How did you find out you were on the aro-spec?

[Alexisaromantic]

How did you all find out you were on the aro-spec?

[Ace of Amethysts]

I found the word on AVEN, and then everything just... clicked for me.

 

[LBMango]

I found I was aro when I found out aro was a thing.... I accidentally offended an ace-but-not-aro couple by being confused by the concept... and sort of derived the existence of aro from there... 

[pictureperfectparadox]

i kinda realized that i wasn't interested in any form of romance in middle school, googled my feelings, and "aromantic" clicked for me like a puzzle piece. but my parents convinced me somewhat back then that i just hadn't found my 'soulmate', so i took that puzzle piece out and decided to wait. it took me several years of stowing away my feelings about my identity and watching the people around me fall for others in both crushes and love before i finally realized that i was truly disinterested in any form of romance. i took out that puzzle piece, put it back where it was meant to be, and started living my life like it was whole again.

[Guest]

I was having some kind of identity crisis and i remembered that word i found on internet some month ago (aromantic). 

 

(it was something like "i am supposed to be straight but i don't do that.." … "wait, am i straight?" . )

[Tagor]

I found the term "aromantic" by chance on Twitter and I thought it might fit me and was curious about what it meant I began to research the term. After at first finding AVEN with some discouraging definitions I pushed it aside for some time but eventually found this forum.

[AFlyingPiglet]

I found out through AVEN. I realised I was ace and initially assumed that all aces didn't feel romantic attraction either and was shocked to find out that some aces did!

 

Through AVEN I also discovered that being aro was a 'thing' too.

[AllTimeBubble]

On 11/6/2019 at 2:34 AM, Ace of Amethysts said:

I found the word on AVEN, and then everything just... clicked for me.

 

Same!