Collie Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 I was asked out today by a friend, and it basically confirmed my aro-ness. I turned him down as nicely as possible, but the emotional fallout and replaying the moment in my head is tortureeeeee. I also discovered that while I like romance in my head/in fiction, I am more averse to it in real life than I thought I was. What about you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bumble_Bee_ Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 My neighbor, who was my friend, asked me to be their [girl]friend, and i said no, then went on a four day trip and they had moved when i returned, (I live in an RV park btw) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apex Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 I've been asked out a few times, and if it's a stranger I usually default to lying. "Oh, I have a boyfriend", "I just got out of a relationship", "I like girls", etc. But I do regret handling it like that because I don't think it's the best way. With people I know, it's more "Sorry I'm not interested" or "Sorry I don't feel the same way" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SirBeastling Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 Before I knew what aromantic was, a girl asked me to prom. I tried to be nice, but I was definately blunt in saying, "That's not really my thing". I thought about it for days, and convinced myself to go on a camping trip during prom so I had an excuse for why I said no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 Twice. First time when I was 12 or 13. I hated the guy at the time, so I just say "no, sorry", and I go away like a badass. It must have been embarrassing for my friend who organized the whole "ask out" thing because she was sure that me saying "I hate this guy" meant "I love that guy", for some reason. And the fact that I think about my friend's embarrassment, more than the embarrassment of the guy who were dumped in front of her, is a probably a very aro thing. Second time it was a guy who followed me through whole high school, and when he asked me and I refused, he threatened to kill himself... Fortunately it was by e-mail, so I just talked about that to his mum so she takes care of the situation, and I never spoke to him again. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 When I was younger, (one of my) best friends asked me to prom and I accepted. It was heaven because there was no hanky-panky or expectations of romance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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