Themathlover Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 (edited) Hello everyone ! I've not seen a lot of people openly talking about religions here, but I suppose they're essential in the aromantic journey of many. As a muslim girl, I struggle with my aromantic orientation because, well, I'm not asexual, I'm alloaro. Being heterosexual and arospec when one of the commands of my religion is to marry in order to have sex is a real source of frustration. In Islam, I don't think there's any requirement to feel deeply in love to engage in marriage, you just need to both agree on it and feel a certain emotional bond, of course, but must this bond necessarily be romantic ? Maybe are you thinking "Talk about it with the members of your religious community.", but the thing is I've not come out yet, and I honestly don't want to. Not only do I fear judgement, whether or not religious, but, without criticizing religions themselves, it's true that their disciples can be highly sexist... Women are expected to be kind of desireless, submitted and more emotional in my community, unfortunately, which is definitely not my personality. I spoke about that (sexism, not aromanticism) with my parents and successfully changed their minds, they're way more open-minded and stereotypeless (does that word exist ?) now, but my parents aren't the only Muslims in the world. Touring the Internet is enough to realize how spread sexism is within "islamic" organizations. "-Women must wear a hijab to be modest. -But what about men ? They're sexually enticing too ! -It's not the same for men and women." "-Women can't visit graveyards because they're hyper-emotional. -Isn't it the point of visiting graveyards to cry and mourn your loved ones ? -Yes, it is, but women are special beings, so sensitive and fragile it could severely damage them. They just better not do that, it's for men, they're braver." "-Women can't lead, it's up to men to be at the head of our Ummah, because of their superior rationality and ability to govern." "-Women can't travel alone, they need a man to be at their side whenever they leave their town, for their safety." -"Women can't pray during their periods, nor can they touch the Quran, because they're impure." ... And it goes on and on again... I could make a list as long as my arm, but we don't have time for that. I just wrote these examples to show you the reality in which I am. I simply cannot come out under these circumstances. They'd not kill me or wound me, we're not in a movie, but they could repress me, shame me, blame me, tell me I'm sick, or anything like that. No one would like to deal with that, would you ? I know my parents would 100% support and love me if that happened, but I wouldn't like to cause so much chaos because of such a stupid thing. If there's any Muslim here, or a good supportive advisor, I'm still available waiting for answers. Edited February 21 by Themathlover 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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