense. but for me personally this one oc i made in particular is one that are supposed to complement my fictional crush. so sort of like "self shipping" or as the japanese call it, being a "yumejoshi". but in my case, it's definitely not of the romantic kind, i mostly like making them be involved in a qpr since i don't really see that done much often in media & that's the sort of content i want to see more of myself. also i think it's worth noting that yes while i may have a fictional crush, i don't really like fantasizing romantic scenarios with them in my head, so i guess that extends to the sort of story i like to create with them with the oc i had in mind. i think for this particular oc i mentioned, the only similarity we have is our aspec identity & as for their looks & personality it's something i want to be completely different from me. Edited June 30 by あおくん wanted to add a bit more words Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lekhasverse Posted June 30 Share Posted June 30 14 hours ago, あおくん said: i mostly like making them be involved in a qpr since i don't really see that done much often in media & that's the sort of content i want to see more of myself. Hell yeah, I'm writing a qpr as well, between my aroace main character and her best friend who's pansexual (I think, I can't recall) and aromantic. We definitely need more aroallo rep and qprs in media. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
あおくん Posted July 2 Share Posted July 2 On 7/1/2024 at 5:00 AM, lekhasverse said: Hell yeah, I'm writing a qpr as well, between my aroace main character and her best friend who's pansexual (I think, I can't recall) and aromantic. We definitely need more aroallo rep and qprs in media. yeah i definitely agree, the few pieces of media i've seen where being in a qpr was explored really well was what inspired me to make my own as well, mostly they're just really ocs that are in qprs, rather than an actual novel in of itself but i'm mostly doing it as a self indulgent thing anyway for some sense of self satisfaction so yeah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serafu Posted July 6 Share Posted July 6 On 6/28/2024 at 10:49 AM, あおくん said: i'm curious, does the ocs you create resemble you in some way personality/looks wise, or do they completely differ from you as a person? i know for me, i feel uncomfortable when the oc feels really similar to me since it almost feels like i'm shipping myself with my fictional crush, which shouldn't be a problem but i don't really like fantasizing about that. maybe this also has something to do with the fact that i'm also aegoromantic in a way my OCs are very different from me both looks and personality-wise, and some of them would even have different orientations or gender identities than mine :0 the only thing that's similar between me n my OCs is my affection towards the fic chara, so it's like I'm projecting my attraction for the chara thru my OC lol I get what you mean about feeling uncomfortable about shipping yourself directly with a fictional character, n I also feel the same way! even when I'd read [fic chara] x reader fics I never placed my own name under "Y/N" n I always made up a separate name bc the directness of having my own identity on the fic was off-putting for me ^^; OC x fic chara became such a comforting avenue since then 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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