I.B. Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 I'm interested in seeing if there are others here who feel a similar way I do, or just to hear people's thoughts in general about my situation. Like the title says, I'm a heterosexual who feels a very high level of sexual desire. Honestly I even get the sense that my sexual feelings are on the very upper end of what most allosexuals feel. As in, I feel sexual attraction very easily and often, my libido is extremely high, I feel essentially insatiable (only real limit on sexual activity is the time it takes up), and there's sometimes days where I just feel mentally aroused most of the time. I'm tempted to say I'm on the edge of hypersexuality, although I'll use that word carefully because there's still ongoing academic debate about how to define "hypersexual" and how it relates to various other conditions. On the other hand, I feel a very low motivation to actually pursue intimate relationships (either romantic or sexual) with other people. I honestly do not feel much if any interest in most romantic activities, and it's hard to envision myself feeling the same sense of attachment/"romantic love" that it seems like most romantic couples feel. Although for now I'm leaning more towards the greyromantic label than entirely aromantic. Also, so far I haven't felt any interest in pursuing sex outside of an emotional relationship, which also means that so far I've always been entirely single and have never actually had sex. There's times where I feel kinda torn between simultaneously feeling "interested" and "uninterested" in intimate relationships. It's been hard for me to figure out my priorities and decide what I want from life.... should I be more active in seeking out relationships in the hope that something "clicks"? Would I be happier being single my whole life? How much do I actually care about pursuing sex? Those are rhetorical questions of course. My thoughts tend to sway back and forth. Does anyone know if this is a common experience to have? I'd definitely be interested in hearing similar stories, or links if this has been discussed somewhere else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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