Acearospec

Ouch! SAME! That's awesome; green is my favorite color. Me too (but not well & just for fun).

I don't know about the missing out feeling as much as maybe I don't understand it, but wish I did feeling. I do like being alone & know I'm better off that way. I do get really invested in relationships in tv shows, movies, historical figures, real life folks I admire from a distance, but I'm not 100% why. I'm still figuring out where exactly I fit in the aromantic spectrum, so maybe that's part of why there's such an interest for me, idk. If you get these feelings every time you finish a series, but not WHILE watching it, maybe it's filling a need/desire you have while watching and then when that's over, you're missing it? Sort of like when a relationship ends. I don't really. Or maybe getting a fill of romance vicariously IS how I deal with it since I don't want and/or can't have it irl. But to be fair, I actually do have a few friends. I'm not good at making friends, but I'm close with my sister & my former college roommate so I've got them. I do not, however, feel like I fit in to any societal "norm" for a whole host of reasons & I've felt that way since at least age 8, but likely my whole life. So I'm used to just working on self-acceptance of not fitting in generally & trying to figure out where & how I do fit & feel comfortable. Often times that's just alone at home, and that's ok.

Same

Like aesthetic? (I definitely experience that). That's likely accurate. Thanks both of you for your responses. I appreciate it. As I think more on it, I'm still figuring out the romantic attraction part (just for me, personally) - I think there may be more from my past I have to unpack. I know what I want & don't want, but I'm still not 100% sure about what I actually feel/experience or not. I'll keep analyzing. I'm somewhere in the ace & arospec umbrella. Journey of self discovery continues.

I would like greater clarity/understanding of my romantic identity if anyone wants to share their thoughts or any similar experiences. (I posted this same thing on AVEN, too, but figured it fits here as well & I'd appreciate the input). I've been thinking about my romantic identity & wondering if I'm missing something or misinterpreting something while figuring it out. I know that folks can be asexual lesbians or aromantic lesbians, but I'm wondering if it's possible to be an acearo lesbian or if that label simply doesn't apply here since I don't actually want to be involved in a relationship myself; I certainly don't want to misappropriate terms. I'm definitely asexual (sex averse) and on the aromantic spectrum. I'm anegoromantic (often spelled aegoromantic); I very much enjoy romance between people (live action/real people, not animated) in many forms of media (movies, tv, celebrities, books - both fiction & non-fiction, documentaries, biographies, etc), but only as long as at least one of the folks involved in the romance is a woman. I like both heteroromantic and lesbian relationships (from a 3rd person perspective, not 1st), but I'm completely indifferent to the men in them. This makes me question my romantic identity a bit. I am romance averse when it comes to me personally, romance indifferent when it comes to pda between other folks around me, and romance favorable in media involving women. I'm also nonamorous & a cisgender woman. I don't tend to use microlabels with other folks, but I find they're sometimes helpful for myself & I've been researching them in my journey of self-awareness. I stumbled across monoromantic & orchidromantic, but wasn't sure if they fit here either. I'm interested in learning your thoughts & thanks in advance for sharing them.

Also a twin, but oldest. I'm ace/aro & my twin is likely demiace & demiaro but we haven't discussed labels. When we had discussions (years ago) her descriptions were very much demi.

Could it be anegoromantic? (often spelled aegoromantic). https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Aegoromantic Or fictoromantic? https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Fictoromantic I don't experience "crushes" but I definitely "ship" characters. (My current obsession is #kacy on NCIS: Hawai'i)

Frozen 2

I have this one, too, for letters, numbers & days of the week. I also "hear" tastes of certain spices & foods, but less specifically (not actual notes, but sharp, flat, minor or major chords, etc). I don't think this one is actually synesthesia from what I can tell, but it seems like it's related.

I had to look this one up. (I was hesitant because I was wary of potential images, but I'm glad I learned something new at least.) Mine is not at all unusual - it's a fear of snakes (Ophidiophobia, I think), but it's pretty severe. I basically hyperventilate even just seeing a picture, forget about irl.

Hope it went well What diagnostic criteria did you check? If you haven't already seen these, they might be helpful resources. I learned recently that autism often presents differently (& very differently than what I understood it to mean growing up): https://exceptionalindividuals.com/candidates/neurodiversity-resources/neurodiversity-quizzes/ https://embrace-autism.com/autism-tests/

"Your score wasn't clear" Hmmm. That's for sure. Here's the breakdown: 33% "You're most likely capable of having romantic relationships, but are asexual" 33% "You are probably asexual and aromantic" *(accurate) 17% "You are mostly aromantic" 17% "You most likely are NOT aromantic" 0% "You are most likely demisexual"

It's infuriating and depressing that this is where we are today. Thankfully, like you said, it's unlikely to pass. Here's a clip from https://www.wabe.org/whats-in-the-so-called-dont-say-gay-bill-that-could-impact-the-whole-country/ "The bill’s prospects are nil while Democrats control the White House and Senate The bill would not pass in the current Congress, given that such legislation is solely a Republican effort and Democrats have a functional majority in each chamber. Depending on the November election results, the makeup of the House and Senate could shift. Still, it’s not clear how many Republicans would support the bill, even if it is popular among a certain strain of the party. Even if the proposed legislation were to pass in a Republican-controlled House and Senate, it would be vetoed by President Biden. So don’t expect this bill to go anywhere, for at least a while."

For me I wasn't sure the aromantic label fit for a while since I've always enjoyed romance in movies & tv (both fiction & non-fiction). When I was younger I used to imagine that I'd want that, too, "some day when I got older," but I never actually did. I went on a couple of dates in my 20s I think or early 30s, but before, during, and while on them I knew I'd rather be doing so many other things than that, and then just decided I didn't need to do that anymore just because it was a societal expectation. I realized I was asexual first (long before I knew the term) then eventually when researching more about micro-labels, I found "aegoromantic" (sometimes spelled "anegoromantic") & that was accurate for me. (Source: https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Aromantic_spectrum). I do like romance in media & I definitely "ship" characters, though I don't really understand romance, so I think I'm actually more analyzing, studying, and appreciating it. (I also appreciate not engaging in it personally, but still feeling invested in how the relationships' stories unfold & are told.) I have discovered that I'm only drawn to romance involving females (either heteroromantic or lesbians), but perhaps since I'm likely analyzing them & identify as female myself, maybe that's why I'm only invested in those. I'm still not 100% sure of the reason for that, though - it's just a theory.

Also a twin here mixed-handed neurodivergent

1st/Type: Nonhuman aro 2nd/Rep: Non-human 3rd/Tarot: Wands 4th/Flag: Lithromanic

I like your redesign. I designed a combination flag for ace & aegoromantic (anegoromantic) since I couldn't find one that I thought fit well:

INTP here (borderline INTJ). I'm ace & anegoromantic. Never thought about the connection before, but it's interesting to consider. The description is pretty spot-on even if the science isn't there to back it up.