Hello :)

[Romice]

Hi everyone!

I found this place through twitter and I can't express how happy I am to see such an amazing community, full of people that feel similar to me.

A few words about me - I think I might be aromantic? It's quite difficult for me to be 100% sure. I'm in my mid-20s and I have never been in a relationship (unless you count 24h in 2nd grade, when I told a boy I loved him on a dare from a friend). I went on a date once, found a guy on twitter that I had similar interests with. We talked for a few hours but I didn't feel anything there. My only thoughts were "hey, it would be nice to be frinds with him". That was a big clue that there was something "wrong" with me. Now, I don't think that anymore, but that is after a couple years of on-off research into the subect.

I also don't think I'm asexual, even though I never tried that. I'm a generally shy and introverted person, so it's pretty much impossible for me to walk up to someone in a bar and flirt with them or something.

Anyway, I hope to fit in here, and maybe find some support and advice about these kinds of things :)

[roboticanary]

Hi, welcome

good to hear you are finding out about yourself. That story about asking someone out on a dare is very relatable, I did a similar thing once with a girl at my school and it didn't last to the end of the day.

[Leia]

Welcome!! We're glad to have you here! :-D

[Ember Song]

Hi, nice to meet you. I too have been on a date.

One.

It was a group date...

And uncomfortable. Haha

[Guest]

Welcome!

[Nessa]

Welcome ?

[Romice]

I don't know if anyone will care, but I want to make an update anyway. It's been almost a year and I am much more sure about my identity now.

I think I can proudly say that I am aromantic bisexual. It really feels good to say (well, write, but anyway...) this, to have a label to identify with :)

What happened in this year? I did a lot more research and I let my feelings be my feelings. I also went on another date, or at least I think I did. We didn't call it that, but my family and friends were absolutely sure that the guy asked me out. Again, like the first time, the most prevalent feeling during the 3 hours that we talked was that I would like to be his friend. However, this time I was definitely attracted to the guy. Previously, the majority of this kind of attraction that I felt has been for fictional characters of both genders. Nothing of sexual nature happened on this maybe-date, but the guy confessed to be looking for a wife and future mother of his kids so I bailed as these are not the things I want from a relationship. (also he had a few really bad takes on gender roles and stuff, so it was just another reason to also bail on maybe staing friends with him)

I'm really glad I realised these things and that I am now comfortable to say them, at least online. Only my best friend knows I'm bi and I've started hinting at the aro thing. She is rethinking her identity as well, so it feels safer to talk to her about this.

[Sili]

Nice to hear you're getting more comfortable with your identity :)

[alto]

Welcome!