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HelloThere

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  1. So today at dinner the topic of marriage and having kids came up somehow and then I commented how I didn’t want kids. Mom responded with “that’ll change in a couple of years” and “you’re gonna fall in love with someone at some point”. I really did think for a bit that I would be off the hook on this by now, I’ve told them several times that I just want friends, kids and relationships just sound boring or unfulfilling to me. And once again she responds to that with “there’s nothing that’s more fulfilling than having a wife” and “having friends won’t fill that void” which is just WAY more than I thought would normally have been said. In 30 seconds mom managed to tear down all of my hope that they’d be super okay with this, now I’m worried that if I came out in two years then they’d just say the internet said I was, or that I was making it up. I really thought for a bit that they’d be okay with it.

    1. SwiftySpeedy

      SwiftySpeedy

      Honestly, if I was in your situation I would straight up say screw it I don't want to deal with this anymore, I don't want to keep worrying if it's safe to come out. So I would just hide all emotion and then right after I would tell them that I'm Aroace. Well, they might go through the five stages of grief first but they eventually will understand you and accept you. even if it doesn't seem like it at first.

    2. HelloThere

      HelloThere

      I’m way too early on for that, I’ve only known for a couple of months and I’m sure for now, but I want an extra level of clarity within a year from now.

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